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    Angry So have you found a job yet...?

    I recently graduated from college and while I'm proud of the fact that I completed a 4-year degree, I really just did it because I knew my family wanted me to. I don't have a specific plan for my degree and am loathe to enter the corporate workforce at the moment. My plan for the next year, since I want to move out of my town in another year, was to just dance/cam to support myself while I figure out where I want to go next. All my friends know I dance but they still constantly ask me, "So, have you found a job yet?" I'm always like "um... I already have a job, remember?" I've even had customers in the club ask me this question, and I just kinda give them this "duh" look and gesture around the club, to which they respond, "No, I mean like a real job."

    It's not like I plan to dance for the rest of my life, but I still was planning to do it for awhile. I make enough to take care of myself and I really don't know what I want to do with my future so this is my best money-making option with plenty of free time to explore my interests. I see nothing wrong with making this my job for the time being. But I guess everyone assumed that stripping was just something I was doing while in college and I would quit to pursue a "real job" when I got that degree. If I was working at a restaurant or even sitting behind a desk for $9/hr, I doubt people would be asking me if I had found a job...

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    Yessss this is EXACTLY what im going through, I just graduated college and I swear everyday someone asks me if Ive found a job and what makes it worse is that nobody knows I dance except for a couple of friends. I just BS and say I'm looking. Some try to offer "advice" by saying that I should just get a job at the mall or whatever even though it has nothing to do with my major..sorry but no I'd much rather dance. I'm also not sure what I want to do but until then I have no problem dancing.
    I say just continue dancing while your still able to do it, especially if your bringing in good $$$, try to save money now while you can and eventually youll figure out what you want to do after this.

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    Imho.... keep stripping, keep making money, and use your spare time to explore what you'd like to do. Could even start up your own business, funded by your dancing. I wouldn't worry about it, as long as you're doing good, you're doing good, keep it simple

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    Coming from someone who has a "job"..... stick with what you like to do and fuck what anyone else says.
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    ^^^ 100% Agree.

    You'll spin your wheels & never get anywhere if your focus is to make other people happy with what YOU do.
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    Default Re: So have you found a job yet...?

    Yep, yep, yep.

    These people do have good intentions, they are most likely concerned with your plans for the long term. However, this is still totally annoying and not helpfull.

    You do you, you are young and you have a degree. You will have lots of opportunities so look into the things that you love and make your plans from there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora_Sunset View Post
    If I was working at a restaurant or even sitting behind a desk for $9/hr, I doubt people would be asking me if I had found a job...
    Nah it'd still happen. I had a friend who worked retail for q bit after college til she was able to land a "real" job and one day a customer made friendly small talk with her at the cash register and when she found out my (young looking) friend was long outta high school she remarked "no college for u?" as if to say that if it were my friend wouldn't be working at just a store. Or another time when a guy we both knew asked her in a disgusted voice why she'd work at Store ABC instead of using her degree to get a real job. Happened to a few people I know, me too once or twice. only for us it wasn't a matter of liking our "for now" jobs and not wanting to dive into the corporate world just yet, it was a matter of having no other choice.

    One time when I was bartending at a ghetto dive bar a reg customer told ne that with my degree, I better make sure I'm using it, and not to waste it on here (the bar). I said "but I HAVE a full time job" at which point he angrily fumed at me, no kidding, "THIS IS NOT A FULL TIME JOB!!" then I explained that by full time job I meant the white collar day job I had, and that this gig was some parttime weekend thing at which point he got majorly relieved. But wtf, what if I wasn't lucky enough to have had that plush day job?...his comment woulda done nothing but made me feel like total shit! For him to assume like that was plain rude.

    Hey atleast at your job your making enough $$ to pay bills and move outta your parents place, more than I could say for my college friends in retail back then

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kylea2 View Post
    ^^^ 100% Agree.

    You'll spin your wheels & never get anywhere if your focus is to make other people happy with what YOU do.
    100% this.

    I spent most of my first decade out of college working for large corporate entities and I hated it. I detested being part of the herd of people filing off of subway and commuter trains and into high rise office buildings every weekday. I loathed all of the other things that went with it, including the pettiness of office dynamics, the CYA politics, the false pleasantries and pointless drivel that people used to interact with each other at office events, the walking on egg shells around old guys with big titles, etc. I was never happier in my professional life when I was able to escape all of that and run my own little ventures.

    Aurora, unless someone is paying your bills then they don't have a say in how you make a living. If you can make good money dancing, then IMHO you should take it for as long as it is on the table. All of the other stuff will still be there 2, 4, or even 10 years from now. And who knows, if you could earn enough for long enough, and apply enough discipline to save a good chunk of it, you might have the freedom to pursue whatever you want down the road and avoid bad job hell altogether.

    Anyway, just my fwiw.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora_Sunset View Post
    I recently graduated from college and while I'm proud of the fact that I completed a 4-year degree, I really just did it because I knew my family wanted me to. I don't have a specific plan for my degree and am loathe to enter the corporate workforce at the moment. My plan for the next year, since I want to move out of my town in another year, was to just dance/cam to support myself while I figure out where I want to go next. All my friends know I dance but they still constantly ask me, "So, have you found a job yet?" I'm always like "um... I already have a job, remember?" I've even had customers in the club ask me this question, and I just kinda give them this "duh" look and gesture around the club, to which they respond, "No, I mean like a real job."

    It's not like I plan to dance for the rest of my life, but I still was planning to do it for awhile. I make enough to take care of myself and I really don't know what I want to do with my future so this is my best money-making option with plenty of free time to explore my interests. I see nothing wrong with making this my job for the time being. But I guess everyone assumed that stripping was just something I was doing while in college and I would quit to pursue a "real job" when I got that degree. If I was working at a restaurant or even sitting behind a desk for $9/hr, I doubt people would be asking me if I had found a job...
    I'm somewhat on the same boat as you. I'm going to be a sophomore in college and right now I'm working two jobs (hostessing & dancing). I have an idea of what I want to do (something in fitness industry) but I also plan on dancing for as long as I want/need to so that I can save up money and still live my life happily and as I choose until I actually start my career. I even want to possibly continue dancing off and on after I've started my career! (it's a good reason to stay in shape and support myself)

    There is NO rush to start your career, and there is NO reason why you should immediately stop dancing and force yourself to begin a career especially if you are not sure what that should do yet! I think as long as you are being smart with your income (not spending all of your money and leaving nothing in savings) then there is nothing wrong with continuing to dance even after college and possibly on through your career.

    Ignore what everyone has to say about not having a "real" job and making you feel like you are wasting your degree. If you're happy and making enough money to support yourself right now then that's all that matters. Don't worry about making use of that degree & starting a career because I bet you will eventually realize what you want to do and when that day comes you will already be financially stable and you're biggest difficulty will just be adjusting from a dancing environment to a "normal job" environment!

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    I tell people I freelance... I really do, but damn for luck in getting clients..and then getting the few clients I have to actually pay! But people love to hear it "oooh shes a business owner!" and people even assume Im racking in mad money if I can afford to freelance without needing another job.

    Interesting fact...I would say about 80% of the time, people dont even ask me what it is I freelance in. Im pretty generic and say design, and most are happy to hear that. I actually cringe to have to tell someone specifically that I do web design, cause then they have an uncle whos cousin owns a laundromat who needs a website. Yay..a new customer who isnt going to pay me and will barter for services. Blah. But anyway, at that rate Ive learned to just tell them I have a 6 month waiting list, or something.

    Yes, I seriously dont want new clients. Id rather spend my time making money, and right now the adult biz is where the money is at.

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    Meh... theyre just haters... People should mind their own damn business. They arent even worth your excuses. Try to not let it get to you.

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