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    It is time for me to jump this bandwagon. It just me with a big slap on the face today. I gotta quit, I'm destroying my life. I am an alcoholic so there is no "just slow it down" thats impossible for me. I've lost jobs because of drinking, my job now I'm walking a very thin line. I've been homeless because I chose alcohol to be my number 1 priority. Countless friendships and relationships gone, I can't even form a relationship now no matter how much I want one, I drink too much and no one decent wants to be with someone like that, so I just feel so lonely with just me and alcohol. I still have friends but very few real ones, drinking buddies. I want people to know the real me, not drunk me. I don't want to be single anymore. I want to proudly say I DON'T DRINK with a big smile and feel so accomplished, I can't wait to still be able to go to the places I like to hang out and say it. Oh man I would be rich for all the money I've spent on alcohol. Since I won't be drinking anymore the waitresses and bartenders will just get bigger tips cause I won't be spending it all on booze


    But.... On the side note, it ain't gonna be easy. I gotta be very dedicated and pull through it. So does anybody have any advice that will help me pull through?

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    I don't have any advice but just wanted to say congrats for realizing you need help. I wish you all the best.

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    I also have to quit drinking. I'm not an alcoholic though, which I think makes it easier for me than for you. Also, I am quitting because of probation. So if I drink I could end up in jail, which is obviously not worth it.

    Anyway, try meetings. I know some people who have been really helped by AA meetings. I've been to a couple a long time ago, and everyone was really nice and friendly and wants to help you.
    Also, try to avoid situations where you will be tempted to drink. Try to make friends with people who do not drink (easier said than done). Try finding hobbies to occupy yourself with. If you find activities that you enjoy and that make you feel good about yourself, I think that would help a lot.

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    You can do it!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Michele.2 View Post
    But.... On the side note, it ain't gonna be easy. I gotta be very dedicated and pull through it. So does anybody have any advice that will help me pull through?
    Two friends of mine have pulled this off. First off, good luck. It's hard, but it can be done.

    How they did it, well, they're friends, and having at least one other buddy to give ya the fortitude to withstand the pressures of socially hanging out, kinda helps.

    As a girl, I don't know how it would work, but I know for them, at least the option of many non-alcoholic beers are out there when they need to 'give in'. Other than that, when they hang out, it won't ever be for those extended periods anymore.

    They are more focused on their careers and having fun, doing things that they don't need to drink to enjoy. They also enjoy foods now, and will linger on some items, because their attention is on the food and not the drinking aspect. And last, but not least, they love their wives a lot. And would not risk going back to their wild party days to lose them.

    Overall, it seems, since they stopped, they started concentrating on a more varied lifestyle and things to do with their time. They're still fun and once or twice may want a drink, but they don't and I think it's because they have so much to juggle, that they don't let themselves slip into a depression or situation, where drinking would become the focus of their time.

    edit: and we, who still drink, respect their decisions and would not do anything to try and harm their very serious life choice.
    I wish I knew what I was doing...

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    If you can quit drinking for three days then you just accomplished quiting drinking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Michele.2 View Post
    It is time for me to jump this bandwagon. It just me with a big slap on the face today. I gotta quit, I'm destroying my life. I am an alcoholic so there is no "just slow it down" thats impossible for me. I've lost jobs because of drinking, my job now I'm walking a very thin line. I've been homeless because I chose alcohol to be my number 1 priority. Countless friendships and relationships gone, I can't even form a relationship now no matter how much I want one, I drink too much and no one decent wants to be with someone like that, so I just feel so lonely with just me and alcohol. I still have friends but very few real ones, drinking buddies. I want people to know the real me, not drunk me. I don't want to be single anymore. I want to proudly say I DON'T DRINK with a big smile and feel so accomplished, I can't wait to still be able to go to the places I like to hang out and say it. Oh man I would be rich for all the money I've spent on alcohol. Since I won't be drinking anymore the waitresses and bartenders will just get bigger tips cause I won't be spending it all on booze


    But.... On the side note, it ain't gonna be easy. I gotta be very dedicated and pull through it. So does anybody have any advice that will help me pull through?
    I'm alcoholic and I reached 9 years Clean and Sober this April just gone. I went to AA after almost 25 years of hard drinking - and although it wasn't easy I stuck with it. If you are deadly serious about quitting, then would recommend that you give them a chance as well. You can get more information here:

    www.aa.org/

    They're not for everyone - but you stand a better chance of stopping with them than you do by trying to do it on your own.

    Whatever you choose to do, I wish you all the best.
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    Thank you all for your help and support I have made my decision set in stone. I even talked to my boss at work about taking a week off, he is perfectly fine with that. So I am going to finish my schedule this week, and next week I am going to stay with a good friend that lives out of the way, so I will be kind of prisoning myself for a week. It isn't going to be fun, it is going to be hard, but I have faith in myself, more than ever. Where I am going to be there is no calling a taxi or walking to a store or bar for alcohol where if I stay at my place its too easy to give in, I am forcing this on myself. Yes a rehab center would probably be my best bet, but Guam sucks for this stuff, I don't even think we have a rehab center, thats ridiculous.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bucket View Post
    If you can quit drinking for three days then you just accomplished quiting drinking.
    I sure wish it was that easy but believe me, its not, not someone with a problem like I have. Shoot I can't even remember the last time I went even 2 days without a drink. Maybe the worst of the withdrawal symptoms may take only 3 days, but my alcoholism problem isn't going to just magically disappear in 3 days. Me taking this week to detox is only going to get rid of the physical addiction, it will be there mentally forever.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Michele.2 View Post
    I sure wish it was that easy but believe me, its not, not someone with a problem like I have. Shoot I can't even remember the last time I went even 2 days without a drink. Maybe the worst of the withdrawal symptoms may take only 3 days, but my alcoholism problem isn't going to just magically disappear in 3 days. Me taking this week to detox is only going to get rid of the physical addiction, it will be there mentally forever.
    I recently spent a week in rehab detoxing.....had shakes, elevated blood pressure, sweats, couldnt sleep or eat without puking for 2 days before I realized I needed professional help. DTs can kill you without medical help. Plz keep that in mind and congrats.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Michele.2 View Post
    I sure wish it was that easy but believe me, its not, not someone with a problem like I have. Shoot I can't even remember the last time I went even 2 days without a drink. Maybe the worst of the withdrawal symptoms may take only 3 days, but my alcoholism problem isn't going to just magically disappear in 3 days. Me taking this week to detox is only going to get rid of the physical addiction, it will be there mentally forever.
    It's true, you never get it out of your mind. I didn't do AA but the reason they've been successful is because they deal with social aspects of not drinking. AA's OK.
    It just wasn't that big a deal for me, except for the DUI. I was up to about a quart a day of booze. One day I drank two and I thought, "That's about enough of that shit."
    You can do it.

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    Maybe I should have done AA because I don't have much of a life really. With AA at least you can connect with people in a similar situation.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bucket View Post
    It's true, you never get it out of your mind. I didn't do AA but the reason they've been successful is because they deal with social aspects of not drinking. AA's OK.
    It just wasn't that big a deal for me, except for the DUI. I was up to about a quart a day of booze. One day I drank two and I thought, "That's about enough of that shit."
    You can do it.

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    Maybe I should have done AA because I don't have much of a life really. With AA at least you can connect with people in a similar situation.

    Three of the most valuable things about AA are that -

    a) They deal with the long-term aspects of alcohol addiction, the social situations (as you've said), and the many ways you can avoid the fatal temptation of taking that first drink - which is the one that does the damage.

    b) ALL they claim to do - is to help you stop drinking. They do not offer Medical advice or Counselling - they suggest that you seek help in these areas with the relevant professionals.

    c) As you rightly say - simply by being there AA offers the alcoholic a support network and social environment in which they can recover from the illness in security and with other, like-minded folks. Most importantly, AA shows you that there is no shame in being an alcoholic. You have an illness that CAN be recovered from.

    Honey, it's NEVER too late to go to 'AA' - so please don't feel that you would be judged or criticised - that's the last thing that would happen - well.....it wouldn't happen, period.

    I would encourage you to go - and if you have Sober time already - you'll have a lot to offer those who are still struggling to stop.
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    Quote Originally Posted by pussyinboots View Post
    Three of the most valuable things about AA are that -

    a) They deal with the long-term aspects of alcohol addiction, the social situations (as you've said), and the many ways you can avoid the fatal temptation of taking that first drink - which is the one that does the damage.

    b) ALL they claim to do - is to help you stop drinking. They do not offer Medical advice or Counselling - they suggest that you seek help in these areas with the relevant professionals.

    c) As you rightly say - simply by being there AA offers the alcoholic a support network and social environment in which they can recover from the illness in security and with other, like-minded folks. Most importantly, AA shows you that there is no shame in being an alcoholic. You have an illness that CAN be recovered from.

    Honey, it's NEVER too late to go to 'AA' - so please don't feel that you would be judged or criticised - that's the last thing that would happen - well.....it wouldn't happen, period.

    I would encourage you to go - and if you have Sober time already - you'll have a lot to offer those who are still struggling to stop.
    I think people that have had certain occupations like sailor or fisherman would have trouble fitting it at AA. Out to sea means cold-turkey and I always thought that was an advantage. I don't know. Plus there's the stereotype of the drunken sailor that gives you an attitude towards others.
    I don't want to jack the thread or try to give the OP advice. All I can say is-you can do it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bucket View Post
    I think people that have had certain occupations like sailor or fisherman would have trouble fitting it at AA. Out to sea means cold-turkey and I always thought that was an advantage. I don't know. Plus there's the stereotype of the drunken sailor that gives you an attitude towards others.
    I don't want to jack the thread or try to give the OP advice. All I can say is-you can do it.
    I live on The South Coast of the UK - and two of my local Meetings are held in old established sea-faring towns. In fact, almost 45% of ALL the meetings in my area are in towns that have histories of association with the sea. Nearly 75% of the members in my own local meeting are sailors, fishermen and marine architects.

    The WHOLE point of 'AA' - is that there are no social and economic distinctions at all. If you have any kind of a problem with alcohol, then you are welcome to go there. That's the only reason you need. Your occupation or social situation is not a factor - as anyone who has been to 'AA' will tell you. Making social distinctions and saying that folks in isolated situations, like sailors or fishermen, won't fit in at 'AA', is completely irrelevant - and simply untrue.

    The only person that you can say 'fits in' to 'AA' - or not - is yourself. The only thing that 'AA' asks of anyone who goes, is to be utterly certain that they REALLY want to stop drinking.

    I don't want to turn this into a discussion on the merits of 'AA' though - I simply wanted to make this point clear for anyone who is thinking of going to 'AA', and who reads the Thread.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Michele.2 View Post
    It is time for me to jump this bandwagon. It just me with a big slap on the face today. I gotta quit, I'm destroying my life. I am an alcoholic so there is no "just slow it down" thats impossible for me. I've lost jobs because of drinking, my job now I'm walking a very thin line. I've been homeless because I chose alcohol to be my number 1 priority. Countless friendships and relationships gone, I can't even form a relationship now no matter how much I want one, I drink too much and no one decent wants to be with someone like that, so I just feel so lonely with just me and alcohol. I still have friends but very few real ones, drinking buddies. I want people to know the real me, not drunk me. I don't want to be single anymore. I want to proudly say I DON'T DRINK with a big smile and feel so accomplished, I can't wait to still be able to go to the places I like to hang out and say it. Oh man I would be rich for all the money I've spent on alcohol. Since I won't be drinking anymore the waitresses and bartenders will just get bigger tips cause I won't be spending it all on booze


    But.... On the side note, it ain't gonna be easy. I gotta be very dedicated and pull through it. So does anybody have any advice that will help me pull through?
    I had to think this over a bit. I can't think of where I'd be if I didn't go to a couple DUI meetings. We dealt mostly with the legal aspects of our situation but meetings are meetings. There's really no difference between AA and DUI meetings so yes, go to meetings. It would be better to go to AA than to take the chance of getting a DUI or something like that.

    Just my 2 cents.

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    Congrats on your steps to sobriety.

    What got me to slow down on my drinking (obviously not drinking while pregnant), but before I was pregnant, was getting my DUI. Because of it, I had to get an IID (a breathalizer) installed in my car.

    It sucks, but it was a blessing in disguise. It reallllly helped me slow down on my drinking. I think you can get those in your car without a court order.

    I hope everything works out for you. Good luck. <3

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    Quote Originally Posted by Michele.2 View Post
    and next week I am going to stay with a good friend that lives out of the way, so I will be kind of prisoning myself for a week. It isn't going to be fun, it is going to be hard,

    try exercising when you are out there.....I'm not an expert, but it will make you feel better than laying around all day, thinking about not drinking. If you already exercise, go for a long run every morning.......if you dont, go for long walk every morning.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lemiwinks31 View Post
    try exercising when you are out there.....I'm not an expert, but it will make you feel better than laying around all day, thinking about not drinking. If you already exercise, go for a long run every morning.......if you dont, go for long walk every morning.
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    god bless its hard to do I have been sober a little over three months and support always helps.

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    Hi everyone! Sorry I haven't been online to update but thanks again for all your support and advice! I am starting this week detox today so wish me luck. I'm just getting started and already thinking about alcohol, but I'm not going to let the alcohol win. I have let alcohol destroy too many things in my life. The biggest thing that is going to get me is being afraid that I'm not as fun or cool as I did when I drank. I will just have to replace the drinking with other hobbies that I already enjoy but never do because yesterday my life revolved around drinking, I will also have to get rid of the unsupportive friends that still drink, I am surprised how supportive everyone seems to be though. I haven't told a whole lot of people but everyone I have say only nice and supportive things, no one has been negative to me, yet.

    Ugh I came across this article There is no advice there, what a horrible article. Especially it comes up when I searched support?! I know not to listen to it but how many other poor people have searched for support only to come across that article and give up.

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    OMG, you're on Guam! I totally get it, now. I lived on-island, on and off, for about three years. YES, quitting there is extremely difficult. Drinking is basically your job and complete lifestyle! I'm so glad you're able to take some time off and chill, from work. Learn to cope and find things to do in the day that don't involve hanging out and just drinking.

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    Detox on your own can be dangerous. About the third day you can have seizures, stop breathing and die. Best seek medical attention.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Michele.2 View Post
    Hi everyone! Sorry I haven't been online to update but thanks again for all your support and advice! I am starting this week detox today so wish me luck. I'm just getting started and already thinking about alcohol, but I'm not going to let the alcohol win. I have let alcohol destroy too many things in my life. The biggest thing that is going to get me is being afraid that I'm not as fun or cool as I did when I drank. I will just have to replace the drinking with other hobbies that I already enjoy but never do because yesterday my life revolved around drinking, I will also have to get rid of the unsupportive friends that still drink, I am surprised how supportive everyone seems to be though. I haven't told a whole lot of people but everyone I have say only nice and supportive things, no one has been negative to me, yet.

    Ugh I came across this article http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/ar...oyed-life.html There is no advice there, what a horrible article. Especially it comes up when I searched support?! I know not to listen to it but how many other poor people have searched for support only to come across that article and give up.
    If you get a chance, check out www.rationalrecovery.com and click through the 38 frames or whatever (all completely free) this one website had me sober for 1 year. Ultimately I decided that I wasn't as cool or funny! Haha I am pretty uptight naturally. Anyway, I never drink and drive now and drinking isn't a problem, I can finally moderate. But during that year I mostly told myself that I would never again drink. Just being so akward and left out, I got tired of not fitting in and just wanted to let my hair down again. It is still a battle to not have too many but nothing like before. Good luck and please do check out that site!

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