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    Been a dancer for years. Not a fan of clothing in the house. My going out clothes are like club clothing, daisy dukes, halter tops, super short dresses etc etc. Oh yea my boots he haaaaates my boots! Calls them "hooker boots". I love them!
    Long story short. He's a country boy. I was born and raised a city girl. He's always telling me to cover up- but i look cute! He knew how i dressed when i met him. Now suddenly cares. Its not like I will meet his mom in my regular clothes.
    Sooooo wtf is the big deal here? Its hot, im cute, and feel confident in my clothes

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    Default Re: Apparently I dress like a whore per my bf

    Post some pics, so we can decide if you look like a "whore" - start with the super short dresses and hooker boots.
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    Default Re: Apparently I dress like a whore per my bf

    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    Post some pics, so we can decide if you look like a "whore" - start with the super short dresses and hooker boots.
    The man has a point.

    They way you've described is not how I'd choose to dress, nor would I feel comfortable if my woman was galavanting around in it all day. That being said, if YOU think you look cute, then who is he to tell you what to do? And if he tries, and it makes you feel uncomfortable... why are you giving him the gift of your time? He sounds like a sweet boy who just doesn't understand your style, and it's gnawing on him. Tell him to get over it, or that's that. Dress how you want to dress, and date people who can respect that.

    .... I dunno if that made sense.

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    Default Re: Apparently I dress like a whore per my bf

    your boyfriend called you a whore and he's still your boyfriend? i'm not understanding.


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    do this. bra or braless depending on your average day.

    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    Post some pics, so we can decide if you look like a "whore" - start with the super short dresses and hooker boots.

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    Default Re: Apparently I dress like a whore per my bf

    whatever... find a bf who is more secure with taste hehehe. I just say that because I dress like a skank and my husband encourages it. Of course like you, I believe in a time and a place I wouldnt dress like that in front of his parents or at an inappropriate time. I guess if you really like him though maybe you can just tone it down a little. Maybe he can take you shopping and pay for this new wardrobe!

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    Default Re: Apparently I dress like a whore per my bf

    Quit dating assholes.
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    Its called jealousy. He's concerned other men might be looking at you, & could try stealing you away. Also a bit of "caveman" syndrome if you ask me. If he's like this, chances are things between you two won't work... I would advise you to start seeing other people.
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    Default Re: Apparently I dress like a whore per my bf

    There's two issues here....

    1-He might be right, based on your self-description of how you go out. Going out as you described on occasion is fine. ALL the time? Hmmmm...seems a little over the top.

    2-HOWEVER...if he actually said "you dress like a whore" then I'd seriously re-consider if you need to be with him. A guy who supposedly has feelings for you shouldn't be saying something like that, unless he was in jest. There are nicer ways to suggest that you tone it down than insulting you in such a manner.

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    assuming that is you in your avi, i would not wear much clothing either (and i don't really, because i am feeling myself way too much and my body is the business.)

    i am confused by the mentality on this board that seems to think that men aren't replaceable. my dears, they are so incredibly replaceable, it's a little strange for me to understand why any woman would keep a dude around if he wasn't doing anything but enriching her life. is being told you dress like a whore enriching? no? tell that dude to move it to the left.

    also, post photos so we can have a better understanding of the situation at hand.

    Quote Originally Posted by NikoWhite View Post
    Been a dancer for years. Not a fan of clothing in the house. My going out clothes are like club clothing, daisy dukes, halter tops, super short dresses etc etc. Oh yea my boots he haaaaates my boots! Calls them "hooker boots". I love them!
    Long story short. He's a country boy. I was born and raised a city girl. He's always telling me to cover up- but i look cute! He knew how i dressed when i met him. Now suddenly cares. Its not like I will meet his mom in my regular clothes.
    Sooooo wtf is the big deal here? Its hot, im cute, and feel confident in my clothes

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    Default Re: Apparently I dress like a whore per my bf

    My bf likes my skank clothes ... if you look hot in your mini dresses and daisy dukes, he should feel lucky to be with you, and when guys check you out, he should give them the "yeah, that's my girl" look. You're young ... don't dress like a nun just because your boyfriend doesn't like your clothes. You can dress like a nun when you're old.

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    Default Re: Apparently I dress like a whore per my bf

    I agree -some pics do need to be posted so ppl can accurately gauge.

    He should watch the way he talks to you & let you be yourself -but at the same time, perhaps you are going over the top? Don't know -pics needed. But hey, dress how you feel most comfortable, just realize that not everyone will like it especially a bf. Sux, I know.

    I used to have the same issue when I was younger, now I'm older & just don't wanna dress that way any longer. oh well

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    Quote Originally Posted by camille27 View Post
    assuming that is you in your avi, i would not wear much clothing either (and i don't really, because i am feeling myself way too much and my body is the business.)

    i am confused by the mentality on this board that seems to think that men aren't replaceable. my dears, they are so incredibly replaceable, it's a little strange for me to understand why any woman would keep a dude around if he wasn't doing anything but enriching her life. is being told you dress like a whore enriching? no? tell that dude to move it to the left.

    also, post photos so we can have a better understanding of the situation at hand.
    I'm sometimes a traitor to my own gender on here, but the part I've bolded in your post is so damned true. I'm continually amazed at the morons that I see girls going out with, and the shit they'll put up with.

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    Well, that's not my personal style. I think there is a classy and sophisticated way to be devastatingly sexy. Like it or not, the way you dress sends strong signals out about you (regardless of whether or not they're true). If you're dressing like a hooker, well...people will make certain assumptions.

    With that said, if this guy isn't comfortable with your "style" and you're unwilling to make any concessions... then you two should part ways. It sounds like there are some big fundamental differences between you two.

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    Tell him to suck it.

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    Watch that show" what not to wear"...

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    Quote Originally Posted by camille27 View Post
    your boyfriend called you a whore and he's still your boyfriend? i'm not understanding.
    ^^^ What she said.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NikoWhite View Post
    Been a dancer for years. Not a fan of clothing in the house. My going out clothes are like club clothing, daisy dukes, halter tops, super short dresses etc etc. Oh yea my boots he haaaaates my boots! Calls them "hooker boots". I love them!
    Long story short. He's a country boy. I was born and raised a city girl. He's always telling me to cover up- but i look cute! He knew how i dressed when i met him. Now suddenly cares. Its not like I will meet his mom in my regular clothes.
    Sooooo wtf is the big deal here? Its hot, im cute, and feel confident in my clothes
    Please can you post some piccies hun....

    Just out of interest - did he actually make any suggestions as to what he thinks is more suitable for him/you....? If he didn't then he's way out of order in my opinion. Well, calling you a whore is way out of order - period.
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    Post some pics, so we can have a better idea.

    It really does depend a lot on the "norms" and "standards" of where you live. Will other people around you think you look like a "whore"? Will they judge you as a "skank" because of how you dress?

    Maybe public condemnation doesn't bother you, but he may be more sensitive to public opinion. For example, it may really bother him that family, friends or other people are saying mean things about you. I'm not saying either of you is wrong and right.

    So, how about them pics?
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    Maybe you are actually dressing inappropriately at times. Clothing style should fit the time and place. He didn't just make a tactful suggestion there though. The way he said it is repulsive to me.

    I probably could never forgive a man who spoke to me in that manner. Honestly, he sounds like a real asshole.

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    i'm asking for pictures because i suspect you are easy on the eyes.

    i have a special disdain for the words whore/skank/slut...the only reason these words are ever used is to attempt to lower the self-esteem of another. you can dress however the fuck you want whenever you please, and if someone does it like it, they are free to avert their eyes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NikoWhite View Post
    He knew how i dressed when i met him. Now suddenly cares.
    he's young & insecure. he may or may not be a dick, but he does need to grow up to realize that it generally doesn't matter how someone dresses in their personal life. if you love him, tell him to grow up and deal with it. if not, move on to someone more mature.
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    I used to have a self-proclaimed pair of "hooker boots" that I wore allll the time in high school - I loved them! Then I started dating a guy who told me he didn't like how whore-ish they were and basically "forbid" me from wearing them anymore. Stupidly, I listened. I regret to this day that I let him command my wardrobe. I still wish I could go back and tell him off... Don't let anybody tell you what you can or cannot wear. Trying to control your wardrobe is one of many signs of an abusive and controlling bf. What next? He starts telling you he doesn't like the caliber of your friends and he doesn't want you hanging out with them anymore?

    Plus, I've only dated one guy my entire life who wore clothes that I always liked - most dress more sloppily than I would like on styles that don't flatter their cute aspects at all - and I've never tried to change the way my men dress so I think they can stfu about what I wear...

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    My ex-wife used to ask me to dress "nice" and bought me Ralph Lauren shirts to wear, because she didn't like my no-brand shirts.

    She got me to dress more yuppy and upscale -- Brooks Brothers, Burberry, Ralph Lauren, Tommy Hilfiger... My outlet store/discount store wardrobe was not good enough for her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by laurielegs View Post
    Maybe you are actually dressing inappropriately at times. Clothing style should fit the time and place. He didn't just make a tactful suggestion there though. The way he said it is repulsive to me.

    I probably could never forgive a man who spoke to me in that manner. Honestly, he sounds like a real asshole.
    Yeah, there's a difference between being like, "We're going out to a really nice restaurant tonight, so can you wear something a little more formal?" and, "Go cover up, you look like a whore."

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