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    Default SC newbie here. are they just having fun?

    Hi all. I am very new to the SC. I have only been 6-7 times. I have heard dancers on this board refer to "extras" in their posts. From what I understand an extra is something sexual a dancer does that goes beyond the lapdance, is this what an extra is?

    I only ask because I am a femme lesbian who goes to the SC for fun and to chill. I respect the dancers. I never go to the SC looking for dates/sex.
    Most of the dancers at this club know I am lesbian.

    A few of the dancers will my kiss my cheek often, *they* place my hands on their breasts, on their butt, and on their cookie while sitting with/on me. We laugh and smile during these conversations b/c I just like making the dancers laugh and smile. is this touchy-feely thing just the dancers just having some fun or is this considered an extra?
    All of this takes place on while chilling at my table, not asking for/during a lapdance.

    Any information that can help this newbie out is greatly apppreciated! I don't want to make the mistake most men do by thinking "hey she likes me" when it is just her having fun or just her doing her job. I would think that me also being a woman I could understand women but I can't lol.
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    ^ Based on what dancers have said here over and over again - its ALL work & hustle in the SC... Enjoy it, but take it for what it is - erotic entertainment.
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    Default Re: SC newbie here. are they just having fun?

    What an extra is varies from dancer to dancer, at the same time though, it's all a hustle. We want your money. The more we get you to spend, the happier a dancer will be to spend time with you. Don't confuse it for what it is. We're at work. So go and enjoy us, that's our job, but we're not looking at you as anything more than a customer.
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    Sure its hustle, but its also fun, especially w a female customer. I found that I could be way more flirty and relaxed with females because they were smart enough to not fall in love with the stripper fantasy. Good times, always.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lopaw View Post
    The term "extra" is very subjective. In a low or no-contact club, just touching a boobie would be considered an extra. But in a high contact club, an extra would more likely be anything involving genital to genital contact, oral, etc.
    ^^^ +1 This exactly. If the entertainer is letting you touch her genital area, that is considered an extra in just about every state I know of regardless of club... the rest though is more subjective to the local laws & rules of the club.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lopaw View Post
    The term "extra" is very subjective. In a low or no-contact club, just touching a boobie would be considered an extra. But in a high contact club, an extra would more likely be anything involving genital to genital contact, oral, etc.

    The touching at your table & kisses and stuff like that are usually preludes to trying to get you in the LD area to spend some cash. A dancer letting a respectful female customer touch more than a male is par for the course, at least from my experience. And the better she is at it, the more likely you are to empty your wallet for her.
    Win-win!

    And while having a dancer "really like you" does happen sometimes (oy!), it's still pretty rare.
    Yeah I def let women get away with more. I truthfully enjoy dancing for them more.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post
    Yeah I def let women get away with more. I truthfully enjoy dancing for them more.
    That I think is discrimination. And, discriminating against an innocent human being is unethical. We should never discriminate against another human being just because of his gender. Your preference of women over men as a private person is truly understandable but your discriminatory approach as a professional is not justifiable. God loves us all whether we are men or women. Asian or Caucasian. So on.

    Just my humble opinion. I am not trying to be harsh or critical.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Brigham View Post
    Your preference of women over men as a private person is truly understandable but your discriminatory approach as a professional is not justifiable.
    Fact: YMMV (your mileage may vary) exists in all facets of the play-4-pay sex industry. Doesn't matter if it's air dances, full contact lap dances or escorting. Being the right sex is no different than being the right "type", the right race, the right weight, or having the right attitude. You can't dictate to a woman who she will dance for or how she will dance for him or her anymore than you can tell an escort who she has to have sex with.

    The only thing that's not "justifiable" here are your passive/aggressive posts. They are becoming more misogynistic by the day. You fool no one.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Brigham View Post
    That I think is discrimination. And, discriminating against an innocent human being is unethical. We should never discriminate against another human being just because of his gender. Your preference of women over men as a private person is truly understandable but your discriminatory approach as a professional is not justifiable. God loves us all whether we are men or women. Asian or Caucasian. So on.

    Just my humble opinion. I am not trying to be harsh or critical.
    This isn't discrimination. Clubs have rules and dancers have their own boundaries within or without those rules. They're dancers not robots.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lopaw View Post
    A dancer letting a respectful female customer touch more than a male is par for the course, at least from my experience.
    really?

    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post
    Yeah I def let women get away with more.
    really?

    Whoa! I did not know. Not that I would know, only been to one party with one of the guys' sisters and heard from femlae friends about experiences, but no one's said anything 'extra' went on. And even though some of the girls here may be bi or gay, I thought I've generally read that female customers were, overall, 'worse' (handsy, tipping, etc) customers than guys. I dunno, I guess that's not true?
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    ^^It depends on the customer. Truthfully I've only had a few run ins with women who really weren't there to have a good time. I did not say however, I do extras under any circumstances.
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    Yes, really. Tough titties for you guys. although...its super duper easy for a guy to also have a great time at the SC too. Lookup this poster named "yoda." Do what he does....

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