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    I've strung along a few customers in my day, but I'm feeling guilty about the latest one. He really pissed me off the first time we met by claiming that he would "take care of me" while falling far short of my expectations (I wrote a diva post about this but deleted it after a day). He came in again tonight to see me, so I decided to retaliate by demanding a lot more money from him that he would have otherwise spent under the guise that it was the only way he could prove to me he would be a worthy date. He believed every word of it. I have no intention of seeing him but he seems very vulnerable, and even though I came home with a nice amount of money I'm feeling kind of dirty about it. I told him that I'm busy for the rest of the month but that I'd call after that. Now he wants to keep coming in and spend more money on me but I'm dreading the point where I have to let him down because I think it'll make him even more depressed than he actually is. Have any of you been in a similar situation? As a stripper, I'm disappointed in myself for feeling this way, but as a person, I'm disappointed in myself for leading a super depressed dude on like this.
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    I think you ought to just tell him that you don't date people from the club, apologize for stringing him along, & say that under different circumstances you would have been interested. It sort of lets him down with stroking his ego a bit at the end so it's easier to swallow.
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    Thanks to both of you for your perspectives. I think I'll break it to him the next time he comes in. Luckily, he's very unhappily married so I could say something about how I've thought it over painstakingly but realized I might fall too hard and wouldn't be able to handle being with a man who would never marry me (yeah, the conversation was getting that intense!). What made it so unusual was that he is the stereotypical business man who talks extensively about how he would shower me with money, praise, and jewelry if we ever went out but was super stingy until I demanded specific amounts of money from him. I was expecting just to call his bluff so I was shocked at how much I could get out of him. But yeah, he's still vulnerable so I should stop.

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    yeah, it can suck sometimes. There's a guy who is spending a lot of money on me these days and I'm stringing him along. Every now and then he says "once you leave the city I'm never going to see you again, though". So at least he's smart enough to know the truth. I always tell them that I would love to meet them outside of the club but I can't because other girls are staying at the same hotel and they don't like me and would tell management and I would get fired. It works really well because then they try to tell me different ways I can get around it.
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    I have felt like this before. But if they are coming into a strip club they kinda have to know what to expect. But yeah, I haven't been able to string a guy along for long if I know he's overly emotionally vulnerable. For a bit, sure, but in the long run...the guilt always got to me. Which is a good thing...I don't ever want to become that callous.

    I'd break it to him gently, but would tell him the truth.
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    i also dont string people along because it doesnt sit well with my conscious. its very counter to my nature and despite my other moral gray areas, i wont do things that are completely counter to who i am.

    however, he is unhappily married and sounds like a shmuck. i wouldnt lose sleep over it. if he is married and is trying to date you, its not like he is in the moral right. i wouldnt apologize for stringing him along, i would pull more of the "ohh i totally thought about it but im just too scurred of getting fired for meeting customers outside of work" game. you cant be responsible for other people's mental health.
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    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    ^ Very true.. He is married although "unhappily"... and the place he looks for comfort is a SC?? Puh-leeze...
    There are lots of men that I have felt bad for taking advantage of but none of them had been married or widowers.. Usually they were very withdrawn, socially awkward misfits.
    Take this guy for all he's worth. He has plenty of money to spare

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    Now he wants to keep coming in and spend more money on me but I'm dreading the point
    What snap out of it!

    Actually I'm sort of the same way I can't lie like that to make money but c'mon if the guy has a misconception that you are a stripper and he is a customer I don't have any sympathy for the man.

    I would just be truthful the next few times that he comes in and say (after he spends some money) "I've thought about things and I don't think I can see anyone right now. I hope you understand."

    Little white lies like this are going to be helpful. Seriously you're going to have to back track on this one.




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    maybe im soulless, or maybe its because I am a financial domme, but I have literally bankrupted guys and feel no remorse.

    If you're that fucking dumb to give me all your money and believe that i give a shit, you deserve it. and if I don't take it, some other manipulative girl is going to.

    I dunno I dont get the guilt thing. Good for you for having a conscience though I guess?

    ETA: A LOT of guys I have discovered, especially online, will make up fucked up sob stories just to mess with you and make you feel guilty. they get off on it. Like "oh my mom died and you took all her funeral money from me you ruined my life".... I have literally had guys do shit like that to me online in my early days, and when I admitted to believing them they went "HAHA ur a dumb bitch for believing me and you could have taken my $$" sorry not buying the poor me im so vunerable thing anymore.

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    Quote Originally Posted by trishaxxxo View Post

    ETA: A LOT of guys I have discovered, especially online, will make up fucked up sob stories just to mess with you and make you feel guilty. they get off on it.
    Yeah, either they get off on it or use it to manipulate you into meeting them OTC or into just having sympathy for them so they get attention. Sure, we're the ones getting paid to create fantasies, but don't underestimate the ability of the custy to create false identities and backstories of their own!

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    Quote Originally Posted by trishaxxxo View Post
    maybe im soulless, or maybe its because I am a financial domme, but I have literally bankrupted guys and feel no remorse.

    If you're that fucking dumb to give me all your money and believe that i give a shit, you deserve it. and if I don't take it, some other manipulative girl is going to.

    I dunno I dont get the guilt thing. Good for you for having a conscience though I guess?

    ETA: A LOT of guys I have discovered, especially online, will make up fucked up sob stories just to mess with you and make you feel guilty. they get off on it. Like "oh my mom died and you took all her funeral money from me you ruined my life".... I have literally had guys do shit like that to me online in my early days, and when I admitted to believing them they went "HAHA ur a dumb bitch for believing me and you could have taken my $$" sorry not buying the poor me im so vunerable thing anymore.
    I was also going to say maybe I'm bitch but I wouldn't feel bad about this lol IRL I wouldn't string guys along for money/favors/whatever. But in the club, I guess I assume everyone is out for themselves, including any "vulnerable" customers. I can't tell you how many customers I've had who spent wild amounts of money on me while I told them "maybe some day we'll hang out OTC" and then a couple weeks later, when they didn't get what they wanted, they immediately stopped spending anything on me and proceeded to switch to some other girl. I just can't believe that anyone at the SC really likes one specific dancer that much - I think they just want what they can get, throw money at you hoping it'll happen, and if it doesn't, they'll move on to trying to lure someone else in with their money.

    This guys is a skeezball who's trying to fill the void of his unhappy marriage with cheap hookups. If he was truly looking for a different woman to start a life with, he'd go elsewhere - he's in a SC because he thinks strippers are easy and he doesn't believe he'd ever have to deal with the issue of leaving his wife for one. I say get what you can out of him - you're not going hurt his feelings... just his ego once he realizes he was unable to play you the way he wanted. It's good to have a conscience, just remember that strippers aren't the only ones playing games and making up stories/feelings at the SC

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    It's so sad when guys are that dumb. I mean, really... it's a strip club not at dating network. This guy needs to learn that he's not going to get a girlfriend out of a stripper just by giving her money. It's good that you feel guilty... you're a good person with a heart. But letting him down is just giving him a reality check. Do it nicely, and then stop stressing about it. The guy has his own issues, and he's just bringing them into your world.

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    Don't apologize! Does the tiger apologize to the water buffalo when it kills it? Fuck no! We are predators for a reason and they are prey that insures our survival. Plus any guy who is dumb enough to believe what a stripper says gets what he deserves.
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    Thanks for the responses everyone.

    He totally is a cheating scumbag, and the first night we met he thought he could get me to sleep with him by telling me how much money he has while he quibbled over how many dances we "actually" did. I guess what made me feel shitty about it was that last time I saw him, I consciously decided to be vindictive. I deliberately did and said everything I could to make him give me more money short of promising to sleep with him. Basically, I alternated between building up his ego massively and showing interest in him only to crash him down by saying "and it's too bad you don't respect what I do enough to give me another (x amount of money).. if you did everything could be different." This led to him basically handing over his wallet, opening up to me, tearing up about how unhappy he was with his life, and pleading for me to go out to dinner with him over and over. I was pretty tipsy and didn't recognize how far I took it until afterwards.

    So yeah, I felt pretty evil. I've never hustled out of hatred before this, and it was a little disturbing to see how good it felt and how successful it was. Next time I'll just cut my losses and move on like usual rather than make it my personal mission to get monetary revenge, and I'll just backtrack next time I see him (and of course I'll still try to take all his money, just not in such a misleading way).

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    You have a conscience and that's good. You didn't really do anything wrong, and the fact that you even considered his mental health means you are a good person. He is a cheater and trying to do whatever he can to cheat with you. Don't feel bad. Don't feel anything for him. These guys are sometimes so ugh that you can't let taking the money bother you. For example: I met a guy sat nite that wouldn't get a lapdance because he said another girl would get mad. I talked him into a table while getting him to tell me why? She kept walking by giving me the death glare so I already knew who. Well, apparently she was going to his room after club and he had given her $200 up front and was giving $200 later so they were both keeping tabs on each other. He offered to take me instead and I declined. He wanted to know if I thought he was a bad person. I told him because he was married with kids and about to go bang a stripper didn't make him a bad person. It made him a shitty person to his family. I then explained I'm just a stripper so he shouldn't care what I think, but he should give me $20 bucks and a drink and be sure to use a condom. He gave up the $20 and when she walked by I snatched her and said,"He's been talking about you all nite. He loves you" and walked away.

    This guy has 6 kids and a bipolar wife who won't get treatment and fetal position cries daily. She may be ill, but not too ill to be constantly sexing her since the 6 kids are all under 8. He's just selfish and wants some strange.The guy you are worrying about, however unhappily married he may be, has options and could end that situation if he wanted to. He wants to sleep with you so don't fee bad about taking a his money.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lol1337a View Post
    Thanks for the responses everyone.

    He totally is a cheating scumbag, and the first night we met he thought he could get me to sleep with him by telling me how much money he has while he quibbled over how many dances we "actually" did. I guess what made me feel shitty about it was that last time I saw him, I consciously decided to be vindictive. I deliberately did and said everything I could to make him give me more money short of promising to sleep with him.

    So yeah, I felt pretty evil. I've never hustled out of hatred before this, and it was a little disturbing to see how good it felt and how successful it was.
    Seriously, there is a good chance that this guy PURPOSELY pissed you off and got off on your reaction, it def got you to give him more attention and energy, and as aurora said, he probably does not actually want to hook up with a stripper, it is all a fantasy and he will bounce on to the next girl when he is burnt out on you. FEEL NO GUILT.

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