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    Default Being you, when everyone else doesn't want you to be

    I know this is a cliche topic. But honestly how do you go about being true to yourself when everyone around you doesn't like that part of you. You know I'm only 21, I'm a single mom, college student. Blah blah blah. For the longest time I walked around with a stick up my ass because I was bitter, hurt, and just no fun at all! I was mad at the world I guess because "I" got pregnant which is no one's fault but mine. Anyway my daughter is the most beautiful person I know and I will do anything for her. But people don't understand that I am also still young. My mom is willing to watch her sometimes so I can have fun and go out. But I have a tendency to get wild when I go out so I just stopped going out. But I realized that's just who I am. I'm fun, wild, crazy, sexual, and a whole bunch of other things. Yes I am also a loving mother too who is working very hard in school, but that's not even half of "ME". I just want to finally show people who i am without having to apologize for being me. How can I go about this?

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    Default Re: Being you, when everyone else doesn't want you to be

    Quote Originally Posted by MarinaTurner89 View Post
    But I have a tendency to get wild when I go out so I just stopped going out. But I realized that's just who I am. I'm fun, wild, crazy, sexual, and a whole bunch of other things. Yes I am also a loving mother too who is working very hard in school, but that's not even half of "ME". I just want to finally show people who i am without having to apologize for being me. How can I go about this?
    Hmm..that's a hard one. As single, young, mother, you are most likely to be hyper-judged, because of your situation, by everyone! And yeah, even when your daughter grows up and all the 'right' things have been done, if she has a moment of teenage rebelliousness (not a word), you will STILL be harshly judged as a (if you still are one by that time) single mother for her rearing.

    I'm not sure how much of this judgement of women like you in your situation is reflective on you or your child, or both, but I think the thing to do best is to retain your dignity and self respect, and people looking at you can only judge you from that.

    As long as you put your best foot forward on things (your life, career, etc) and you genuinely try in life, no one can really criticize you for your party habits, as long as you're not doing anything too crazy when you party, like snorting coke in front of the kid or bringing home an orgy or anything like that, no one should have anything against you.

    it's just the society we live in. don't worry about what other people think about you.
    I wish I knew what I was doing...

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