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    I just got back from my floor trial at LUSH. I feel like I fucking bombed it. I aced the group interview, but when I got on that floor I feel like I sucked. Why is it that I can sell my naked ass to men, but can't seem to sell some wonderful products that I'm super passionate about to people? I don't think they're going to call me back. And I didn't even get an interview for the tea place I applied to, when my cover letter very clearly and honestly stated that I know tea, love tea, am passionate about tea, have a history with tea, and I think that giving a person a cup of tea is a really wonderful gift. Instead they hire ditsy bitches who call oolong an herbal.

    I'm trying to leave the adult industries for a few months to attempt to keep a regular, minimum wage summer job. If it works, it works, if it doesn't... it doesn't. IT'S NOT WORKING. I have sent out 1400000 applications.

    I grew up achieving everything I ever wanted. Anything I tried, I was good at. I was spoiled, I suppose, because now I am losing crappy retail jobs to some really ridiculous creatures. Is it a lack of experience? the only work experience I have is in office management and customer service, not retail. I used to earn 18 dollars an hour and run an OFFICE, now I can't even get a job that pays 8.

    I know, I know. I shouldn't be down on myself, I should stop criticizing other people, I should suck it up, I should be nice... I am nice, god damnit. I'm just having a moment.

    ..... I hope everyone else screws up massively and they hire me because I screwed up least. I love LUSH to a ridiculous extent.

    Advice? Words of kindness? Just... help. I feel like I just stabbed myself in the tummy with a cucumber or something.

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    Te economy has everything so messed up right now. It's like if you are a lway abiding citizen, you are fucked. Makes me wanna go out and do something bad...smdh.

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    Makes me want to.... I dunno..... take my clothes off for money.

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    So sorry to hear this I can feel you though...

    I dont know how many applications I sent out over the course of 6mths last year..before I gave up and went for a restaurant industry job. More than anything, I wanted to get out of the house and be around people for a change...make some money, do something I know Im good at and love...seemed like a great idea... but no one would hire me.

    I think that a lot of why they hire the ditzy, know nothings is cause they dont have to pay them for their experience...and/or they are afraid if you find a job that pays more esp since youre definitely qualified, that youll ditch them.

    I was so down about it for awhile there, even looking at my portfolio and decided maybe Im not as good as I think I am if no one wants to hire me...but Im sure if I had kept looking something would have come up. Still...I can totally see how and why its so freaking hard to get a job nowadays.

    The stress of trying to find a job is actually worse than the stress of not having one!

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    It's definately rough out there, I am feeling it too. Trying to find something steady in addition to my wah stuf.
    I do applaud you though I won't even attempt group interviews myself!
    &, you know what else? Some places are acting like b/c economy/job situaton is so bad, it's ok to treat people like shit, besides paying next to nothing!
    I mean, sometimes, I see the exact same ads over & over, like really? What happened to the last bunch you hired?


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    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    It's definately rough out there, I am feeling it too. Trying to find something steady in addition to my wah stuf.
    I do applaud you though I won't even attempt group interviews myself!
    &, you know what else? Some places are acting like b/c economy/job situaton is so bad, it's ok to treat people like shit, besides paying next to nothing!
    I mean, sometimes, I see the exact same ads over & over, like really? What happened to the last bunch you hired?
    Ive wondered that too....though I get the feeling they are actually just scouts or agencies cause Ive gotten lots of spam emails and calls. Not even for anything good...like $8/hr office jobs....

    Last I sent my resume out was just before the end of the year, and I still get calls and emails from headhunters. What a pain!

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    You'll get called back eventually by someone, if you keep trying. Some companies just take a looong ass time to go through their hiring process. And like someone else said, you might be a bit overqualified, which intimidates employers because they think you'll want higher wages.

    If it makes you feel better, I interviewed for LUSH last year and didn't get it... I was so bummed! My interview was literally the day after I got out of the hospital for a health problem (I'd given LUSH my resume like a month before), and I wanted the job so bad that I just couldn't pass up the opportunity. I had to start some new prescription medication that day, and I was *really* shaken up and stressed out, talking super fast, fidgeting with everything... I must have looked like a crackhead, lmfao. Not sure why they never called me back.

    Give them time to call you back, though! You never know. Anyway, there are tons of great places to work that serve great tea or sell awesome bath products, so don't give up if the first ones you apply to don't take you. They just don't know what they're missing out on.

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    Man, the real world seems like it sucks=(

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    Default Re: Can't get a normal job.

    If you're looking for work and you're unemployed(or stripping, maybe)- lie. Tell people you have a job. Make up something and use techno-babble/business related BS. Something, anything. Right now you have to have a job to get one. It's a game.
    Don't tell people you're unemployed. Actually, it's none of their business.
    LIE.

    Say you're self-employed.
    Good luck. Try different things and something will come up.
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    It's not you, it's the economy. I wish everyone understood that the economy is practically a depression and if someone is un/underemployed it's not their fault. I have a masters and years of "regular" work experience and this makes me overqualified to many employers who want the stupid dumbasses. Just keep trying and eventualy something will come through for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    It's not you, it's the economy. I wish everyone understood that the economy is practically a depression and if someone is un/underemployed it's not their fault. I have a masters and years of "regular" work experience and this makes me overqualified to many employers who want the stupid dumbasses. Just keep trying and eventualy something will come through for you.
    There's nothing wrong with giving your real work history but there are other avenues you can try. As soon as you tell someone you're self employed a wall goes up and they know not to get to personal about certain things like past income. If they do, you don't want that job anyway.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    It's not you, it's the economy. I wish everyone understood that the economy is practically a depression and if someone is un/underemployed it's not their fault. I have a masters and years of "regular" work experience and this makes me overqualified to many employers who want the stupid dumbasses. Just keep trying and eventualy something will come through for you.

    To me, not 'practically a depression', it is a depression!


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    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    To me, not 'practically a depression', it is a depression!
    I agree, but the moron economists still call it a recession.

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    Ugh, that is scary. There are tons of places around me hiring for crap wages and I'm sure all the high schoolers and soon to be college students are going to snatch them up and the kids will be happy because most will have never made that much money before. I remember those days, lol. $400 dollars for 70 hrs of work! Wowee! Helps when you don't have anything to worry about but a cell phone bill.

    I'm glad I'm not sick of the adult industry yet. And no, it's definitely not just you. Lots of bullshit one has to jump through for whack-ass retail positions. It's my goal to never work that industry again unless I'm a higher level boss. No more grunt work.

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    This is what im worried about once I get my business degree shortly. That the only jobs that will be available will be the 8/hr jobs. And its soo funny to me that the employers take these positions so seriously bc Im sorry but working 40 hours and making 270-290 a week isnt going to pay my bills...I would have to work 2 jobs which is what Im pretty sure lots of people would have to do that make less than 300/week alone w one job. But how would u have the time if ur already working 40 hours per week?

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    I dont understand it either... I got a part time job, was working just under full time hours at about 30hrs a week, and bringing home 300-400 every two weeks. So I figure a full time 40hr a week job at the same $10/hr I was making would be about $400-500 every two weeks...about right? So just about $1k a month?

    WHO LIVES OFF OF THAT KIND OF MONEY?!

    And even at just 30hrs a week, I was freaking exhausted every day...no energy or time for anything else. and too broke to do anything else anyway..and I was making more than minimum wage!!

    I freak out everytime I think of it..I dont know how anyone lives off of that kind of money. Seriously...

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Contessa View Post
    I just got back from my floor trial at LUSH. I feel like I fucking bombed it. I aced the group interview, but when I got on that floor I feel like I sucked. Why is it that I can sell my naked ass to men, but can't seem to sell some wonderful products that I'm super passionate about to people? I don't think they're going to call me back. And I didn't even get an interview for the tea place I applied to, when my cover letter very clearly and honestly stated that I know tea, love tea, am passionate about tea, have a history with tea, and I think that giving a person a cup of tea is a really wonderful gift. Instead they hire ditsy bitches who call oolong an herbal.

    I'm trying to leave the adult industries for a few months to attempt to keep a regular, minimum wage summer job. If it works, it works, if it doesn't... it doesn't. IT'S NOT WORKING. I have sent out 1400000 applications.

    I grew up achieving everything I ever wanted. Anything I tried, I was good at. I was spoiled, I suppose, because now I am losing crappy retail jobs to some really ridiculous creatures. Is it a lack of experience? the only work experience I have is in office management and customer service, not retail. I used to earn 18 dollars an hour and run an OFFICE, now I can't even get a job that pays 8.

    I know, I know. I shouldn't be down on myself, I should stop criticizing other people, I should suck it up, I should be nice... I am nice, god damnit. I'm just having a moment.

    ..... I hope everyone else screws up massively and they hire me because I screwed up least. I love LUSH to a ridiculous extent.

    Advice? Words of kindness? Just... help. I feel like I just stabbed myself in the tummy with a cucumber or something.
    Did you follow up with a phone call to the hiring manager of the tea place? Did you call until you got a hold of them? If not did you inquire about what hours they will be there and come visit with another copy of your resume in hand?

    It sounds like stalking but this is the new way to nail a job in this economy

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    ^ agreed. Follow-up calls are very necessary.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlkSharpie View Post
    I dont understand it either... I got a part time job, was working just under full time hours at about 30hrs a week, and bringing home 300-400 every two weeks. So I figure a full time 40hr a week job at the same $10/hr I was making would be about $400-500 every two weeks...about right? So just about $1k a month?

    WHO LIVES OFF OF THAT KIND OF MONEY?!

    And even at just 30hrs a week, I was freaking exhausted every day...no energy or time for anything else. and too broke to do anything else anyway..and I was making more than minimum wage!!

    I freak out everytime I think of it..I dont know how anyone lives off of that kind of money. Seriously...
    This is terrible. I do OK on about 20-22K a year and I'm lucky to have some job security and be semi-retired. All these businesses willing to pay 10-15K a year are downright criminal. They think, well you're poor anyway. They don't see a difference between making 10-20, or 20-30K a year. There's a HUGE difference.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Contessa View Post
    Makes me want to.... I dunno..... take my clothes off for money.
    That was a funny reply. Thanks for a humorous post!

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    The Contessa,

    First of all, there is nothing wrong with stripping. This is quite normal a job. But again, I have a very liberated world view. I see nothing wrong with a beautiful naked woman. I approach the nudity of a woman from the perspective of an artist.

    But, we all live in the real world where people have attached all sorts of stigmata with stripping profession. So it is quite understandable that some strippers want out, they no longer want the title.

    When we start from scratch, the battle is tough. All our parents could give us was good education and rest of the stuff we had to build ourselves. That is true for most of us except few lucky ones who have trust funds waiting for them.

    Everybody is exceptionally good at something. Identify what you are good at. Ask yourself. Am I a people person? Am I good with machine? Am I a thinker? Am I a writer? It may take some trials and errors but eventually you will figure out what you are good at. This is not going to be the end of the battle. It will be hard convincing others about your abilities. Just believe in yourself. Do not give up. Nothing is going to happen overnight. It will require dedication, discipline and above all intellect to get where you want. Know this, you will get there.

    All the best!

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    I symphatize with you so much. I went about a year or so working temp jobs and going to interviews. My advice is lie a little- A LITTLE. The hiring people never check up on things. Being totally honest is not worth a hundred more interviews. I'm serious. Best wishes!

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    Quote Originally Posted by BringOnTheMen View Post
    This is going to sound bad but to keep up with the applicant pool, you are going to have to embellish and lie.
    Very funny... I was JUST writing myself an application full of lies as an experiment. LOL
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    i am losing my fucking mind and i really just want this chloroform dream because i think that would just get me right with jesus.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Camateur View Post
    Did you follow up with a phone call to the hiring manager of the tea place?I had to send the application in via email, so I sent them a follow up there. I got an email back that seemed almost taken aback, saying "We will contact you if we would like to interview you" If not did you inquire about what hours they will be there and come visit with another copy of your resume in hand?This I did do. I gave them the resume and cover letter and smiled oh-so-sweet.
    I did what I needed to. I'll re-apply in a month or so.

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    Hey everyone! Thanks for your advice. After a long conversation with my partner in crime, I've decided to take the online fetish market for what it's worth. I wanted to work at these two places specifically because I was passionate about their product and what they stood for. There's no way I'm going to sit around and let these people jangle jobs in front of my face like I'm a helpless little puppy. Especially when those jobs don't even pay over 10$ an hour at best. If I'm going to give 25-30 hours a week to something besides the Circus, it had better be an interesting "something"... and I really enjoy recording my toes squishing around in mud for money.

    So yes, thank you all. I'll certainly take your advice to heart and use it when it is appropriate again.

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