I've gotta admit, I've come a LONG way from the shy, quiet, prudish little girl I was when I started dancing 7 months ago. A LOT of it is thanks to THIS FORUM!
But I still have a LONG way to go.
One thing I've learned is, if a guy wants to occupy my time without getting a dance or a private suite, it's OK for me to expect him to PAY FOR THAT TIME. I've been told over and over again that my time is money and I deserve to be paid for it. I believe this. I have no trouble accepting this as FACT.
BUT, I don't know how to COME OUT AND ASK FOR THE MONEY. I just don't know how to comfortably and confidently ask a man to PAY FOR MY TIME.
I'll be sitting with a guy... about 1 song has gone by... we're wrapped up in a great conversation and he likes me and wants me to stay... but he's already turned me down for a dance... or he just wants to have a drink with me... How do I ask him to pay for my time without coming across as a royal fucking bitch??? I just don't know how to do it!!!
This inability to demand what is rightfully mine is seriously crippling me at work. I end up throwing my whole night away with one time-waster after another.
The only time I ever get paid to waste my time with a guy is if HE kindly offers to tip me while I'm sitting there. And even then, it'll be $20 here and there. My time is worth more than that. I just don't know how to say so outloud. I guess I'm afraid I'll just piss him off and blow any chance of making money off him for the rest of the night.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.



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and she told me that asking for what I need/want whether it be at work or other aspects of my life, it is healthy for my self-esteem, even if I get rejected. It establishes a pattern of stating your needs and desires or something?





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