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    Exclamation What would u choose?

    Considering u do love your family... but U want to live comforable as well..
    Im making this a poll cause I cant decide!
    to me this would be the hardest decision ever.

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    I love my family, but the past 4 years I've spent living in different countries, hundreds and thousands of miles away. That's what email and skype are for. My family visits me - it's a holiday for them. They respect me for having the courage to follow my dreams and move so far away. They know I'm happy. They don't know how rich I am

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    I haven't seen my family in 3 years.
    Moved out at 17, so I'm use to not seeing them. It sucks, I WISH we were closer, but I have my own life and my own family now.
    I would rather be rich...so I could provide the best life possible for my little family.
    Plus, if I was rich, I'd be able to visit my family more often. Or buy them a plane ticket to come see my family.

    It would all work out good.

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    I love my family but I live 2000 miles away from them and that's how I like it.

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    Yeah, I'm not all about family closeness. Fuck that shit. The further apart we are, the better. I live with my parents right now and I can't fucking stand it. I can't wait to move across the country as soon as I get my BA.

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    I haven't spoken to my mother in 2.5 years, even though she lives less than an hour away. My father & stepmother live a few states over. I talk to them maybe once a month. I always wait for them to call me. I've been pretty pissed off at them for about 2.5 years as well. Both sets of parents I'm mad at for the same reason, related to the very same incident.

    Anyhow, at this point I'm just ready to move. It doesn't matter if any family is around... but I do care about being near someone I'm close to... even if it's a friend.
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    I find my family very stressful to be around. as it is, I already live about 100 miles away from my nearest relatives. I like it that way, and plan to keep it that way.


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    I love most of my family and hard to imagine not being near them, everyone is basically within 2 hours of each other and mostly much closer.

    That said if push came to shove, I'd move for the right job. I've applied to jobs in foreign countries and I just recently took the FSOT....

    Actually I dunno... My nieces and nephews growing up, I dunno if I want to be away from that. I may need to change my answer.

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    thanks for posting ....

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    Default Re: What would u choose?

    Good thread, but IRL, propositions aren't so Black and White, but shades of gray. Another way of asking the same question might be: "How much of a raise must a prospective job offer to entice one to relocate"? (10%?? 20%?? 50% or more??). I know a lot of people who have foregone raises of 10-40%(*) just to stay in area a bit longer. Often, spouses and children are factors involved in final decision. Either way, best wishes with your choice.
    (*)- Those are W2 increases I'm quoting- actual net figures less when you throw in living in a higher cost area, hassles of moving or longer commute, etc.
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    Yeah, if you're rich you can afford to visit them when you miss them. I LOVE my family to death but if I can't do what's best for me near them then i'm ok being far away. It's not big deal. That's why you stay in contact throught phone & emails.

    I am lucky that I am comfortable and they live 40 minutes away. Perfect.

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    I love my family and I don't mind being around them, but I think being too close to family your whole life smothers you. I currently am about 350 miles away from my family - it's a drive I can make in 6 hours if need be but far enough way that I have my own life, and I plan to move even farther away soon. When I'm around them, they still treat me like a teenager and want to know every little aspect of my life. I've always been a private person and can't stand being treated like a child when I'm taking care of myself now. Relatives (usually) have the best intentions but I've met very few people who agree 100% with what what their parents think is best for their lives. You need room to grow. My parents were so disappointed when I told them I wasn't moving back home after college, but I know that I would make less money in a shitty job back there and be miserable with my lack of independence. I've been trying hard lately to convince them that it's not that I don't love them, but I just need space to be my own adult. And, if it comes down to money, I think that's another aspect where you shouldn't let family smother you - if you have the opportunities to make yourself comfortable, you should strike out on your own and not let worrying about hurting your family hold you back from achieving more success. Children leave eventually - that's just how it works. It means the parents have done their job right in making them into strong, independent adults who follow their dreams.

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    Default Re: What would u choose?

    We live in an era where to travel the world, it takes less than a day. I am moderately well off, and live a great distance from my family. They're still only a 4 hour flight from me at all times, though.
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    Family - no contest.
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