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    So, I have had one too many guys lick/kiss my breasts while giving a lap dance. Immediately after the gross man has done said deed, I have sternly told them “no” and then went on to tell them if they do it again I will end the dance. I work in a fully nude/high contact club and have found that at least one guy a day has to try this on me when I rub my boobies in their face.

    What do you ladies do to squash the possibility of them doing something physically that you do not want them to do before a dance? I am not keen on having a “you can’t touch this, do that or yadda yadda yadda” speech before getting down and dancing for them but I will if I have to. Please help, my boobies are in need

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    Actually i find the little speech works wonders. I tell them "you can touch my boobs, my butt, mess up my hair, it's all good. But I do not allow anyone to touch me in the thong area or hurt me in any way."

    I would keep it simple and less than 30 seconds. Pick out the one or two things you really hate and/or find it impossible to avoid. For example, I don't kiss either, but it is easy for me to avoid that, so I don't bother to mention it.

    Another strategy, for a while some of us were using dog-repellent spray on our boobs to discourage mouth contact. You know, the stuff you might spray on your dog if he had a bandage on his leg or something and you wanted to keep him from chewing it. It tastes bitter as hell. Lots of amusement value when you watch the faces they make.


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    I don't really say anything unless they do it. Then I'm stern and I say "Don't do that!" or "Bad boy!" (lol... straight and to the point) and firmly move their hand away if they're touching me, or keep my boobs away from their mouth. I hate losing money from someone just because they're stupid enough to touch me, so I try not to stop dancing unless they're *really* being a dick and breaking rules. Keeping them pushed back against the chair, holding their hands, or making them sit on their hands/put them behind the chair can help a lot. In my experience, firmly reprimanding someone (and/or threatening that they'll be kicked out if they break the rules) will usually make them stop.

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    I work in a venue where dances can be anything from non-contact strip shows to high-milage lapdances, and I absolutely lay down the law before getting started.

    - As Colleen mentioned, I also keep my pre-prepared speech simple and under 30 seconds.
    -When I talk about touching I specify that it's an additional, non-negotiable $ amount and that it involves hands only. No tongues, no lips, etc.
    -When I explain what is allowed prior to the dance I actually touch myself in the spots I'm talking about to illustrate what I mean and drive the point home. I make a bit of a sexy act about it so it seems less like a lecture and more like a prelude to something fun.
    - I get the customer to verbally agree with me that he understands, so if he crosses the line I can ask him to leave with little to no argument.
    - If they seem to be pushing the limits (flicking their tongue at me, 'almost' touching a no-no spot, etc) I remind them that's not what "we" agreed to.

    I'm always flirty yet firm when I set boundaries, I don't want to ruin the mood but I also want them to know I'm serious.

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    I have a quote on my website that is what I say to customers I suspect will be a problem. Before the dance I'll say "Before we get started, there's no licking, kissing, sucking or f***king. You just sit back to enjoy, & let me do all the work." [Followed with a naughty look/grin]
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    My best friend in LV had huuuuge fake boobs guys were always trying to grope, kiss or lick. So she started putting deodorant on them. It dries the guys' mouths out like hell and they hate it. When they complained, she would shrug and say "Fake boobs taste like plastic."

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    Use deodorant or antibacterial hand stuff in the often violated area. If someone has trouble understanding the pre dance speech they will understand that taste and be deterred.
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    ^ thats a fabulous idea. gonna use that one

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    I've mentioned this on another thread that I have at times used the "Bitter Apple" products on the nipples as a deterrent to keep customers from doing anything. It's often used to keep kids from sucking their thumbs, but it works for this too. Here are some of my previous posts about it:

    http://forum.stripperweb.com/search....archid=2074536

    I do strongly prefer the "Bitter Apple" products over the latex, which can clog the pores.

    P.S. The Blues & customers whine about this because it takes some of their fun away, but my opinion is that they shouldn't be doing it in the first place.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BringOnTheMen View Post
    Yes, but you have to deal with letting them suck on your nipple the first time, which is beyond my comfort level. I like to hold my hands over my boobs and play with them-it's exciting to him, but he can't reach the. I also do not space out while giving dances, this is just asking for them to suck you.
    Exactly. The deterrent only works once they've actually made contact with their mouth.

    I'll often do a "test" move, where I lean in close with my boobs while very carefully watching. You can usually tell right away if a guy is going in with the intention of licking, and then tell them in a cute but firm way that it is not allowed.

    It can be really frustrating when you see other dancers allowing it , but stick to your rules. Sure, you might lose a few dance sales, but it's worth your sanity to avoid those few pigs who insist on trying to get their mouths on anything they can.

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    when I sit them down I test the waters like Sia. If they're sitting nicely with their hands at their sides and don't touch me at all I'll start dancing. If they do touch me I say "you can touch anywhere you want but nowhere pink. No nipples, no pussy. You can grab my boobs just no tweaking or pinching... they're really sensitive!" if they put up a fuss I say something like "thank you for respecting my boundaries".

    I have cut dances before. I still charge for the whole song though. If I say no and they do it anyway they still have to pay.
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    I like the nowhere pink description. It is exactly what I was trying to figure out how to say. Much better than, you can touch my boobs but not my nipples" which almost soesnt make any sense.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Sia View Post
    Exactly. The deterrent only works once they've actually made contact with their mouth. .
    Did you see my first post on this thread? It's not like I didn't warn them in advance.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kylea2 View Post
    Did you see my first post on this thread? It's not like I didn't warn them in advance.
    Yeah, I actually really enjoyed your line that you gave and I'll probably use it in the future..... thank you.

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    ahh yes, the test move. always. if they seem like they don't understand that $20 buys a dance and nothing else, they can watch me from two feet away. it baffles me, this idea of licking a stranger. how fucking weird are men?


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    Exactly. The deterrent only works once they've actually made contact with their mouth.

    I'll often do a "test" move, where I lean in close with my boobs while very carefully watching. You can usually tell right away if a guy is going in with the intention of licking, and then tell them in a cute but firm way that it is not allowed.

    It can be really frustrating when you see other dancers allowing it , but stick to your rules. Sure, you might lose a few dance sales, but it's worth your sanity to avoid those few pigs who insist on trying to get their mouths on anything they can.

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    Not as weird as the ones that want to lick my shoes. I am a weirdo magnet, for sure!


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    I would stand up, turn around to face him, yell "Bad Doggy!!", and then dance for a second in front of him - no contact - and tell him if he wanted a good dance he better be good.

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    if I'm getting a weird vibe from the guy I'll say to him "so my rules for contact are suuuper easy. You ready? Nowhere pink, no licking, sucking or kissing" or "nowhere pink no mouth contact" depending on him. That's my full speech.

    but oddly enough, it was a CUSTOMER who said "nowhere pink" the first time. And that's when it all kind of came together.
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    My nipples are brown

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    say there is no involvement of saliva allowed. the word saliva sounds gross. i guess guys don't realize how gross it is. i want to say "nowhere pink" too but my nipples are reddish lol

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    Mine are purplish lol ! such variation!

    Thanks to everyone on this thread, I'm not a stripper I'm a naked masseuse with a 'happy ending' but in this way it is very similar. I get guys trying to grab me, kiss, lick me etc all the time. I'm really uncomfortable with it. If I was comfortable with them slobbering all over me, prodding etc I'd be an escort and make a hell of a lot more money (-: but we can't help what we are not comfortable with and where our boundaries lie.

    I have always tried to think of a way to tell customers beforehand without spoiling the atmosphere but now I'm going to take the advice on here and modify it a little to suit massage then tell them sweetly but firmly first. Perhaps I should change the topic after I have said 'the speech' by asking if they would like a drink of water etc, or do they like my sexy outfit etc so I'm not starting the session off on a "do not" vibe.

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    yeah after I give them an idea of my speech like, if they seem down about part of it I'll be like, you're more than welcome to grab my boobs though. They're fabulous, I highly recommend them!

    if you don't want guys touching you at all though you can say "you can't touch me. But you can watch ME touch ME!"
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    ^^^ I love that.
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    You ladies are nothing short of fabulous. Thanks for the ideas!

    For my shift today I just got over my anti-speech hurdle and I did start off with a little “no where pink speech” and it was enough to deter everyone but one gentlemen who didn’t know a lick of English. I just firmly moved his hands, said “no” and made an angry eyebrow face then carried on. He got the hint!

    Note to self: slather boobies in nasty tasting stuff. Hand sanitizer here I come

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