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    i've always wondered how the top earners seem to keep their happy go lucky attitude. my biggest challenge is staying positive when i'm stressed. i feel like if i could only keep the positive vibe my earnings would go way.. up. what do you guys do?

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    I'm a top earner at my club, and although I've been known to have a rare depressed and drunk night (once every 2 months maybe) I find that its my coworkers that keep me happy. The staff tip me off about who the big clients are because they know I'll take good care of them, if there are no big clients the boss and his wife feed my ego instead or invite me to drink champagne.

    Sorry, I guess thats not really helpful. But I have found in the past that if your mood is in a downward spiral, to take 5 minutes to go to the DR, freshen up, have a cigarette if you smoke, maybe change your hair or outfit and then return to the floor with refreshed positivity it can make the world of difference. I've even been known to talk to myself in the mirror and do those positive affirmation things. It works a treat.

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    Well, money keeps me happy! ...but when you get down its hard to get out of a rut..so just dont let it happen. If your night starts rough forget it and keep going, just think of the rest of the night and the potential that is every person that walks in. there have been night where you money man doesnt walk in till two hours before close, just be opptimistic and keep your hopes up, keep trying, and itll most likely happen. every night. i have a bad night maybe once every month or two cause no matter what i keep trying!


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    I'm terrible at this. If I'm in a bad mood, I'll pick the least frustrating looking customer and chat with them. Try to stay on the floor and talk to people.

    I hate to sound racist, but I'll usually go up to any white guy I see first because if I'm in a bad mood I want someone who speaks english so I don't have to keep asking "what did you say???" and getting more irritated. I'll also try to find someone who looks smart. I'll pick the uptight business man over the dude with the stained wife-beater and trucker hat yelling at the game on the TV.

    I'll talk to someone who seems interesting and fake-smile a lot and try to close a sale as fast as possible and the second he starts irritating me I walk away. if I can find a guy who's funny and smart who can lift my spirits, even better. I stick with him until he puts me in a good mood and then I go hustle everyone else.

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    Yes, i completely agree with gigi, in general, especially if im in a mood, i will mostly only talk to handsome(ish?) guy, well dressed, polite. I work in a fairly busy club so i can afford to be picky, but this definately help to keep me from getting aggravated by idiotic smelly fat greasy losers!!!! lol i get angry talk ABOUT them let alone TO them, so i avoid them great tip


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    I've mentioned this before in another thread, but you need to pin-point what is causing you to not be happy & work around that.

    - Is money just not in the club? Start looking for someone who is useful to you! i.e. A person who can advise you how to deal with a problem like like what to look for in a C.P.A. or how to invest your money. Look for people who can save you or your friends money. My best friend had a miniature dog that needed to be neutered, & I found a vet who saved her a few hundered dollars as a discount... probably hoping I'd go out with him.

    - Are the club staff not attentive? Bring it to their attention or switch clubs. I get really irritated when people get lazy about their jobs if it costs me money.

    - Are your co-workers putting you in a bad mood? Come in earlier so you don't have to talk to them while getting ready. Avoid using the dressing room by getting a bigger purse for touch-up items, & touch-up in the customer bathroom.

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    Default Re: how to keep a happy go lucky attitude?

    for me its usually things that happen before work then i'm already frustrated. after than i'm on edge an i'm just like fuck not all this ish again. i think i need to create a zone an just get in that zone before work... and try to stay in it during work.

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    Allow yourself to have a bad day. Leave if its really bad. I stay positive by chatting with staff or finding someone I actually want to talk to who is a customer and just chatting without selling for a while to get my mind off things. I allow myself to take breaks when I want them, I stay busy otherwise. I'll tip a coworker I really like, it makes me feel good and karma is awesome!

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    Default Re: how to keep a happy go lucky attitude?

    Sometimes you have to "fake it till you make it!".It can be hard,but try to ACT happy and it can catch on later!Being stressed or frustrated can rub off on your customers and lead to you making less money.Although it sure helps to vent it out,just do it to someone "safe",like a friend.

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    ^^^ I agree with "fake it til you make it". My work persona is not who I am - she's much more of a friendly, happy-go-lucky type of chick than I am IRL. Sometimes it can be a little difficult to "get into character" when I first get to work, but I find that if I paste that smile on my face, it begins to feel more natural after an hour or two. By the third hour or so, stripper-girl has taken over my attitude (usually).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kylea2 View Post
    - Are your co-workers putting you in a bad mood? Come in earlier so you don't have to talk to them while getting ready. Avoid using the dressing room by getting a bigger purse for touch-up items, & touch-up in the customer bathroom
    This is why I get 99% ready at home, especially on weekends when the DR is full of drunk girls. I'm generally very chatty and hang out with lots of girls during the shift, but there's nothing worse than trying to put on your eyeliner or just psych yourself up for a big shift while someone is snapping gum or being drunk and loud. And you can;t escape because you have to hit the floor in 10 minutes and you still haven't done your hair. But I don't mind chatting during the shift or backstage as I can escape if I'm being annoyed.

    Another reason I do this is that I work in a club in the middle of Melbourne, and live in the city. I find I get into work mode better if I'm all done up and wear nice, sexy clothes for my walk to work, and I feel sexy and get lots of attention. As opposed to when I rock up wearing a tracksuit and no make-up.

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    Default Re: how to keep a happy go lucky attitude?

    I've found that my earnings are relatively unaffected by me being happy go lucky or not. I can't pull off the "hi look at at me I'm so cute I shit rainbows". Customers think I'm being fake. You've all seen the Addams Family movie where Wednesday tries to smile right?
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    tempest: do you feel that it works for your because your style is more or less on the goth side? i do have to say that i admire you guys. like your hella unique an yall don't seem to give a fuck if folks care or not. that takes hella confidence. theres not many goth dancers here (hawaii) but every now and then i do see one.

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    The best thing to happen to me as far as work is concerned is Adderall. My doctor finally prescribed it to me for my ADD and asperger traits. It has worked WONDERS. I'm a very awkward, introverted person and it really lifts my mood and get me talking to people. Its helped my money a lot.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bubblebutt8o8 View Post
    tempest: do you feel that it works for your because your style is more or less on the goth side? i do have to say that i admire you guys. like your hella unique an yall don't seem to give a fuck if folks care or not. that takes hella confidence. theres not many goth dancers here (hawaii) but every now and then i do see one.

    Probably....lol. Thanks. I've also found that happy go lucky attitudes and shitting rainbows aren't going to make customers materialize or $100 bills fly out of my asshole. So why pretend? My money is unaffected either way.
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    I fake smile, and go sit with somebody I know will compliment me. After having my ego inflated for a few minutes I'll go for the quickest sale as opposed to the biggest sale. It snaps you right out of your slump.

    Also, if the club isn't busy I go on stage and dance to whatever it is that puts me in a good place.

    If after a few hours you can't snap out of it I would just go home and try again. If your work persona is a happy go lucky gal then you don't want to ruin your reputation in the club. I wouldn't go have a drink or sit in the dr. As much as you like your co-workers the dr can be housing everyone's bad mood.

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