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    Duh The Bittersweets of Logging On...

    Lately I have been having a serious problem with logging on. I am a perfectionist procrastinator. I get anxiety over logging in because all I think about is my hair and makeup begin perfect, showing confidence, and having that sex appeal to draw guys into private.

    Once I get over this big hump and actually log in, I don't want to log off because of all the damn attention I get.

    This is a vicious cycle for me because when I log off and come back to reality. When I try to psych myself to log back in, I think about all the money/compliments etc. that I receive. But I still find myself dealing with the anxiety of not being "perfect" enough for the guys to spend money.

    What are some of your hangups when it comes to logging in?

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    I realized this a few weeks ago. Recognizing that I am taking way too much time getting ready has helped me so much. I've simplified my makeup routine and cut down a lot on the time.

    Also I find that when I don't feel like it if I just make myself get on for like 15 minutes and tell myself I can take a break after that sometimes I stay on. Getting started is the hardest part.

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    Default Re: The Bittersweets of Logging On...

    I feel like this all the time. I feel like if I'm not at my peak of hotness, I will make no money and just sit there for free. I know it's not true but I definitely get anxiety over it.
    I do the same thing as Laurie, I tell myself just to get on for 15 minutes, and I rarely decide to log off after that. Once I'm on, I'm fine.
    I also try to listen to music that makes me feel sexy while I'm getting ready, and it kinda pumps me up to log on

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    I am a perfectionist procrastinator too!! In every aspect of life, it sucks! You're not alone!

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    Just remember, you earn the same amount as people in a full hour work day in 1 or 2 hours. This is how I look at it and it gets me energized to get on cam.

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    I appreciate this thread...Im such a procrastinator...

    Ill...shower, get ready, decide I need a soda but I dont keep soda in the house, so Ill get dressed, go to the convenience store, get my soda, come home, check SW, other forums, facebook, email, finish soda, get ready for cam, realize Im hungry, get dressed, go back out and get something to eat, come home, eat, check SW other forums, facebook, email finish lunch, get ready for cam, realize Im out of cigarettes.... (you see where this is going right??)

    The 15minute thing is a good idea really...like, okay 15m *then* Ill go get my soda...and I may find I dont really want a soda at all. Just me procrastinating...which is highly probable considering the whole reason I dont keep soda in the house is cause I dont want any!!!

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    I am the same exact way WITH EVERYTHING.
    If i can't do something 101% perfect, i just won't do it. Even if I'm just considering it! I over-read, over analysis everything about it to the point that I end up psyching myself out.

    I did the same thing when i did cam and i'm doing it once again now that I'm considering going back. I can't bring myself to push 'log on" until i know its going to be perfect.

    I guess its one of those evil personality quirks.
    Better known as... DirtyLittleSecret.

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    Don't feel too bad Sharpie. I think we all may have been there!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlkSharpie View Post
    I appreciate this thread...Im such a procrastinator...

    Ill...shower, get ready, decide I need a soda but I dont keep soda in the house, so Ill get dressed, go to the convenience store, get my soda, come home, check SW, other forums, facebook, email, finish soda, get ready for cam, realize Im hungry, get dressed, go back out and get something to eat, come home, eat, check SW other forums, facebook, email finish lunch, get ready for cam, realize Im out of cigarettes.... (you see where this is going right??)

    The 15minute thing is a good idea really...like, okay 15m *then* Ill go get my soda...and I may find I dont really want a soda at all. Just me procrastinating...which is highly probable considering the whole reason I dont keep soda in the house is cause I dont want any!!!
    Lol, this reminds me so much of myself. Especially the convenient store + soda distraction.

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    I find it really hard to get back on cam and into my regular hours when i come back of a holiday or when i have taken, say, more than one day off!! I always worry that i'm not going to have a good day and have then wasted my time getting on - but in reality it never turns out like that thank god .

    I also try to remind myself just how lucky i am, i gave up my regular job 2 and a half years ago because i realised i was making more in a day than i did in a week in my 'normal' job, i can set my own hours, i dont have some bitchy boss making me do boring shit jobs, i can give myself the things i want that would take me ages to save up for if i was just doing an everyday office job Most important of all, i know that if i dont make the effort to get on and make money - noone else is going to do it for me and i will sit on the sofa in the evening and be REALLY pissed off with myself for not forcing myself to get on x

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    Default Re: The Bittersweets of Logging On...

    I can be a procrastinator. However, I have found that if it's so hard for me to log on I'm either suffering from burnout or I've lost my passion for whatever it is. It's how I realized I had fell out of love with camming.

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    I usually logon in my bathrobe and see who bites...

    I dont like getting all sexy and then get no attention from that.

    I have made more money with some bedhead and a bathrobe and slippers rather than getting sexy and cute

    If I don't get any biters...I check in a few hours and repeat..If not - back to bed. LOL

    I'll get cute on Sundays normally though - because that's the banging day.

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    I usually get on cam in the mornings between 7am and 11am Eastern time. So I'll get up get my coffee and take a Hydroxycut for energy(I'm also trying to lose weight) I usually feel like death 1st thing in the morning but once I get going I'm ok. It seems like once I get my makeup on I start feeling more into it.

    I have a problem with overthinking things. Being simple is better. I had a couple of times when I had planned to cam and I did not due to feeling depressed over some shit my husband had said to me during a fight. I let his stupid crap overshadow my goals, then that made me more depressed because I didn't work as planned.

    I must be weird, but I have learned in just these 2 weeks I have been camming that I'm my happiest on the days I work on cam.....I am down when I can't get on. I must be an attention seeker or moneygrubber....I don't know which one it is... ha,ha!

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    I have always dreaded going to work wether it be the retail hell of the past or now as a cammer. Altough, I do not go crazy about makeup, outfit, etc, anymore all that crap and I will tell you why.

    It is very wierd, but I would be dressed all glam, hour for hair/makeup, hot outfit, etc and then I log on and make JACK SHIT!

    Then I log on the next day with little preperation, little to no makeup, hair back and sport bra on and BANK!

    I won't say I have given up on my beauty routine, but I go on cam completely makeup=less for the most part and MEN do not notice the difference (either that or they like me with minimal makeup) I have noticed when I go GLAM it just doesnt fit me. I have always been a hippie at heart!

    Do some experimenting with your routine. I have done alot of experiments. For a week straight I showed only my FEET on my free cam, I made the same amount of money that I would showing previews and face!

    And don't stress about makeup, it is pointless to spend 2 hours doing your makeup when you could have gotten on cam, made money, and been done in those two hours! Guys like you for you and not your makeup.

    This is a job but it can be fun. Play with your routine. Try things that may not be comfortable for you (dare ya to go on cam with no makeup one of these days) and watch in awe as your cam earnings remain the same if not increase!

    I am totally 100% a disgruntled cammer though, I log in only for the financial benefits, I could care less about what the customers may think of me or my look, and I dont mean that in a rude way as I still give great customer service. I am not on cam for attention from men, I am here for money, and seriously, you should not log onto cam for the ATTENTION period, all of these guys give you the WRONG kind of attention. MONEY! Thats it for me!

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    ^^^ this! x

    The main thing for me that makes me slow to log on is if I have had a bad day/night the last time I logged on. Financially I mean. One night a couple of weeks ago I made £15 (around 25 usd) for 3 HOURS of gruelling free chat. At least that was after the site's cut, but the heating bill to heat my room enough to lounge around in lingerie for 3 hours is around £2. So I was working my ass off for well well under minimum wage. I couldn't go on again for another 4 days as I couldn't face another 3 hours ending up like that, but actually I'm just shooting myself in the foot by losing even more money . grrrr.

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    I sometimes get like this. Between fixing my hair, makeup, finding the right outfit, setting up my must haves, and getting comfortable, I may dread doing all that just to start camming. So what helps me is to try not to have the tv on, stripperweb lol, twitter, or anything else until I am fully ready. If I STILL don't get on then it's tough love time. I say to myself "Bitch get your ass on cam! You know you need that money!" hahaah and that works. I am about to do that right now!

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    Quote Originally Posted by cyberstripper View Post
    And don't stress about makeup, it is pointless to spend 2 hours doing your makeup when you could have gotten on cam, made money, and been done in those two hours! Guys like you for you and not your makeup.
    check some before and after pics of celebrities... if the general public would like them " no matter what" they would not go crazy with the make-up... but they do..

    take all the top models on site. Im not sure if u can find 2 that go 100 % natural

    Take LadyGaga for example.. if it would not be for her makeup and enhanced appearance, she would not be gazillionare right now...

    Im a make-up fan.. can u tell

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    Its really easy lol, just think of things you wanna buy and say him ill pay for this in just 2 hours camming usually a shopping list in my mind keeps me working toward my goal, I on the other hand wear no makeup do no style my hair only then a good brush and grab something to throw on after a shower takes me 5 mins after the shower to jump on cam
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    ^^ditto!!

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    It would really help me to stay logged on, if I actually had some traffic today o_O
    Taking a break from all unproductive shit will prove to be the best choice you can make.

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    me too! I waste soo much time getting ready, telling myself I need to get all the chores done, run all the errands, watch another tv show, etc before I log on that I end up not logging on at all! I need to get my ass on cam. I am just going to not even think about it and just go in the bedroom and log on and make money!

    Quote Originally Posted by BlkSharpie View Post
    I appreciate this thread...Im such a procrastinator...

    Ill...shower, get ready, decide I need a soda but I dont keep soda in the house, so Ill get dressed, go to the convenience store, get my soda, come home, check SW, other forums, facebook, email, finish soda, get ready for cam, realize Im hungry, get dressed, go back out and get something to eat, come home, eat, check SW other forums, facebook, email finish lunch, get ready for cam, realize Im out of cigarettes.... (you see where this is going right??)

    The 15minute thing is a good idea really...like, okay 15m *then* Ill go get my soda...and I may find I dont really want a soda at all. Just me procrastinating...which is highly probable considering the whole reason I dont keep soda in the house is cause I dont want any!!!
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