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    Mind Blowing I think I'm falling in love w/ a female customer!

    First off, this is my first post here on SW. I've been reading for awhile, but just registered today. What a great site for dancers to share experiences!

    OK, here goes - I've only been dancing for about 8 months, and it's been quite a learning experience. I've made pretty much all of the newbie mistakes a dancer can make, including drinking WAY too much while working and leaving my purse unattended out on the floor. Both are stupid, I know. No excuses offered - I just learn from my mistakes and try to move on.

    I'm 22yo, and while I'm pretty much grossed out by the old guys that come in (they seem to be the bulk of the customers here), I deal with them as best I can to make my money. Nost customers here are decent, tho. Right now I'm working mostly days, since I have school at night.


    Then, one rainy day, SHE walked in - on a slow weekday afternoon. She looks to be in her late thirties or early forties. Just adorable and spends alot of money when she's here. She is very popular with the other dancers, and seems to not have a favorite. I've always considered myself bi, but didn't ever expect to run into something like this! She's charming her way right into my heart, and I can't stop thinking about her. I know that when it comes right down to it, it doesn't really matter if its a man or woman - falling for a customer is killing my hustle and just making me CRAZY.

    And I thnk she's married, too. Sheesh!


    I tried searching SW for any threads dealing with this, but really couldn't find anything that would help.

    Short of changing clubs, which I don't want to do (LA is the kind of place once you find a decent club you stick with it) - any advice for dealing with my irrational emotions? Should I tell her? What's the worst that could happen? (uh oh - don't answer that!)

    Thanx to you ladies for any insight you can give me .

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    she sounds lovely. women with money, praise the lord.

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    Default Re: I think I'm falling in love w/ a female customer!

    i am really impulsive when it comes to women, i would've had sex with her by now.

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    Default Re: I think I'm falling in love w/ a female customer!

    Maybe it's our own darling lopaw. I think she's in L.A.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    Maybe it's our own darling lopaw. I think she's in L.A.
    who is lopaw?

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    Female member on here who an avid SC customer.^



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    Default Re: I think I'm falling in love w/ a female customer!

    Can you tell us more about her?

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    I wish more of my female custies were steady regulars with lots of money. I would go for it if I had those feelings for 1, but I generally don't have that issue with falling for them as they show up I seduce them & their boyfriends never let them come back to my club lol

    I do tend to have problems falling for other dancers I work & play with over time when feeling are there cuz it's real hard to make money when you find yourself getting jealous & not wanting her to see you dance w/ yr regulars ect..ect, but crushes are good you have another reason to go to work that turns you on then more power to you.

    I say go for it, or if she is taken or not feeling the same find out & let it go move on to some1 who can return your feelings in ways that won't hurt your wallet.

    I often go to other sc's, but while most dancers adore me (as a good custie ) & many find me sexy (try to rape me lol) there was only 1 lesbian dancer I would of considered dating knowing her only as her customer. Unfortunately her ex gf put a rock on it that is unreal in the bling department & she was actually there waiting for her gf while I took her 4 dances where she gave me a few free dances & we were fooling around like crazy. Now i could see myself fall 4 her & us having something real intense, but I don't want to as her regular or anything so I never went back to gold rush to find her & if i ever bump into her after she is over her ex wiffie well then 4 sure I'ld date her. I just didn't want to be mixed up in a rebound/customer type of mess, but omg she was the hotness with the sweetness that I go for & total gf /wiffie material. Just I would of had to work 3 month everyday to even put down on a rock that competed, but 4 a girl like her it soo would be worth it 2 me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sananeko View Post
    Can you tell us more about her?
    well I've been dancing for her for about 4 months. She works nearby and stops in every week or two, usually in the late afternoon. She gets dances from alot of the girls, but I've been trying to become her "only one" for the last 2 months. I also know that she goes to other clubs, and I can feel myself starting to get too possessive of her. It really messes up my ability to make money when all I do is stare at her from across the room waiting for my "turn" to spend time with her. Grrrr!

    It totally sucks. She has everything I'm looking for - physically, emotionally, philosophically & financially. Our dances really push the envelope in terms of what I can get away with in VIP, and I know it's just a matter of time before we're gonna go too far (and me get fired!).
    She is awesome to hang out & talk with, but I know that I'm probably just one of many to her. Shit. Why did this have to happen ?

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    this is just the worst! isn't it?

    Quote Originally Posted by UV69 View Post
    do tend to have problems falling for other dancers I work & play with over time when feeling are there cuz it's real hard to make money when you find yourself getting jealous & not wanting her to see you dance w/ yr regulars ect..ect, but crushes are good you have another reason to go to work that turns you on then more power to you.

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    perhaps if you meet her outside the club and fuck, it'll get the tension out of your system?

    i'm a terrible person to give advice like this, i'm really impressed that you've had the self-control to not do her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by camille27 View Post
    this is just the worst! isn't it?
    It soo is the worst becuz I know she knows the score & my game is a such an act, but I hate being that way with her (it feels fake & just wrong) especially becuz part of me wants to tell her that the times we hooked up wasn't about the money (as that was just a perk & excuse I used as part of the job), but really how do I say that & get her to believe any of it when she watches me make money & play the game flirting with/messing around with other guys & girls all the time in her face like nothing.

    I'm not even sure I can handle working at the same club w/her as my gf if we were to hookup, but I find myself going thur the jealousy & wanting her just the same thinking it's really crappy I never asked her out on a real date but I hooked up w/ her at work cuz some custie of mine wanted to pay to watch us--which of course was all my fault & doing-(he spend the money on us 2 turn me on or so is how i conned him into it) - which I used to do with coworkers all the time no issue, but I really really like this girl in a not just my hot coworker/lover way.

    She isn't my usual type (she's totally hott-but in more of a badass not in the goth/barbie way I go 4) & I waited till after her 21th bday to even fool around w/ her, but unfortunately when I did it felt alot more intense 4 me then it should have & so I feel all this sexual chemistry & other feelings that have grown out of nowhere that I really don't want to have for a coworker. She just brokeup with her boyfriend & I know she dates butch girls like me (I've always thought she likes me)--but I just feel so guilty about how we hooked up & soo weird about us working together , my age, ect..ect that I just hold it all back partly hoping we will be left alone in the backroom & just go at it or that desire will just fade cuz I can't fix the mess of it with us working together I just can't see it as a good thing 4 a possible relationship between us--even if no1 would be more understanding of each others money making it's just too much to see & have part of a relationship, I started dancing w/ an ex gf of mine & dated alot of dancers, but I never liked having to watch or be a part of each other's game. I rather my gf call me & tell me about it or let me know what she wants when she gets home, but the whole front row seat thing just doesn't work with me. Not out of insecurity or not understanding or not being open minded, but fuck I'm there 2 make money & wanting to be the person all over her watching some1 else or being flirty with some1 else while feeling like that just gets in the way. Plus my club is so small & rumors go by so fast I think if management notices it get in the way of either of us making money as the top girls well I'll have my boss up my ass about anything I want to do with her & I have enough of them trying to micro manage me without them switch my schedule up or fining me for hooking up with her.

    It's a big mess I'm so trying to avoid, but every time she hits the stage or comes around me if I'm not running from it it's soo obvious I like her way 2 much.
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    hmmm just the kind of story i like, so damn exciting, i say go for it, let her know how u feel, if u're too shy u can try and show her u're into her for real and don't see her like an ATM machine (even though u sure want money from her when in the club).
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    Thanx for the advice everyone.

    I checked out some of the posts from 'lopaw' and I'm a little freaked out. There seems to be alot of coincidence there. What are the odds that she is the woman I'm talking about? I have no idea if I should PM her or not. I don't want to freak her out or have her think I'm a psycho stalker or something!

    Can customers read this section of the forum? OMG I feel like a complete junior high school retard right now

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    ^Aw! Yep, baby girl, they can.

    I believe Lopaw has already scene this thread as well. But you seem harmless - I doubt she's freaked, maybe a little flattered. I also doubt very much that she's your mystery crush. What are the odds of that?

    I guess send her a message?

    No worries, people come here and confess MUCH more private/embarrassing/childish stuff that this. You're tame compared to many!



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    I just got a PM from someone telling me that a link to this thread was posted in a customer section (?) but I couldn't find anything. I looked in Customer Conversation but didn't see anything. Could it have been taken down?

    Why would someone post my link in a customer section?

    Sorry for the hysterics but this is uncharted waters for me and I'm a bit flustered by this whole thing.

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    Aw honey you remind me of me when I met my first serious girlfriend! She was a customer in the club. We ended up dating and living together for two and a half years.
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    omg noelle!!! details =D

    i am also in favor of you pming lopaw and then pasting your interactions here so we can all share in the excitement of your crush.

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    Quote Originally Posted by noelle View Post
    Aw honey you remind me of me when I met my first serious girlfriend! She was a customer in the club. We ended up dating and living together for two and a half years.
    wow what a very nice story,,,thanx for sharing

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    Quote Originally Posted by noelle View Post
    Aw honey you remind me of me when I met my first serious girlfriend! She was a customer in the club. We ended up dating and living together for two and a half years.

    Wow - I can only hope that my situation turns out as well!

    You ladies have inspired me to send a PM. Like 4everresolutions said, chances are slim to none that its even her, but I just gotta know!

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    I was wondering if it was lopaw too. How crazy if it turned out to be her.
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    so is it Lopaw ????

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    Quote Originally Posted by cheetah15 View Post
    so is it Lopaw ????
    I sent her a PM last night. I told her basically who i am , and now I'm waiting for her reply. She posted something in the customer section yesterday (I'm a stalker!) I hope she's not too freaked out to read my PM!

    Ill post as soon as I hear anything....

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    Awww....can't wait to see wat happens....

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    OMFG.

    lopaw just replied.....and I'm freaking out.


    It's her.


    For her to find out this way - I don't know if I should be completely horrifed or totally relieved. I guess I'm kinda numb right now. She had seen this thread thru a link that used to be on the customer side, and she wondered about it too (I guess a mod took that link down?). I still can't believe this. What are the odds? I should go out and buy a lottery ticket.

    Where to go from here - I don't know. Now she knows how I feel, and the next time I see her it could be really awkward. It really depends on her now. She didn't seem too freaked out, but reading online is one thing - when I see her in person it could be another story. We have a "date" to meet tomorrow (outside of the club) to talk.

    Sorry to bring my drama in here ladies....but I think I'm in way over my head on this one .

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