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    I have a nice customer visits me. The only trouble is that he caress my skin during lap dances. He lightly caresses me like my boyfriend. While I love it when my boyfriend does it, it bothers me when customer does it.

    Should I risk lossing him by tell him to stop or just grin and bare it?

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    I have one of those. I take his hand in mine and trace patterns up his wrist. It gives me the control, he still gets skin-to-skin contact and probably enjoys my 'affection' to him more than if it were vice versa. This is a guy who tried most of the French speaking girls (he doesn't speak English) but the others schitzed out when he tried to caress them, so I got him and his wallet

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    Have you simply just asked him to stop?
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    You don't have to put up with anything you are uncomfortable with. You don't owe that guy shit. I've had guys who didn't even touch me or do anything in particular, but they way they looked at me and something about them creeped me out, so I cut them off. TRUST ME, don't subject yourself to anything that makes you uncomfortable, no matter how small it is, for the money or because you don't want to hurt his feelings, or whatever. There are a ton of good customers out there who won't creep you out or make you feel that way (I don't know how to describe it, but I know how you are feeling, like he's touching you in a personal way reserved for your boyfriend).
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    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post
    Have you simply just asked him to stop?

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    Quote Originally Posted by fanofone View Post
    I have a nice customer visits me. The only trouble is that he caress my skin during lap dances. He lightly caresses me like my boyfriend. While I love it when my boyfriend does it, it bothers me when customer does it.

    Should I risk lossing him by tell him to stop or just grin and bare it?
    I want to reiterate.... NEVER GRIN AND BARE IT!!! You don't realize the psychological damage you are doing to yourself by allowing guys to do things out of your comfort zone and boundaries, whether it's things they are doing to you, saying to you, how they talk to you, whatever, if it it gives you that uncomfortable feeling, that's your intuition telling you to stop!

    "I have a nice customer who visits me.... should I risk losing him by telling him to stop or just grin and bare it" You need to get out of this mentality asap!!! There are no "nice" guys who frequent strip clubs. He's a sick perv who has to pay to caress a girl probably because he's a sociopath and doesn't know how to approach women as people, so he pays them in the strip club. You HAVE to understand that the majority of men who walk through those doors are scum of scum..... I don't really count groups of guys celebrating or bachelor parties, but those guys who go in by themselves to "caress" girls, that should be a HUGE red flag. This is not some sweet nice guy you are dealing with....
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    Ummmm.... I wish light caressing was my only problem.....
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    Quote Originally Posted by BunniHops View Post
    Ummmm.... I wish light caressing was my only problem.....
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    I feel ya. I would honestly rather have to keep swatting a guy's hands away from my boobs than have him caress me intimately. it just feels wrong. same with kissing I'd never kiss a customer even on the cheek it's SO personal.

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    Just zone out. The moment you let him know he grosses you out, even if you do it kindly, is when the fantasy ends for him and the money ceases. How good a cust is he?

    Like, $40 a month good, or $400 a week good? Part of being a stripper is the ability to accept discomfort with the job.

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    ^ Up to a point I completely agree with you. But honestly, OP, you never have to put up with something that takes you outside your comfort zone. Though you may find your comfort zone changes significantly the longer you do this.
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    This customer's fantasy is that dancer enjoy giving him dances. Many dancers in the past have told that they enjoy his touch. If I tell him to stop, he will find another dancer. I have to decide if am I willing to lose his money.

    Thanks for advice

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    You should not do anything you are uncomfotable with, but I agree that if you ask him to stop he'll likely not buy dances from you anymore.

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    all idiots think that the sex worker enjoys the job beyond the money. he is not special. did he buy you a car? why is this a discussion? what am i missing?


    Quote Originally Posted by fanofone View Post
    This customer's fantasy is that dancer enjoy giving him dances. Many dancers in the past have told that they enjoy his touch. If I tell him to stop, he will find another dancer. I have to decide if am I willing to lose his money.

    Thanks for advice

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    Its never worth it, so if you don't like it then you have to say something. I've cut lots of guys off for different reasons, or told them to stop doing x,y, or Z. I've had guys try to caress my face (I hate people touching my face), I've had guys try to pull my hair. Most times they stop and keep on buying dances from me. I put up with shit when I was a newbie, but after a few years I dont put up with much.

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    I know dancers say put up with it, but money comes and goes. I mean is any amount of money or designer handbags etc. worth letting people touch our bodies in an unwanted manner. There is a price to pay actually if you don't speak up.

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    Ugh - I hate when customers touch you "intimately" - like in the way only a bf should. There was one regular to the club who came in practically every day who "fell in love" with me and would touch me like that all the time. I finally got fed up when he started cupping my cheek and touching my face. God - I was less phased by guys grabbing my boobs. Face-touching and soft caressing is just... ugh - that's so private! I told him "Stop. You're making me uncomfortable." He didn't stop so I just started avoiding him. Unless he's single-handedly paying all your bills and funding extravagant vacations with his money, this guy isn't worth it. Let him move on to someone else. I know a girl in my club who gave up her $300 a day, 3 days a week regular when he pushed his boundaries. Your comfort is more important than his fantasy. There's always another guy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by J.D. View Post
    I want to reiterate.... NEVER GRIN AND BARE IT!!! You don't realize the psychological damage you are doing to yourself by allowing guys to do things out of your comfort zone and boundaries, whether it's things they are doing to you, saying to you, how they talk to you, whatever, if it it gives you that uncomfortable feeling, that's your intuition telling you to stop!

    "I have a nice customer who visits me.... should I risk losing him by telling him to stop or just grin and bare it" You need to get out of this mentality asap!!! There are no "nice" guys who frequent strip clubs. He's a sick perv who has to pay to caress a girl probably because he's a sociopath and doesn't know how to approach women as people, so he pays them in the strip club. You HAVE to understand that the majority of men who walk through those doors are scum of scum..... I don't really count groups of guys celebrating or bachelor parties, but those guys who go in by themselves to "caress" girls, that should be a HUGE red flag. This is not some sweet nice guy you are dealing with....
    She's absolutely right! That can really damage you! I had a customer just like that, he would go to the club by himself at the same day, hour and spend the same amount of money every week on me, he started to get to personal and started to freak me out. That still haunts me until today. I really let him go too far by meeting him outside the club for lunch one day, after that I realized he was just a creepo, and stopped answering his calls and stopped going to the club the days that I knew he would be there for a while. I get disgusted every time I remember him.

    I say just be careful, those are the kind of customers that might follow you home and stalk you, so you would better stay away from them

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    ^^ Exactly, I had a creepy customer like that. One night he waited for me outside the club and he tried to get into the taxi with me. Don't let them get too intimate with you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KS_Stevia View Post
    Just zone out. The moment you let him know he grosses you out, even if you do it kindly, is when the fantasy ends for him and the money ceases. How good a cust is he?

    Like, $40 a month good, or $400 a week good? Part of being a stripper is the ability to accept discomfort with the job.
    agreed
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    ^ Up to a point I completely agree with you. But honestly, OP, you never have to put up with something that takes you outside your comfort zone. Though you may find your comfort zone changes significantly the longer you do this.
    also agreed but this case seems fairly benign
    Quote Originally Posted by fanofone View Post
    This customer's fantasy is that dancer enjoy giving him dances. Many dancers in the past have told that they enjoy his touch. If I tell him to stop, he will find another dancer. I have to decide if am I willing to lose his money.

    Thanks for advice
    so there ya go. either you are cool with it or not. if not don't do it. like i said before it's a fairly benign request.
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