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    ok girls!!! idk if this has happened to you but is it normal or weird etc to get jealous or "possessive" when/if a customer who comes in often and always gets dances w/ you is talking and/or gettin dances from another girl(s)??
    ok i'm only posting asking this cuz i met a custy last week and it's wayyy to soon to say/claim he my custy/regular...but the night i first met him, he got like 3 LDs and then a vip! he then said he coming back the following night w his friends to have a lil bachelor party.....and when he came back he got few dances again and a vip again! we exchanged #s and have been texting back and forth....never met otc. anyways i told him i'm not gonna be working on certain nights, and he told me his friend is trying to get him to go again on the night i am not working (his friend doesnt know my schedule etc)...anyways i told him watever to do watever he wants n that if he wants to go there on night(s) that he knows i'm not gna be working, then to lose my # etc... why do i feel jealous etc if he gets dances or even talks to other girls/dancers???

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    You can do whatever you want, but this is only going to hurt your money. A customer is going to do what they want, and getting pissed won't do anything positive for you.
    The way I see it (and other peoples' experiences may be different, I can only speak for myself) it's always better to put on a smile and be laid back about things than to get worked up about it (unless someone is really crossing your boundaries, of course) Customer's come for a fun distraction, not to have more drama.
    Also, I always go into it with the idea that all regulars have an expiration date, and when he expires there will be plenty of other guys to take his place (hopefully, lol).

    Having said that, no one can tell you why you are feeling jealous except for you. Try to think about what exactly you feel jealous about. Do you have feelings for this guy? Do you just feel insecure at the thought of him being attracted to and buying dances from someone else? Or are you jealous of the money he might spend on someone else?

    I am not trying to be mean so I hope nothing came across that way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sierra. View Post
    You can do whatever you want, but this is only going to hurt your money. A customer is going to do what they want, and getting pissed won't do anything positive for you.
    The way I see it (and other peoples' experiences may be different, I can only speak for myself) it's always better to put on a smile and be laid back about things than to get worked up about it (unless someone is really crossing your boundaries, of course) Customer's come for a fun distraction, not to have more drama.
    Also, I always go into it with the idea that all regulars have an expiration date, and when he expires there will be plenty of other guys to take his place (hopefully, lol).

    Having said that, no one can tell you why you are feeling jealous except for you. Try to think about what exactly you feel jealous about. Do you have feelings for this guy? Do you just feel insecure at the thought of him being attracted to and buying dances from someone else? Or are you jealous of the money he might spend on someone else?

    I am not trying to be mean so I hope nothing came across that way.
    well, i could care less if other customers who get/got dances from me only get dances from other girls too..doesn't phase me. But this one dude..idk why! MAYBE i might be starting to have feelings for him??? But i think all 3 things u mentioned above might be it.....how do other dancers not get jealous etc when/if their "custies" get dances from someone else?? And i wonder if dancers get "attached" or start to have feelings for custies??

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    Is he your only customer? Are you being loyal to just him and won't dance for any other customers? No.

    The appeal of a strip club is that a guy can go there and buy dances from a variety of females. If you are acting like a jealous/ possessive wife, why would he want to come buy dances from you in the future?

    Just go find another customer to dance for and don't waste so much time texting this one guy.

    You might be hurting yourself more than you think. If this guy decided to show your texts to your manager, you may not be allowed to work at that club anymore. An unhappy regular customer has a lot of influence with club management.


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    Quote Originally Posted by JuicYJocelyN View Post
    well, i could care less if other customers who get/got dances from me only get dances from other girls too..doesn't phase me. But this one dude..idk why! MAYBE i might be starting to have feelings for him??? But i think all 3 things u mentioned above might be it.....how do other dancers not get jealous etc when/if their "custies" get dances from someone else?? And i wonder if dancers get "attached" or start to have feelings for custies??
    I've never really had this problem, but I'm sure it's happened to other girls. I do have a problem where if a person I am even mildly interested in rejects me in some way, or makes me feel jealous, I suddenly feel like I really want them. But really I just wanted them to want me, and not anyone else.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post
    Is he your only customer? Are you being loyal to just him and won't dance for any other customers? No.

    The appeal of a strip club is that a guy can go there and buy dances from a variety of females. If you are acting like a jealous/ possessive wife, why would he want to come buy dances from you in the future?

    Just go find another customer to dance for and don't waste so much time texting this one guy.

    You might be hurting yourself more than you think. If this guy decided to show your texts to your manager, you may not be allowed to work at that club anymore. An unhappy regular customer has a lot of influence with club management.
    i don't text him first!!! he always the first one to call/text me!!! And he the one who keeps wanting to meet otc and he not even a regular at the club he has been here like twice....

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    So what if he gets dances from other girls? You aren't going to be there and he has no obligation to only dance with you. It just seems silly. You telling him to lose your number is really immature. Sounds like something a legit gf would say. Remember the relationship you two have is that of a dancer-customer not gf-bf. Calm down. Let him know the nights you will be working. If he chooses to go in on a night you are not there, so what? If he is a good regular and I wasnt supposed to work but he says he is coming in and I KNOW I can make money off of him, you bet you ass I'll be there getting that money. If you're not there, what do you expect him to do? Sit there and look at the floor? Not likely.

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    The last time a reg of mine did that I put him in his place
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    Default Re: get kinda jealous/emotional....

    no offense, but telling him off like that was very immature. you officially became that "psyco stripper." no guy want to be around that. i know it sounds mean but its true, being this way will really hurt your business. a great sales person seperates their work from their feelings.

    this kind of business pushes customers AWAY from strip clubs. good quality men get run off this way because of the tension in the air from strippers taking things so persnal. stresses them out and scares them off. men do not like drama.

    there have been several times where i had a customer come in to see me, dropped hundreds each time for like 3 days and then he moves on to the next one to "explore" i guess and then another week later came right back to me cuz i was always fun, easy going, making them feel great.

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    Default Re: get kinda jealous/emotional....

    I understand the feeling of jealousy when someone who always used to buy dances from you starts buying them from other girls. I think it's just that I've had so many experiences where a customer acted like I was his ATF and only bought dances from me, and then, on nights that I was actually in the club, he would suddenly start spending all his money on someone else and stop spending on me completely. It was more an anger at the fact that someone else was getting that money now, not possessiveness because I actually liked the guy or something. It's really hard to hide your anger in a situation like that, but you have to, otherwise you're just driving business away for everyone and guaranteeing that you'll never see ANY of his money ever again.

    Ultimately, it's his money. And, especially if it's a night that you aren't working, what do you care? If you're not there for him to spend his money on, it shouldn't matter if he has fun with someone else that night. The only way this would upset your dynamic is if he blew his whole budget on someone else and didn't have anything left for you the next time he came to see you. But, with the amount of money he seems to have (buying VIPs all the time) I don't think you need to worry about that. Telling him off via text was really immature considering he hasn't actually done anything to ruin your customer/dancer relationship yet. You should only be getting pissed if he starts spending all his $$ on someone else and stops having any for you, yet thinks it's still appropriate to waste your time with conversation.

    And really, getting too possessive of someone who spends a little money on you too quickly is really ridiculous. One time, I was talking to a guy who said he was only in town for a week and had come in a couple nights. This one girl would not leave us alone even though he kept buying me drinks and asking me to come back whenever I had to leave for stage. Later, she said to me, "Sorry if I seemed like I was stepping in your game - it's just, that guy's my regular." Why? Because he bought dances from you a whole 2 times? Don't be that girl, especially if you're not even in the club when he spends on someone else lol

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