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    Default Feelin' a bit weird..

    I had my first day on one of those cam sites. Up until now, I've been doing skype shows with people I know.

    However, what really got to me were the people in chat. I had a lot of people in my room at one point, and it was nice, and I made a nice amount today... but a few customers started talking to me about life things in general, and said they were having fun, expected me to do well/become a top earner (I know they 100% say this to all the girls though), blah blah blah... I have no problem with that, but what really threw me off was after talking for some time I got the whole "you're really intelligent, what the hell are you doing on this site?" after reading my profile.

    It kind of got me thinking a bit, and after I finished up and logged off, I started having a weird feeling of shame. I don't know what it is, but those convos really made me feel guilty about myself, and I don't know how else to describe it, but "dirty".

    Has anyone felt like this before? I never got these kind of feelings with the Skype shows... but having 50 guys descend in my room on my first day got me freaking paranoid :S Then I hear horror stories about how there's people pirating these private chats, etc...

    Any advice? I'm not really sure how to deal with it at this point...

    Also, a side question: I keep getting guys giving me their Skype -- is this legit, or will this get you kicked off of MFC?

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    When i first started and every once in a while I get the "Why do this" question. And honestly it doesn't matter to them, they just want to know why they cant make money wanking lol. Its bothering you because you feel bad about what your doing and you shouldn't. Most of the girls here are very intelligent, Most have degrees or are in school. Lots of savvy business women some I'd have to say are even marketing geniuses. You chose to cam, don't let anyone make you feel bad for it. So your in good company.

    @ skype requests from MFC
    Its not against the rules but from what i've read most of the girls dont bother with it (do a search) It seems most of those guys are looking for freebies or extra cheap shows ...

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    Dont let those guys get you down... I get it a lot, I guess because of the way I type and speak, I hear it all the time "I can tell youre educated, why are you on cam?" I just say thanks and move it along.... For one Im not educated, I just play one on TV And for two, I do what I do cause I want to. But Im not going to get in a pissing war over a white knight who "means well" but says all the things that would make any girl second guess herself...

    And dont ever let them do that to you. Most of them are annoyed they arent women and cant come close to making money on cam like we can... Power of the pussy, dont let them take that away from you!

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    Default Re: Feelin' a bit weird..

    Quote Originally Posted by Mistress Anika View Post
    @ skype requests from MFC
    Its not against the rules but from what i've read most of the girls dont bother with it (do a search) It seems most of those guys are looking for freebies or extra cheap shows ...
    Tis true...99.9999999% of the time these guys just want a way to annoy the piss out of you with cam requests for free...

    On a side note...Annika?! Is that you?!!! Long time no seee!!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlkSharpie View Post
    On a side note...Annika?! Is that you?!!! Long time no seee!!!!
    I dont think i am ;/ ... well i am me but probably not who you think i am lol

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    Tell them "You seem intelligent so why aren't you out in the real world with a real woman instead of paying to watch me?"

    Those guys can do one. I know there are girls who cam that are smart enough to be in Mensa. We all have our reasons for doing this and why is being overtly sexual only associated with dumb girls? I'll tell you why because so many men are misogynists, afraid of intelligence that girls dumb themselves down or infantilize themselves to win them over and get their "man".

    Using sexuality for profit is not stupid, nor is being openly sexual for the entertainment of others "dirty". You should be proud of yourself for earning money in whatever way you feel comfortable doing. If being seen by lots of guys is the issue that is something different altogether because that comes with the territory of pro camming, but morally they have nothing on you hun.

    Sexuality is beautiful and earning a living through sexual performance is an art form if you want it to be and are good at it. But at the very least it is a service that is needed whether people like it or not and I am pleased to be of help to some of the lonelier men I meet. It's like the whole argument of criminalizing escorts patrons as often escorts are supporting disabled customers.

    In my opinion everyone has a right to be sexual and if they are unable to find a partner who is supportive and helps them express their sexuality in a conventional relationship, why shouldnt they be allowed to seek out a professional to service this natural, human desire? Sex industry workers should be proud of themselves if they are happy in what they do. No one has the right to question our career choice as to be perfectly blunt it is none of their goddamn business!

    *Gets off soapbox*

    Sorry I get a bit ranty sometimes lol!

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    Awe! Its cool Anika, Im still happy to see you, even though I dont know you afterall

    Thats a good line London! Im going to have to remember that one

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    Don't stress about it. When I was first starting out, I had guys ask me that...some of the guys also want you to feel bad about what you are doing, and are actually mysogynists, many of whom will never go private. Don't be afraid to ban them, if they continue asking the same questions....and chin up, you're just starting, it gets better.

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    if you're on MFC, being intelligent is worth more than being able to shove a dildo up your ass.
    When I say intelligent, I don't mean you have an amazingly high IQ and should be at an ivy league school (all though this person would probably make money too), but intelligent enough to carry a conversation.

    Use your brain to make money too, not just your looks. It's almost like a psychological game on MFC. If you see the top mfc girls, they spend A LOT of time just sitting around and talking and joking around with the guys. Some are not even that gorgeous but they have loyal customers who enjoy hanging out with them as well as jacking off.

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    Yeah, thats another thing...I dont give two shits what a guy says/thinks/feels if he cant even make my time worth it and take me into private.

    Cant stand guys sitting in my free chat making their penniless observations...

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    You should never feel ashamed for doing webcam. If you DO, you shouldn't be working in this industry, IMO.

    I think the guys who make comments like that are misogynistic and a bit jealous. They think there is something inherently wrong with a woman being sexual and enjoying it, especially for money, and that "intelligent" or "nice" girls wouldn't do things like that. Basically they want a girl who is pure and virginal. At the same time, they're pissed off that they can't make $50+ an hour jerking off in front of the computer so they make us feel bad for being able to do it.

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    When they say that, it's more about them than it is about you. It implies that they think camming is wrong, and therefore something women only do when they have no choice. But that's a very specific sort of guy, a guy with hang-ups about the fact he's sitting there jerking off to your pussy. Guys like that usually resolve that guilt by being misogynist (all camgirls are whores and therefore inhuman) or a white knight (all camgirls are victims so the decision to cam is not their fault). It's just someone who can't wrap his mind around the idea of a woman being both an object of desire and a fully developed human being. Whatever it is, it's his shit, not yours.

    And if I'm bored or motivated, I'll usually say something to that effect because I don't have a lot patience for someone else's guilt and all the little neuroses that come with it. But usually I just laugh.

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    @tifanny, grow a thicker skin and brush it off...
    pretend u did not see certain comments they make...
    HUSSLE # 1 rule.. no matter what they say... U say and do what U are there for...
    "Why is the sky blue?"
    "I dunno .. what? where.. Hey , lets go private Im freaking horny as hell..."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fridays View Post
    "Why is the sky blue?"
    "I dunno .. what? where.. Hey , lets go private Im freaking horny as hell..."

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    I get the same thing LOL...

    I always tell them - well you are right - I am intelligent and then I proceed to provve a sneaky point by talking them into buying videos or a cam show.

    Point proven. They ALL want you to do well - maybe because later they can say I HAVE BEEN AROUND SINCE DAY 1 - and then they think they are entitled to something free. LOL.

    Business Goal - make $ and do what you have to - to make it.. The sky is the limit with these guys. You usually know within 5 minutes if they will give you money and if they aren't going to give it to you now they could do it later or not at all...

    Keep on truckin'.

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    If that is the worst thing someone says to you on cam, count yourself lucky Try not to take anything the guys say too seriously. Who cares what they think!

    Cheers!

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    Default What she said.

    Quote Originally Posted by Smurfette View Post
    You should never feel ashamed for doing webcam. If you DO, you shouldn't be working in this industry, IMO.
    This.

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    You girls are the best!

    I gave it a couple days before I decided to take things in to my own hands... I took a lot of the advice in here, and I have to say -- it's really helped a lot.

    I rearranged my room, bought a wig, experimented with some stuff, and found a nifty little thing called Many Cam and blurred out my eyes in private shows, and adjusted the cam in private shows to not show my face.

    I felt so much better, and a lot more confident on cam. People seemed to respond really well to it, too...
    Last edited by tiffanyjo; 06-10-2011 at 03:50 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tiffanyjo View Post
    You girls are the best!

    I gave it a couple days before I decided to take things in to my own hands... I took a lot of the advice in here, and I have to say -- it's really helped a lot.

    I rearranged my room, bought a wig, experimented with some stuff, and found a nifty little thing called Many Cam and blurred out my eyes in private shows, and adjusted the cam in private shows to not show my face.

    I felt so much better, and a lot more confident on cam. People seemed to respond really well to it, too...
    TiffanyJo, you look so adorable with your wig on!

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    That was exactly my thought too! Adorable! I really like it, its very sexy and I can even tell your whole facial expression and probably the way you act and everything changes when you have the wig on too....

    The difference between your brunette and blonde self is a lot! I like the brunette you a whole lot too though

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    yeah very beautiful as a brunette

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    Q:"you're really intelligent, what the hell are you doing on this site?"
    A: Mixing money with pleasure, lucky me
    Done.

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    Peeping back in to say...btw you have amazing eyes!!!!

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    You look very very cute with the wig, but if you're concerned about privacy you might want to delete those pics. This board unfortunately has a huge amount of guys peeking in at our posts and google also picks up posts here. There is no privacy at all.

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