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    Hell no

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    Hell no
    and Fuck No.

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    Default Re: Masturbation during private dances

    In my book of stripping, masturbating during a dance is an extra. So, no.

    To the OP; I hope you're not doing that, or else you'd be a filthy extras girl that nobody likes.

    Ah, in some states you can get busted with obscenity!





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    Default Re: Masturbation during private dances

    No it's not allowed, no I never did it and yes, that's extras and gross.

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    ^^Like you said, in some clubs in some states.

    In every state I've danced that's considered obscenity and if a girl is caught doing that, the manager on duty will call the cops.

    All those things you mentioned (sex shows, shows with dildos, etc) are illegal in many states.
    For example, there was a very well known club in Arkansas where they arrested a bunch of dancers back in '07 for doing sex shows.

    You know, since you clearly don't know me, go ahead and read my profile. And yes, I stand very firm with what I said; masturbating whether is on stage, floor or private dance is an extra and everyone who does it where is not allowed should be prosecuted.





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    I personally think that is nasty. I mean, if you are willing to do that, why not just do soft core porn?

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    I don't do insertion, but since I have a clit ring I will kinda place my fingers over my labia and do a side to side motion while staying on the lips. Not all custy's get that move though. I figured having a clit ring is overdone but where I've been some guys have never seen it in person before and act a bit mesmerized, so I milk that for all it's worth.

    I know how filthy hands can get, and I'd rather it be my own that someone else's trying to touch. Like BringOnTheMen wrote, having your own hand there can be a line of defense without the guy realizing it until he goes to touch and I will correct him.
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    ^^I don't have to do that sort of things to get attention from customers.

    And yes, I get really mad with extras girls because I do feel I have the right to work in a place free of hookers and drug users; that's why I left that nasty dive in Va. Beach and went to Elizabeth City instead, where they have a small members only club.





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    Quote Originally Posted by BringOnTheMen View Post
    Is holding your hand over your vagina really an obscenity or is it just explicit fingering and stuff?

    Because you really don't need to finger yourself or rub your clit for custies to think that you're getting off...custies are so stupid. You just hold your hand over yourself as you dance and he thinks you're masturbating.
    I do this, all the time. If my hand is over my vagina, then it means the customers isn't.

    It's not illegal where I am. Penetration would be. I don't do fingering shows like other girls do completely out in the open, and it annoys me that they do. But keeping my hand over my pussy while I'm grinding on a customer or dancing in front of him is not just sexier for the customer, but safer for me.

    Lets not throw around the word extra's so carelessly. Different things are legal in different states/clubs.



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    Quote Originally Posted by BringOnTheMen View Post
    Really? There is a world of difference between porn and dancing and most dancers dance for the anonymity of the job. Dunno why I'm even bothering dignifying your response...but for starters, peep show workers make their living off of teasing a customer through softcore and hardcore shows.

    I understand that if you go to some clubs and start fingering yourself you will be the dirty one but many clubs and many areas are not as prudish and allow dancers to do their job-strip tease. You tease the customer because you can put touch your body and accentuate your sexuality but they can have none of it. They wish they could touch you that way and wish you could touch them that way but they can't, so they are teased. As long as you are not allowing them to jerk off and you are not touching their junk, it's not an extra.
    Dude, I'm one of the cleanest, most prudish dancers at my club, but sometimes on SW I feel like I must be the loosest dancer around.

    I read on here one girl considered boob touching an extra. I was like - srsly? It's allowed in my area. Thanks, now I feel like a harlot. Jeesh.



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    Quote Originally Posted by BringOnTheMen View Post
    Really? There is a world of difference between porn and dancing and most dancers dance for the anonymity of the job. Dunno why I'm even bothering dignifying your response...but for starters, peep show workers make their living off of teasing a customer through softcore and hardcore shows.

    But I'm not working at a peep show. I'm working at a stripclub.

    Boob touching is allowed up here too. Perhaps it is prude, but I would still never insert my fingers into my vagina or play with my clit in a lapdance.

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    ^You don't have to.

    BOTM was just pointing out there's a big difference between a stripper pretending to masturbate (in an area where it's legal) and doing a softcore porn video. Huge difference.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BringOnTheMen View Post
    Same. I don't even grind on a guy's cock. Personally, I would rather touch myself and have the custy look from afar than feel his semi hard cock rubbing my clit. I'm not about to call cock grinders extras girls because it's not an extra and most girls and most SWers do it, but IMO it's worse than touching yourself.

    A lot of dancers here have been dancing for awhile or are retired and 10, 20 years ago, all of these things were definitely extras. If I had been dancing at a club like this for awhile and then moved to my club I would be shocked and disgusted too. But it's the reality of strip clubs now. You don't have to be comfortable with it and you don't have to do it and your money may or may not be greatly affected by it but it still doesn't mean that you should call girls that do it "filthy extras girls." Me putting my hand on my vagina is nowhere close to me putting my mouth on someone's cock.

    You're so much more articulate than I could ever hope to be. But yes, I'm with you on all of these above points. If I was in an area where it wasn't allowed, or perhaps if I had started dancing before contact was the norm it might bother me; but as of right now I'd much prefer dancing in front of someone holding my vag than grinding on a customer.

    Mind you, I do grind as well. Kind of a necessity in this city.



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    Aside from the obvious anonymity that the SC provides in comparison to being in a film I just don't understand. Like...really, I don't. Not even trying to be mean or anything I just don't.
    But that is just because I happen to be rather dense...

    To each her own!!

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    where i live now, i am required to wear a thong of a certain thickness at all times (and paint over my nipples.) touching myself just isn't necessary. i can make a customer think with my facial expressions that i'm feeling explosive in my nether regions, so that is what i do now. when i first started dancing, it was in another state at an all nude club. touching (not inserting into) yourself was just a normal part of the equation- if you have to dance completely naked onstage but not let anyone see your vagina, it's a necessity to hide the goods, whatever it looks like you're doing. i made the mistake of not holding my hand over myself once in CR and it ruined all nude clubs for me. it ruined men at all for me for a long time. i remember i had caught a lot of flack on these message boards and tried to be more conscious about not touching myself and i ended up really burned. basically, go with what seems right and normal (and legal) to you and your surroundings. even in touching yourself, there is a way to be classy about it and a way to go about it so that your coworkers think you are "filthy extras girl."

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    NO, def not. That's way too intimate to me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 4everresolutions View Post
    Dude, I'm one of the cleanest, most prudish dancers at my club, but sometimes on SW I feel like I must be the loosest dancer around.
    ^This! It's odd that my co-workers make me feel like a prude, and this board has now made me feel filthy.

    When I started just a few years ago I remember thinking that a customer touching your bum was a filthy, nasty extra. These days I am relieved if they just try to touch my bum and stay away from my other bits.

    All the clubs around here are pretty high contact. I hold my hand over my vag for the same reason I cup my own breasts, so that the customer's hands are kept away. I never ever insert anything though, and if I let them watch me it is only for a quick couple seconds so they might think that I am into it. I have seen many a girl do it on stage even, although I don't do that myself. Also, I almost always "hover" my hand above rather than actually touch myself due to germs.

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    Obviously some girls here are lucky enough to work in areas that are not high contact. Those of us who can only work in high contact clubs have to take certain precautions. I often pretend to touch myself during LDs. I'm actually barely touching the side of my thigh, but custies think it's the real deal. And like others have stated, if my hand is there then their hand is not. And guys in these clubs will often try it, and if you got them all kicked out for trying it then you'd make no money.

    However, I have often seen girls really finger themselves, like insert fingers into vag, both on stage and during LDs and to me that's just nasty.

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    there's too many germs to touch myself in the strip club. Also if u wanna touch yourself why not webcam?? U dont have to worry about people touching u then

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    I always 'touch' my junk when I bend over in front of a customer, even though I have my panties on during LDs I sensually touch myself while bent over for the same reason most of us do.... and I'm not an extras girl.
    Jay, I think you live in stripper heaven where no one does extras and if they do they're condemned for it. I might be new to stripping but I know extras happen, and most of the time the managers don't give a shit. Seriously, saints don't usually apply for jobs at strip clubs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarlettJanuary View Post
    maintaining physical control over the situation is a priority.

    Next on my priority list is anonymity. [...]B

    ased on my priorities my preferences for adult industry jobs would go as follows from most preferred to least: stripper-no contact, stripper one-way contact, webcam girl , stripper two-way contact, call girl and adult film star.

    That is NOT to say in any way that I judge those who do any of these jobs. It is not that I think they are gross or wrong, this is just my preference based on my personal values. Make sense?
    I find this SO interesting! Different priorities are why girls feel comfortable in different areas of the industry and probably a big reason why there is so much dislike between areas.

    So I totally started a thread: http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=156290
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    I'm just wondering if the touching of oneself is with a thong on or without? I could totally see why you would cover your bits in a nude club during a nude lapdance.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BringOnTheMen View Post
    Oh please. Touching your own body does not make you a filthy extras girl.

    There are some clubs where it is absolutely necessary for you to either hold your hand over your vagina or use handcuffs/hold the guys hands back the entire time. Guess which one gets you tips and repeat dances? There is nothing wrong with touching yourself during a dance and if you don't then often times the custy will. Some girls don't feel comfortable which is perfectly fine but when you are in a high contact club it is harder to do a dance and keep the custy's fingers away from you and usually it involves swatting the guy's hands away which makes him angry and more aggressive. I find when I touch myself custies sit back and stop touching and when I don't they are really aggressive and grab me.

    OP, unfortunately there is a small chance that you can get busted for anything when you are a dancer. Sometimes police do raids and sometimes those raids are overly harsh. A girl at my club just got back from Vegas where she said she knew someone who got busted for prostitution for saying "wanna go have some fun?" However, you will most likely not. Don't listen to Jay12, she lies about everything. She originally came to this board claiming to work at a stage only club and now she's giving everyone advice on lapdances and private rooms, and usually insults other members.


    Clubs do girl on girl shows, dildo shows, dildo private rooms, shower shoes, sex shows all the time. Touching yourself is no worse. It is 2011 and this is the reality of strip clubs. If you don't like it either find a time machine and go back to the 90s or get a different job.

    ETA: obviously if it's against the rules then it's a different story and if you work at a low contact/air dance club then you may be the lewd dancer. And if you do it on the floor then yes, you're being obscene. But in the private room, assuming it is ok with the law, your club's rules, and is in line with what other girls are doing, then you are fine.

    I totally agree. There is nothing wrong with touching yourself. Now fingering, might take it too far, but there is nothing wrong with touching yourself. Even though I don't dance anymore and I never did it, I knew girls who would go ON STAGE and touch themselves (spread lips apart, slide finger between slit, but not finger themselves). They would do it in a classy way though, they wouldn't just spread there legs apart and show everyone. So i think it depends, it's a very fine line between what's fine and what's considered "extra".

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    The clubs I work in would never allow vulgarity like that.

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