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    Default Re: Seeing someone you know at the club.

    ive heard a few girls have this prob before, most have just hid in the dressing room until that certain person leaves, im currently dancing in the city i grew up in, ive had guys i used to go to high skool with come in the club, im personally not worried tho, i just find it funny.
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    Sooner or later it will happen, no sweat it's just life laugh it off

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    Try to focus on the fact that you probably make twice as much money as they do


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    I honestly wouldn't stress over it. I've worked at 3 clubs in my city and I go to an extremely populous school. I have seen someone I know ONE time in about 6 months, and even then I just ignored them and did my thing. If they went around and told people, I wasn't particularly concerned about it cuz anyone they were gonna tattle about me to wasn't going to be important anyways since all my real friends already know.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Miss_McKenna View Post
    Try to focus on the fact that you probably make twice as much money as they do
    Lol! This definitely helps. Haha. And truth is, I probably make far more than twice as much as they do.

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    There's a girl at my club who used to go sit in the DR whenever someone she knew came in. But one night, the bartender got really mad about it and made the whole table of people leave and then yelled at her to get back out there because she was there to work and he just made 8 customers leave just because she was uncomfortable Jerk - she was perfectly fine just waiting it out, but the staff may sometimes not be ok with that because they're concerned about their tip-out and if you're hiding in the DR, you're not making the money to tip them well.

    Whenever people I know come into the club, I just laugh it off. I'll say hi to them and if they seem uncomfortable, I play around and try to make them laugh at how weird it is to see me at the SC. But if you don't act like it's a big deal, they'll just laugh about it too. After you say hi and establish that it's totally normal that you're there, you can either strategically avoid them the rest of the night, or say something like "Well, I know you're going to come tip me at the stage, right? " If they're not assholes, you can just have fun with it. If you're truly uncomfortable, just act cool and calm and then busy yourself somewhere away from them. You don't even have to say hi if you don't want to - just a little smile and head nod if you actually make eye contact, otherwise you could even just pretend like you don't see them if it's a big club and you can keep busy. I know dancing is something very private for you, but even if you're freaking out on the inside, if you act like it's no biggie on the outside, they should adopt the same attitude and not cause any drama for you.

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    Default Re: Seeing someone you know at the club.

    I was in a simmilar situation. I have a professional job during the day and wanted to moonlight at night for extra cash. It was nerve racking at first but I followed the same advice. Almost everyone I've known that's come in I approach immediately and strike up the obvious. Usually I bring down the tension by bringing up the fact that they have or are soon going to see it all up on stage. 9 times out of ten it's a huge thrill for the guy and the tips are WAY better. It's also a little liberating letting the severer go. It's a bit of a rush for me and have learned to enjoy it!
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    Default Re: Seeing someone you know at the club.

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    How's it gone so far? You hanging in there? Have you been able to avoid people you know?

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    Haha im def bookmarking this for when that day comes Im not too worried about it lol ill be sure to use that line Aurora_Sunset and be sure to laugh it off.. Well we'll see keep us posted if u do Scarlett

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    I seriously was thinking about this earlier today, and using this as a basis for whether or not I should just work in the next biggest city an hour north of me, or stay local. But after giving it much thought, I decided that I could care less - All my close friends already know of my intentions, and I am not ashamed at all - If I do run into someone I know, it would be cool to have them pay to dance with me instead of running into them in a normal club trying to get a dance for free, LOL.

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    I know it's sounds like it would be totally horrifying. And the first time it kind of was. It's become a total turn on for me. Weird isn't it?

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    The chances of it happening are slim....depending on the size of the town you work in.

    On the off chance that someone comes in, if you know them well, I would just hide a little bit.

    If you only vaguely know them, then brazen it out!!! I have point-blank told someone that they have the wrong girl and don't know me. I have even then teased someone about having a crush on the real me, and that seeing as stripper me looked so much like real me, they should take me for a dance as a fantasy about real me.....(complex I know).

    You can always wear a wig too - generally we look so different all dolled up that we are un recognizable...
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    The brazen part is what I'm talking about. Though I just own it. A lot of times it is people who would never have a shot in he'll with me and everyone once in a while it's someone totally hot. Everyones there to have so why not give them a dance. Really what's the big deal?

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    what I am concerned about is my ex stepdad's father's buddies going into the club (one of his buddies is an attorney) either alone or with some work clients or friends and them seeing me. I look totally different than what I look like when I am in full stripper smokey eye make up and red lipstick...but still..there IS that chance that he might not be fooled and run back and tell my ex stepdad's dad. The problem with that is my ex stepdad pays for my college tuition and books, and if he finds out that I dance he will stop supporting me financially for my education. No questions asked. my mom said that if he found out he'd stop helping me because he would look at it as if I am dancing then I should be able to pay for my own college. SO that is what I, PERSONALLY, have to lose.

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    it actually is shockingly underwhelming. years ago, i looked up and realized i was standing next to my college academic advisor. i thought he would be pleased to see me, but he (and i swear to god this is true) started faking an accent, denied his identity, and then disappeared into the champagne room for the rest of the night.

    i made some dancer i'd never seen before a shit ton of money that night.

    but very early on, people i went to high school and college would come in, and they would be very VERY nice, always bought me drinks, and we would often go to breakfast after i got off of work. honestly, seeing people you know in the club is a better connecting tool than facebook.

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    Totally aggree Camille!!!!!
    My first couple of weeks were a little rough just because getting naked in front of a room full of people was so foreign. It took a little while to get used to it but once I was over that hurdle and I became comfortable naked I didn't care who was there, and oh the money!!!! Can we talk about the money! I see people from high school, college, lifetime friends, and what worried me most My real job. Every once in a while you get someone whose immature but for 98% it's a total party. They usually love seeing someone they know and tip better. In my experience it's been rare to go a week without getting to the second song of my set and not see a familiar face in the crowd. Smile single them out and motion them to the stage I promise you won't be disappointed. After your back on the floor sit down and catch up a minute it will go a long way.
    Please keep us posted. your gonna be FINE!!!!

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    if you don't want anyone to find out put on heavy makeup and/or a wig and be good at controlling your facial expressions so when they walk in you're not like

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    this happens at my club all the time. either hang out with the dj or go to the dressing room until the coast is clear. i have been dancing for 3 years and most recently i had an ex boyfriend come into my club and approach me at the stage!!!!!!!!!! i felt like crying. but it all worked out and we laughed about it later.. sadly not everypne is this cool. good luck !
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    I think you would have been surprised at how not a big deal it would have been if you had gone on stage. Its tough

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    Of course it happened. I'm not quite sure why you're looking at this as something to be ashamed of. Its never shameful to have a job and support yourself. If you work anywhere near where you live people are always going to be out and about. Its no reason to go running to the DR in tears hon. You take your clothes off for money. Own that and no one will ever be able to make you uncomfortable about it.

    Half my fathers office walked in one night while I was on stage. I smiled pretty and took all their money. They were happy and so was I. Act like its not a big deal and it won't be.
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    I luv Jay, great advice! I had worked w/someone in a reg. job that I'd worked w/in an sc..this person outed me. You just gotta be prepared for this stuff..


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    Why don't we change the tone? How have you all taking a bad situation running into someone and made it good?

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    You know Scarlet what you're not considering is there may be people who find out that are dying to see what you look like naked! This guy that you do not know well will say something that's a give in. Based on your squeaky clean reputation some people will show up just out of curiosity. But I'm positive if you're not too far out of high school there is gonna to be a group that would have killed to have a chance with you. Now that they are a cover charge away from seeing you and all your glory you can count on them showing up. Now if you keep in mind that 1: you're gonna get all their money and 2: they are there because they WANT to see you naked maybe it won't go so bad.
    That's been my experience.

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    Yikes. I didn't mean to come off like that. Sorry about that scarlet. You're right.

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