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    Default I feel like I could be risking everything....

    Okay so maybe just maybe I could be over analyzing everything and just psyching myself out. But like I said before I'm gonna start dancing sometime soon and there are times when I get really excited about it and pumped up but then there are times I ask myself if in the end it'll be worth it.

    I wanna dance for 2 reasons: 1.) I've always wanted to and know that'll it will be so much fun 2.) THE MONEY OF COURSE!

    Anyway I mentioned before that I know my mother won't be happy at all with me doing this but I don't necessarily care too much about it

    Okay so this is what I think about when I start to psych myself out..there a lot of "what ifs". What if I wanna stop and can't get a job after going to school or just getting a job period (I don't know how entirely true this could be or if it's just kind of an urban myth). What if I completely lose my relationship with my mom and my entire family because of this. What if I can't get out of it, meaning lets say I strip for a few months to a year and have my own place and everything but I wanna stop, I'm always gonna compare the money I was making dancing(which i'm sure will be a lot) to any other job.

    Am I being over-analytical? Are these things you thought of as well before you started to dance?

    Thanks girls, btw this is something I really want to do and some of the "what ifs" are things that aren't going to affect me now but it's good to think about these things ahead of time.. right?

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    Default Re: I feel like I could be risking everything....

    Considering you're having all these notions running through your mind and are thinking this through instead of just jumping in to stripping, it sounds like you have a pretty good head on your shoulders, and that's invaluable for making it in this industry. If you're smart about it, you can work a few years, get whatever it is you want out of it (savings, a house, car, investments, whatever) and get out.

    Of course, you can't expect to, right out of school, get a job that'll pay you as much as stripping will, so that's something you have to be conscious of. But that's where budgeting savings while dancing comes in handy and not living above your means (be fiscally responsible, as hard as it can be when you have lots of easy cash).

    Also, try and work an internship/volunteer placement/job that's relevant to your field so you can keep your resume up-to-date and increase your odds of getting a "straight" job after, rather than feeling forced to stay dancing to survive when you want to quit.

    In terms of family, well, that's a hard one. A lot of girls keep it from their families to keep from having to deal with potentially negative situations, and others are more open. It depends on your relationship with them and how comfortable you are keeping it secret from them. If you're open about it, be prepared for family members to not accept it and shun you for it - it's an unfortunately reality of working in this business.

    Best of luck!

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    Well I think you're exactly right, this stuff does happen. When a girl I know who's been dancing for a while decides to leave, I always think 'she'll be back!'.

    Because what other job (that she's qualified for) is she going to find, where she can make one week's wages in one night?

    I think girls also get kind of addicted to the attention factor. It's nice to be told how gorgeous/sexy/beautiful you are all night!

    And usually, within about two weeks they're back again. So I think being a stripper is great for now, but you need to also be working towards a career goal at the same time. Unless you plan to be a career stripper, eg until you're 30 or 40, which works very well for some girls, you need something that you can progress into so you don't have to rely on stripping forever. Personally I'm doing an apprenticeship to be an Electrician when I qualify I plan to still strip, I haven't really set a timeline to stop, but I'll have a qualification behind me so that I can build a business for myself and I won't be so reliant on the (awesome!) money I get from stripping, when I want to have kids etc.

    As for losing your relationships... every person is different. I haven't told my mum, but my boyfriend has no problem with me stripping. I know a lot of girls who have told their parents, and they've been shocked and upset, but I think in the end they realise you're still the same person, and they don't disown you or anything.

    My boyfriend told all his friends last week that I'm a dancer, and I think one of the main reasons they were supportive of me is that he told them I've been dancing for two years already. And they've been friends with me all that time, so they knew that I am still the same person they know. Also - I work with tradie boys all day, and in two years I've never seen one of them at the club. So the chances of you getting outed are probably actually minimal!

    Hope that makes sense and helps!

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    Default Re: I feel like I could be risking everything....

    I agree with shanna, this is a GOOD thing that you're thinking about all of these factors, it's much better than going into the industry blind.

    The forever comparing other jobs' income to dancing income: that WILL happen. But with other jobs, it's not always ALL about the income. Think of that other factor: your relationship with your family. Stripping secretly will put a strain on your relationship with your mom, even if she never finds out, lying to her will get to you eventually, the good thing about straight jobs is that you can tell your folks and friends about them!

    Dancing gives you this awesome privilege of being able to make copious amounts of money very fast, and while you're young. But don't abuse the privilege, or dancing is pointless, save your money and invest it in either an education, starting your own business, or wise profitable investments (such as bonds, stocks, or RRSP, or property). With one of those options, you'll have little to worry about when you stop dancing, even if you just chose to buy yourself a house and car and build some savings, if you have to work at a lower paying job later in life, you'll have a lot less to worry about financially then your peers.

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    Charlie61 started a great thread on stripping while going to school and being able to quit when you need to and stay on your feet. It's really helpful for anyone, even those not going to college.

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