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    Last night was fairly lame and as I was doing my millionth stroll around the floor, I saw a shiny ring on the ground. I always see crap on the floor and think it's going to be something awesome, and it usually turns out to be a zipper pull, a keyring, or something equally stupid. Well this time, it wasn't... It was a gold ring with the inscription of two names and a wedding date in 1988. My initial reaction was shock. And then, I got pissed. I understand that married men come to the club all the time, who cares. But I just felt such sadness for the sanctity of marriage being cast away just for a little fun and games. Then, I felt evil and thought that I wasn't going to make it so easy for this guy to get his ring back.

    The doorman suggested I keep it and wait to see if someone offered a reward. One of the girls suggested I just handed it over to the manager, so when the man inevitably calls, it will be easily located. I'm not a fan of that idea which is why it's sitting in my bag right now. But I wanted to enlist the opinions of other girls. Should I just hand it back to this dude and admit it's none of my business? Should I profit off it? Or should I just fuck it off either way and send it into Cash4Gold? (lol, I wouldn't really do this, even though the price of gold is skyrocketing! ) So what's the solution? Maybe I'm overthinking it/being a bitch... but I think this guy needs to sweat a little bit and think about his actions... Or maybe in the future not take his damn ring off! As we all know, we prefer married men anyway, they're less inclined to be obsessive.
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    I've lost things, including a wallet with money in it, and have been fortunate enough that a nice person turned it in. I would turn it in to the manager, and not generate the bad karma for myself. All your decisions make you who you are and effect future decisions, no matter how small. I'm beginning to think what people call "bad karma" is actually the influence of these decisions on ourselves.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TcVegas View Post
    I've lost things, including a wallet with money in it, and have been fortunate enough that a nice person turned it in. I would turn it in to the manager, and not generate the bad karma for myself. All your decisions make you who you are and effect future decisions, no matter how small. I'm beginning to think what people call "bad karma" is actually the influence of these decisions on ourselves.
    I guess I just feel like I'm always doing nice things for people and my luck doesn't change.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BunniHops View Post
    I guess I just feel like I'm always doing nice things for people and my luck doesn't change.
    A bit selfish IMHO. Why don't you go to work like everyone else and make the money you need to get what you want. Pawning that ring could very well bring you even MORE bad luck. You shouldn't do things for people expecting anything in return. You should do it because it's the right thing to do. I do what I do for a living but one thing I don't do is take things that aren't mine and profit from it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TouringGirlfriend View Post
    A bit selfish IMHO. Why don't you go to work like everyone else and make the money you need to get what you want. Pawning that ring could very well bring you even MORE bad luck. You shouldn't do things for people expecting anything in return. You should do it because it's the right thing to do. I do what I do for a living but one thing I don't do is take things that aren't mine and profit from it.
    I already said I wouldn't pawn the ring - read closely. However, yes I am being selfish in this situation. Don't tell me what I shouldn't do though, because I am always unselfish in my personal life and I have realized that it gets me mostly nowhere.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BunniHops View Post
    I already said I wouldn't pawn the ring - read closely. However, yes I am being selfish in this situation. Don't tell me what I shouldn't do though, because I am always unselfish in my personal life and I have realized that it gets me mostly nowhere.
    You posted in a public forum then say "Don't tell me what I shouldn't do". If you didn't want opinions .. you should have never posted and kept it to yourself.

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    Just my opinion, but I consider it making a decision for myself, not as a benefit to someone else. I can understand what you say about your luck not getting better, but things can always get worse too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TouringGirlfriend View Post
    You posted in a public forum then say "Don't tell me what I shouldn't do". If you didn't want opinions .. you should have never posted and kept it to yourself.
    I asked what to do in a specific situation, I didn't ask for sweeping generalizations about my morality/life based off one decision. There's an extreme distinction between saying "I think you should give the ring back and not be selfish" and saying "DON'T STEAL OR DO THINGS FOR YOUR OWN BENEFIT." One tone is judgmental, one is solely pertaining to the question at hand... See the difference?
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    Quote Originally Posted by TcVegas View Post
    Just my opinion, but I consider it making a decision for myself, not as a benefit to someone else. I can understand what you say about your luck not getting better, but things can always get worse too.
    This is a positive point of view and you've helped me make my decision. Thank you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BunniHops View Post
    There's an extreme distinction between saying "I think you should give the ring back and not be selfish" and saying "DON'T STEAL OR DO THINGS FOR YOUR OWN BENEFIT." One tone is judgmental, one is solely pertaining to the question at hand... See the difference?
    This is the internet, sweety. You cannot hear my "tone". I pretty much said both. I think you should give the ring back and not being selfish / Work and make the money you need to get what you want instead of gaining from someone else's PAIN. It's a frikkin wedding ring for goodness sake. It's not being judgemental. It's the truth.

    If I found a wedding ring, I'll return it to the person in charge of the club/manager. I know if it were me, I'd want it back.
    Do what you want girl. I just thought you wanted other people's opinions. When someone disagrees here on sw, it's being "judgemental" .. yeah alright .

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    I've found an ipod in the gym before and thought about keeping it for myself but turned it in to the front desk anyway. Then a little while later I ended up losing my bmw car key at the same gym and was freaking out until someone turned it into the front desk. IDK if this is karma or what but I am really grateful no one tried to steal my car!

    But anyway I feel the same way you do about the ring situation...that guy probably deserves to sweat a little but I think you should eventually give it to your manager. Not trying to preach to you or be holy mary over here but it's just what I would do I think. I do get what you're saying though... i probably would hesitate to give it back too at first! (a man taking off his wedding ring and losing it at a strip club is a little different than some lady leaving her ipod in the women's bathroom at the gym... lol!)

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    Quote Originally Posted by 22lligm View Post
    I've found an ipod in the gym before and thought about keeping it for myself but turned it in to the front desk anyway. Then a little while later I ended up losing my bmw car key at the same gym and was freaking out until someone turned it into the front desk. IDK if this is karma or what but I am really grateful no one tried to steal my car!

    But anyway I feel the same way you do about the ring situation...that guy probably deserves to sweat a little but I think you should eventually give it to your manager. Not trying to preach to you or be holy mary over here but it's just what I would do I think. I do get what you're saying though... i probably would hesitate to give it back too at first! (a man taking off his wedding ring and losing it at a strip club is a little different than some lady leaving her ipod in the women's bathroom at the gym... lol!)
    I looked on craigslist to see if anyone had posted it as being lost, since he may not have even realized it was gone until he got home. I assume he put it in his pocket and probably reached his home before seeing it wasn't where he put it. I think it happened like this because if he noticed it was gone when he was in his car he probably would've turned right around and gone to the club looking for it. I think the damage might've already been done for him if he got home and his wife noticed his ring wasn't on, how do you explain that? So we'll see. I'm going to ask my manager if anyone called for it. What a tangled situation. But yeah I do think I'll be screwing my karma up worse if I keep it longer... There's always something I stand to lose.
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    From the business point of view you never know, maybe you or your friend will have this person as a customer, or maybe he will give you a tip for turning it in (but don't count on it). Or, maybe he is scum. Just saying that if this is a business, treat the customer in a way they are more likely to come back. Doesn't seem like a ring makes a difference in a club, so maybe he is new.

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    I would not feel obligated to do any more than turn it in. Don't burn a bunch of your own time. Make him call, come back to pick it up, and maybe get a dance.

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    Yeah it's really not that complicated. Take it to whoever's in charge of the building and say "Hey someone dropped his wedding ring on the ground" and I'm sure he'll get it.

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    I agree-turn it in.

    He could have been a decent dude. Just because he took his ring off doesn't mean he's a douchebag.

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    Wow! Interesting dilemma. I don't believe in karma or superstitions or anything like that. On the other hand, I don't think it's necessary to kind of meddle in someone's relationship. Afterall, the wife is an innocent in this situation who could potentially be hurt by knowing the ring is gone or where it was lost. I'd probably be torn about what to do too...but in the end I'd say, yeah, turn it in.

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    Well? He probably took it off to lie to a dancer of his status...I hate a liar.
    Secondly, he should have known that it was gone before he pulled out the lot.

    I say hold on to the ring until he comes back in and asks. If he asks mgmt, they will in turn ask the girls. And if he comes back, he'd be a prude to not tip you ACCORDINGLY!

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    When I first read the OP, I thought, maybe he lost a little weight, and his ring fell off. Or maybe it did, and he put it in his pocket, and it fell out when he grabbed his phone. You never know. I dunno how cool your manager is, but if it was me, I would turn it in to the manager, and have the manager suggest the customer thank you for your trouble. Its a gamble, but you could gain a lot of respect from the customer. Or he could turn out to be a douche and think you tried to pocket it or something. I once turned in an Iphone I found, and the manager told him who I was an the guy ended up getting a lot of dances from me the next night. He was happy that I was "honest" (his word), and turned it in.

    I guess think about it this way, if you went into a male strip club, lost your engagement or wedding ring, what would be your ideal outcome?

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    Take it to the police station & leave a note with BOTH the manager & the front desk. On the note say which station you took it to, a contact name at the police station, their phone number, your stage name at the club & when you tend to work (so he can bring you in a tip if he wants).

    I don't see any reason to make it any tougher on this person. He's probably already really worried, & his wife probably already realizes he lost it. Regardless of if he took it off to lie to a dancer or not, you don't know that for a fact... nor do you know the motivation for it. She could be a terrible woman for all we know & cheating on him too! It wouldn't be the first time one spouse cheats on another to "get even". She might even have passed away & he keeps it for sentimental reasons but takes it off when he thinks he may meet someone new. WE DON'T KNOW. Just try to keep your personal thoughts out of it & do the right thing.

    I wouldn't turn it into management either... sadly that just means tempting others to consider things like pawning it too.

    Finally, it's would be easier for him to pick it up at a police station than the club if he had to deal with a wife who already knew it was missing.
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    It's not about "Karma" or "superstitions". It's about doing the right thing/not being that desperate to take someone else's wedding ring.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kylea2 View Post
    Take it to the police station & leave a note with BOTH the manager & the front desk. On the note say which station you took it to, a contact name at the police station, their phone number, your stage name at the club & when you tend to work (so he can bring you in a tip if he wants).
    Yeah this is a great idea! And I don't know how it works where you live but in Canada if you turn something in to the police and it's not claimed within a certain period of time then you are contacted to come pick it up and you get to keep it!

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    I agree-turn it in.

    He could have been a decent dude. Just because he took his ring off doesn't mean he's a douchebag.
    This. Who cares why he took his ring off? You don't know him or his personal life and there's no need for you to try and fuck with this guy.
    Seriously, I wear my grandmother's old wedding ring and in the summer months it's SUPER tight... but on cool spring days like today... I could shake my hand and it would fall right off without me noticing a thing. Sometimes people just LOSE shit... and it's really troubling to me that someone would want to "punish" or fuck with me over losing a wedding ring because they've decided it means I'm some shitbag person.
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    I agree that you should give it to either the club owner or the cops. He might not have meant to toss the ring out...it could have fallen out of his pocket or something. Yeah, sure, he's a douche for taking his ring off at the club--and a moron for thinking that strippers care whether or not a guy is married, and that he might get some action if the girls think he's single--but I doubt this was an intentional disposal. If he really meant to get rid of it, he probably would have put it in the trash or flushed it or something.

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    I understand what you are saying because I think many married men who come into strip clubs are often scum. However, we don't know this particular situation. Maybe his wife just died or maybe he's going through a divorce or maybe he was just with a group of friends. We don't even know if he's even married! Maybe the ring isn't even his ring.

    However, even if he's a douche, still doesn't give you the right to keep the ring. I always turn in things I find. I found a credit card at my last job and turned it in. I have had people return things to me, like once I lost my drivers license at school. I look at would I like to have something returned? Yep.

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