Long story as short as I can make it: My current bf used to be "friends with benefits" with a girl who works part-time at his favorite bar. To the best of my knowledge, she developed stronger feelings and went crazy over it, and things went badly and ended between them before he and I ever started hanging out. When we started dating, she mandated that he was to never bring me into the bar, even when she wasn't working. Like, it's her place or something - and she doesn't want the girl who's dating the guy she likes to be in her place. For awhile, I respected her enough to not go in on the 2 nights a week she works - I figured why rub it in her face? I can be nice. She's probably not as psycho of a bitch as he claims she is... I really did try to respect her feelings to an extent, especially since I met my bf at the club and this girl came in with him once and I met her. I figure, that's gotta be rough - not only does the guy you like end things with you, but now he's dating a hot stripper that you were trying to be cool about a couple months ago? I know that's gotta suck and I know that guys usually exaggerate on how "psycho" ex-girls are...
Well, we go in this past Saturday night, when she's not even there, and my bf was confronted by two of her guy friends. They yelled at him "how dare you bring her in here? Don't you have any respect?" and one of them grabbed him and ripped his shirt all to hell. Wtf!?
She texted him for the next hour "apologizing" by saying she didn't tell them to do that, but still not really apologizing because "she warned him" not to bring me there.
Seriously? Are we in fucking high school? This bitch is almost 30 and her confrontational guy friends have to be well in their 40s or even 50s. I was so shocked when he came around the corner with his shirt ruined and told me what happened that I didn't even really react. I regret it now... I know management took them outside and yelled at them that I'm allowed in there whenever I please and they're on my bf's side... but I feel like I should've marched over there and told them to keep their fucking hands off my bf. I also got pissed that this bitch kept texting him throughout the next couple hours on the matter.
I don't know what to do. On the one hand, I really don't like confrontation. I know the guys were taken care of by management... and I really really never wanted to be one of those girls who takes her bf's phone and starts texting some bitch to lay off her man - but I'm seriously almost to that point. The worst that I thought would happen would be some glares and bitchy comments - not her goons getting physical with my bf! I don't want to cause drama - especially for the nice people who work at the bar... but I don't want to have to avoid forever going to my bf's favorite bar with him because some emotionally upset ex-fuckbuddy thinks it's appropriate to forbid me from ever walking into the bar where she works 2 nights a week. Fuck that noise. I want to put her in her place, either in person or via phone. But I don't want to stoop to her level of psycho drama.... I don't know what to do. I don't know where the line is.
I just want it to be over, one way or another. I hate drama, I hate being ordered around, and I hate worrying what will come next. I just want to end it somehow and get the message across that I'll go wherever I fucking please.



I just want it to be over, one way or another. I hate drama, I hate being ordered around, and I hate worrying what will come next. I just want to end it somehow and get the message across that I'll go wherever I fucking please.
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) and I will be going in even without him to make it clear that I can go in whatever bar I want. The owners and other workers are on my bf's, and consequently, my side. They won't have a problem with me. I just don't want any more physical altercations or late-night bitchy texts blowing up his phone.


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