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    Duh New Regulat says I love you to me?1?

    We've been talking for a week and he is a very successful business guy that travels a lot that loves to spoil and buy me gifts. So tonight while texting him goodnight his last reply he says "goodnight & love you".

    Should I just act like he never wrote that and text normal tomorrow?
    What if he brings it up?
    I'm in like Wtf mode right now because its only been a week!
    He even has been telling me that he wants me to meet his mom and gma saying that they would love me?!? Lol
    What would you do?
    I don't want to lose him as a customer since he's such a sweet guy and don't want to hurt his feelings as well
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    Default Re: New Regulat says I love you to me?1?

    My french regular says that to my face - I smile and say 'love love' as if I don't really understand. Playing dumb is the best!!!

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    Default Re: New Regulat says I love you to me?1?

    Now he's saying things like

    "Send me a pic of u I'm lonely"

    WTF you know what I look like motherfucker. NO!
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    Default Re: New Regulat says I love you to me?1?

    1) Nay on the pic
    2) Use his love to get you more $$$$

    Sometimes this can be annoying as FUCK when their affection is real, because it's like, if you knew what I really think about you, you wouldn't like me. But just play the game as long as you can and if it gets too creepy or obnoxious tell him you'll have to cut it off. That's pre-stalkerish material.
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    Default Re: New Regulat says I love you to me?1?

    you can always hold it over his head in terms of getting more $$$$ out of him. use it wisely and not all that often

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    if it gets too creepy or obnoxious tell him you'll have to cut it off. That's pre-stalkerish material.
    That's the inherent problem with continuing to 'cultivate' such customers based on a mistaken 'assumption' on the customer's part ( which the dancer doesn't dispel ) that some sort of genuine relationship is being formed between the customer and the dancer. Yes, for a while, this motivates the 'deluded' customer into spending more money on the dancer. But odds are that after some period of time, the 'deluded' customer will no longer accept 'excuses' from the dancer as to why she won't take the 'assumed' genuine relationship to the next level i.e. dating OTC, sex etc.

    At that point, the dancer will either be forced to 'deliver', or be forced to tell the customer that all of his earlier attentions and spending have been nothing but a business transaction. Sometimes the customer will accept this 'truth' like a gentleman. But in many many cases the customer will perceive that he has been 'used' by the dancer ... that he has been the victim of 'false advertising' by the dancer who promised something that she never intended to deliver, etc. ... often leading to a nasty 'moment of truth'. In a few cases, the customer remains upset enough to become problematic outside the club ( i.e. stalking ).

    Personally, I never allowed mistaken customer 'assumptions' about our customer / dancer relationship being anything more than 'strictly business' to persist, because A. I wasn't comfortable using 'false advertising' as a sales tool, and B. I wanted to avoid every possibility of having to deal with stalkers / irate customers outside of the club.

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    Default Re: New Regulat says I love you to me?1?

    I would nip that in the bud. The money he gives you isn't going to mean much when you wake up with him standing over you with a knife.

    I really think it's a bad idea to let him keep going on this way. He's going to think you're comfortable with it. He obviously doesn't get the stripper-customer relationship (which is why I don't text custies) and when you start feeling uncomfy with it which I'm sure is a few more creepy texts away, he might not understand. What if in his feeble little mind, he really thinks you're the one? You don't want to crush somebody, especially not somebody that is mentally unstable and has invested money in to you in things other than lap dances (ie the gifts he's given you).

    Cut off the crazy guy or at least put him in his place for your own personal safety.

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    dont ever let him know where u live, i say go for it n milk him as much as u can
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    ^Yeah well obviously she wouldn't give the guy her address. But if he's telling her he loves her and wants to introduce her to Grandma and the gang after a week, I don't think it's too much of a stretch to think that he would follow her home one day.

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    Default Re: New Regulat says I love you to me?1?

    Tread carefully. I know more than one girl who has had to get a restraining order against a customer.

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    Yes text normal.

    Had a custy say this to me in the VIP while I was giving a dance.

    Just. No.




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    Default Re: New Regulat says I love you to me?1?

    OP, you've fallen off the "business boat".

    Quote Originally Posted by Melonie View Post
    Personally, I never allowed mistaken customer 'assumptions' about our customer / dancer relationship being anything more than 'strictly business' to persist, because A. I wasn't comfortable using 'false advertising' as a sales tool, and B. I wanted to avoid every possibility of having to deal with stalkers / irate customers outside of the club.
    +1 Melonie is on point with this. I 100% agree. I don't let customers get confused about where they stand with me. It's business, it's business, its business... & it always will be. While there are many of them that I like as people, & in other situations maybe would have become involved with, I don't mess with people's emotions. If I don't like you outside the club as a person I walk away, & if I don't like you inside the club I walk away. If I like you as a person but you aren't spending money on me in the club, I STILL walk away. Dancing is something I love, but it's also my income, so I am cautious to make sure I don't do anything that would really risk my income... which messing with people's emotions does do.

    It seems we are getting more & more of these threads lately. Whomever is modding this section should make a sticky about what is appropriate when dealing with customers, particularly outside the club!
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    Default Re: New Regulat says I love you to me?1?

    Quote Originally Posted by Kylea2 View Post
    OP, you've fallen off the "business boat".



    +1 Melonie is on point with this. I 100% agree. I don't let customers get confused about where they stand with me. It's business, it's business, its business... & it always will be. While there are many of them that I like as people, & in other situations maybe would have become involved with, I don't mess with people's emotions. If I don't like you outside the club as a person I walk away, & if I don't like you inside the club I walk away. If I like you as a person but you aren't spending money on me in the club, I STILL walk away. Dancing is something I love, but it's also my income, so I am cautious to make sure I don't do anything that would really risk my income... which messing with people's emotions does do.

    It seems we are getting more & more of these threads lately. Whomever is modding this section should make a sticky about what is appropriate when dealing with customers, particularly outside the club!
    Agreed here as well. Keep it business, as this guy has stalker written all over him. "Milking" him for extra money isn't worth it. Setting him straight may actually help him stay as a regular more often. I dealt with a man like this for years...
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    this is EXACTLY why I don't text customers anymore. more often than not, it gets TOO weird. get outta there before it's too late. fuck the money. this guy's a creep!

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