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    Default Extremely worried about a friend!

    We have known each other for around two months and have kicked around the idea of dating. he gets super excited when I text or call, so I dont think hes avoiding me specifically, but he just vanished about a week ago! Vanished from the website we met on, no texts, doesnt answer his phone, nothing.

    Now why Im worried. he was depressed and lonely last time we spoke. Really acted down. Said he was just lonely and missing his daughter who was sick and missed last months week long visit (he is a really involved dad and his whole world stops when he gets her). After that he was in a serious car accident and broke 6 ribs....and he cant take painkillers for it because he had an addiction back 15 yrs ago, so he was drinking to help deal with it. he was also really bumbed because he loves to rough house with his friends kids and realized he couldnt at a bonfire, he was devastated that it was gonna be 6-8 weeks before he could go back to normal life.....sorry for babbling there are just numerous reasons Im concerned and I have no clue what to do. We arent close enough for it to be appropriate for me to just drop by his place or anything like that.
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

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    Default Re: Extremely worried about a friend!

    Did you leave a voicemail? If you are really worried, call non stop let him know you are worried. He could just be drunk off his ass, just not wanting to communicate.. Is the type who would harm himself? If you think so, dropping by wouldnt hurt at all.

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    Default Re: Extremely worried about a friend!

    This one's a tough one from my end. I've experienced the bad news. My mom didnt answer for two days her emails while overseas. We talked daily more than once it wasnt like her at all. It ate at me. Then an aunt i never see came from out of town and just showed up. I knew it right then. My mom died overseas.
    That's one hell of a worse case scenerio. Don't freak out. You'll get this crazy gut instinct feeling- or atleast I did. People who are depressed can hide out for a while until they feel better. I would't worry right now. Just breathe, focus on other things.
    Do you know his friends? Call them. Does he live in an apt? Call the manager. Is his phone off or just not answering?

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    I didnt leave a vm, but I emailed. got no response. I dont know if he is the type to harm himself. I really didnt think so, but with everything going on lately, I just dunno. The only other time weve not spoken for a few days was when he was in the hospital after the wreck. he went from super happy and pervy to scary sounding depressed over a few days. hes also a really active poster on Fetlife and hasnt been on there either.

    The last time we spoke I got him to perk up before we hung up and he seemed really excited to have me call the next day, just like always. hes also got a wedding this Wed or Thurs and is getting his daughter, so Id think hed be happy and excited.

    Oh and hes probably even more upset because he does construction and cant work till hes healed.....Worrying sucks!
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

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    Default Re: Extremely worried about a friend!

    Is there a mutual friend who you could ask to go check on him? If not, if you've talked about dating, even if you've only known him a couple months, I would say you're close enough to stop by if he's gone completely incommunicado. People can't just fall off the face of the earth and then get mad if someone who cares about them comes looking. I would go check on him.

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    Default Re: Extremely worried about a friend!

    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora_Sunset View Post
    Is there a mutual friend who you could ask to go check on him? If not, if you've talked about dating, even if you've only known him a couple months, I would say you're close enough to stop by if he's gone completely incommunicado. People can't just fall off the face of the earth and then get mad if someone who cares about them comes looking. I would go check on him.
    No mutual friends, we met on Fetlife. Yea, we talked about dating, he definitely wants to and I have been invited to call/text as often as I like. Until he vanished we were on the phone like 3-5 hrs a day.
    Last edited by princessjas; 06-07-2011 at 09:28 AM.
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

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    Ok, I was right to be worried. he had another concussion, 2 in 3 weeks! Walking and stepped out of the way of a truck, slipped in some mud and fell over a rocky cliff. Sent me a pic of his head just now! Owwie!!
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

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    Oh man, that sucks. 2 quick concussions like that can be real bad. Hope he is OK. Is it the guy from Sutton?
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    ^ I hope he's OK too. So - have you talked to him now.? Can you go over and meet him and see if you can help him out....or is that too much too soon..?

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    No mutual friends, we met on Fetlife.
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    Quote Originally Posted by fast tan77 View Post
    Oh man, that sucks. 2 quick concussions like that can be real bad. Hope he is OK. Is it the guy from Sutton?
    Yup it is.

    Quote Originally Posted by pussyinboots View Post
    ^ I hope he's OK too. So - have you talked to him now.? Can you go over and meet him and see if you can help him out....or is that too much too soon..?



    Great Site babe..
    Too far a drive (about an hr and a half) and my son has school tomorrow. Plus hes getting his daughter in a day or so and is usually cleaning like mad preparing for the baby. Might make a trip after his week with her.
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

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    Default Re: Extremely worried about a friend!

    Well glad that turned out ok. Well, except for the concussion part. I was going to suggest calling the none emergency number for the PD in his town, or SD if rural. You can ask them for a health and welfare check on a person if you are worried.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ArmySGT. View Post
    Well glad that turned out ok. Well, except for the concussion part. I was going to suggest calling the none emergency number for the PD in his town, or SD if rural. You can ask them for a health and welfare check on a person if you are worried.
    I dunno why, but Im guessing that would end anything between us real fast! hes a nice guy and all, but hes pretty alternative in his look.....and cops arent real friendly to people like that. he was actually a cover model for a tatto mag a few yrs ago and is pretty badass looking. got rid of the mohawk and facial piercings when his daughter was born, but still.....

    And for those of you thinking this is not my normal type, I know, but for some reason we get along amazingly well. lol Im a bit more soccer mom than his normal type too! lol
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

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