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  • Hey , Well need Pvt Stimulation. NO BIG DEAL!

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  • If my SO Watched porn , I would feel a little unconformable , But Hey , to each their own!

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Thread: Is Watching Porn Cheating?

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    Default Re: Is Watching Porn Cheating?

    ^ If it's something I enjoy , hell no... If it's something that disturbs or scares me , then it's a very worrying ground... Having worked and participated in the fetish scene for years... I for one ,understand that fetish is more like an addiction .... Forbidding a guy his fetish , is going to cause problems and lies - Either a compromise is needed , and one which can be adhered to , or it's time to go separate ways . Unfortunately for example a lot cross dressing men , try and hide their strange* fetish from their wives, and when they get found out , they promise to 'never ever do it again ' ... However from experiences, I've witnessed that it's really not possible for them to put a cap on it , they grow to hate themselves, and their wives grow to hate them too ...... I'll be the first to agree that lies are no good, but it's hard to change something that makes up who you are .

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    Default Re: Is Watching Porn Cheating?

    It sort of depends on what the fetish is-I can be pretty kinky and adventurous myself! Scat play or bestiality are where I draw the line, and those things would be of concern to me-the former for hygiene/safety reasons and the latter for animal cruelty purposes! Anything else is pretty much relegated to the 'realm of fantasy' IMO, as long as it's safe for everyone involved...I'd only begin to be worried if it crossed into the realm of being truly violent/unhealthy-to me, that would mean that it definitely went deeper than just a sexual thrill (even though most fetishes probably do) and would get into a territory of having a deeper psychological impact that would probably affect other parts of their personality.

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    Me and my ex used to watch porn together and go to strip clubs! He would pay the girls to give me lap dances and do whatever. I don't think it's that big of a deal. I'd rather my man do this than go out there and actually cheat.

    If he becomes obsessed and addicted to it, then you should worry or if he would rather watch porn than have sex with you..somethings wrong.





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    No, but I think they need to discuss watching porn with partner and not keep that hidden. My views on if they watch cam models depends on the situation. If he passes out his number in hopes trying to get the cam model to meet up with him offline in his hopes thinking he can score with one that's for sure temp cheating and if they do meet up for sure that's cheating. If he doesn't try to go meet the cam models offline, I don't see it as cheating but if he lies saying he don't have a girlfriend/wife I see it as cheating.

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    If you watch enough porn, eventually you're going to become desensitized, IMO. I figure camgirls are the next step in that evolution: paying for your own personalized porn. It might be about the connection for some guys, but that's part of the fantasy. And that's totally cool with me.

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    My bf and I both watch porn on our own and together, and I'm totally okay with it. If I wasn't comfortable enough with myself to accept him watching porn, I don't think I'd be in the adult industry.
    Now if he was spending money on camgirls, that would be a different story. At that point I would need to examine why he felt the need to take his money elsewhere when he has an attractive and sexually adventurous girlfriend.
    As for the fetish thing? Depends on what the fetish is. I think if we became sexually incompatible it would probably be time to end the relationship, because sexual incompatibility leads to cheating or turning to the sex industry for release.

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    Most regular (non-porn industry women) do consider it cheating and I never understood why. Atleast he is watching a porno instead of really cheating, you know?

    But no, especially in our line of business, I don't see how anybody could consider their man watching porn cheating. That would be like them telling us that we are cheating because we do camshows. Honestly, unless his dick enters one of another woman's/man's/thing's holes, it's not cheating to me.

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    ^^What if his tongue reaches another female's mouth? What if his hands reach another woman's body? There are more ways than one one to cheat. His di*k is not the only way! If my man was at a SC and got all touchy feely,I'd smack the hell out of him,right in front of her. He better not kiss somebody in the mouth and let me know,not if he wants to wake up the next morning.

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    I voted for this" If my SO Watched porn , I would feel a little unconformable , But Hey , to each their own!"...
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    watching LIVE cam girls? paying for their shows?.... now that would be a big argument...thats like ur 99 % close to real cheating lol....because they have interaction with a real person.
    I dont care if people who see me are in a relationship and yet they still pay for me... thats their business..
    but i dont want my SO to do it....
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    Quote Originally Posted by Caramel69 View Post
    Me and my ex used to watch porn together and go to strip clubs! He would pay the girls to give me lap dances and do whatever. I don't think it's that big of a deal. I'd rather my man do this than go out there and actually cheat.
    no disrespect to u, Caramel, but this sounds to me like u know he was the cheating type.. and I say this because I was saying exactly the same things with I was with my long ago boyfriend... he was cheating with me and without me and sometimes he was dragging me into it convincing me that if i participate too, its ok!
    it was not ok.. thats why im not with him anymore...
    i did not want him to touch other women,, i was doing it just cause he was slick about how he was able to make me believe hes not doing anything bad...
    u know after u are told the same thing over and over.. u start to believe it... its how brain washing works...

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    Quote Originally Posted by That"MODEL"Chick View Post
    ^^What if his tongue reaches another female's mouth? What if his hands reach another woman's body? There are more ways than one one to cheat. His di*k is not the only way! If my man was at a SC and got all touchy feely,I'd smack the hell out of him,right in front of her. He better not kiss somebody in the mouth and let me know,not if he wants to wake up the next morning.
    I agree there too! I didn't add that but yes, touching and kissing would be cheating too. Pretty much anything online I really don't consider cheating as long as he isn't making plans to meet the chick or what not.

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    Default Re: Is Watching Porn Cheating?

    @Buffy - I would find it a sign of a really healthy relationship that the SO tells you of a new fetish they're into. And yeah, you get to decide if it floats your boat or not, but hey, keeping it all out in the open is the way to go.

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    Default Re: Is Watching Porn Cheating?

    Quote Originally Posted by Fridays View Post
    I voted for this" If my SO Watched porn , I would feel a little unconformable , But Hey , to each their own!"...
    My SO does watch porn, without me.... and I watch without him lol...
    sometimes its all about timing...
    but, it does somewhat bother me that he is not telling me he does it, or does not share with me things that he has seen... that makes me believe he is trying to hide it/ and or is not comfortable telling me about it...
    I dont tell him about it either, so i guess we're even...
    I dont think its cheating... cheating is when ur doing it for real with another person...
    but hiding it... is a bit in the dishonesty department...
    thats for the porn movies........
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    watching LIVE cam girls? paying for their shows?.... now that would be a big argument...thats like ur 99 % close to real cheating lol....because they have interaction with a real person.
    I dont care if people who see me are in a relationship and yet they still pay for me... thats their business..
    but i dont want my SO to do it....
    I wouldn't worry too much about him not telling you what he is watching. I don't think he's necessarily trying to hide it, but he probably thinks that would be an odd conversation.

    Him: "Did you have a good night at work?"

    You: "Yeah, what did you end up doing?"

    Him: "Oh, you know, I just spanked it awhile to some threesome-lesbian porn." lol

    I agree with the camming though. Even if the girl isn't in the same room, it's still personal interaction. I feel like if I would consider it cheating if the girl was in the same room, not being touched, but still performing sexual acts for him, then it should be cheating if it's being done over the internet. To you, it's business - to the guy, it isn't.

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    No big deal, watch it with your man. Some women feel insecure about this, I really never saw the big deal and I am a stickler for respect in all areas of how a man treats me...this can be fun watching it together....and then talking dirty to him about it....well, for me atleast.

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    I don't think it's that big of a deal. I'm fine with my BF watching porn because that means I don't have to put out. lol I thinks it's only cheating when a man decides to get on a camsite.

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    Default Re: Is Watching Porn Cheating?

    my man and i both watch porn obsessively

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    Default Re: Is Watching Porn Cheating?

    My ex joined on these sex sites (i.e findafuckbuddy.com, POF.com ) and told me he likes to read the messages and see the pictures they send as its just another form of porn, but more of a thrill.

    I hacked his profile and the prick was messaging them back as well, (these are local women, by the way) giving out his phone number and email addy.

    Even if he had no, intention of meeting them, which is apparent that he would of! I think that it is still cheating in the form of emotional infidelity! What do others think????

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    if he was doing it just for the thrill there would be no need for him to answer. definitely counts as cheating to me!

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    ^^Yep,he's lying,cheating and deserves a beating!

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    My SO has been watching porn our whole relationship. Sometimes it bothers me because he uses porn to replace me. He says its all in my head. I don't care if he watches it, every man does. Getting mad over it is like banging my head on the wall. The thing that bothers me is when he never wants sex with me, because he's already gotten his rocks off to porn while im at work/school. Kinda hurts my feelings and makes me feel ugly.
    Though he'll never admit he watches it everyday. He doesn't know I know where he hides his nut rag everyday!
    :/
    Men. Ugh
    (And yes, I watch porn if he's not in the mood for me. But after I watch it, and got off, it makes me want him even more.)
    I wouldn't mind watching it with him. But he wouldn't do that.

    SO to answer your question. YES, it makes me jealous.
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    Buuuuut its better than him going out getting it from another woman.
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