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    Hi,

    I'm the bf of a stripper. We've been together for months, and have moved in to live together. If you want a brief history of my feelings about her stripping you'll find it in (Please read the whole thread, or at least most of it, before you form your opinion on me )

    Anyway, something which has been bothering me lately is that when I pick up my gf from work and we go home, I'm kinda grossed out thinking about the old men she's danced for, and the smell of sweat, hairspray, body-spray & perfume on her grosses me out. So I normally ask if she'll take a shower. At first she didn't mind, and we took showers together, which was fun. However recently, she's been saying she is too tired to even take her makeup off when we get home from work. She still expects me to cuddle with her in bed, but I'm totally repulsed by it. I know its kind of irrational, and that there is no physical harm in it, and its still my girlfriend beside me. Maybe its a psychological thing, but I feel much better when she showers, and she feels clean and smells nice and we can be comfortable in bed together.

    What do you girls think? Do you shower when you get home from work? Am I being unreasonable for wanting her to? Am I being a dick for sleeping with my back to her when she doesn't, because I get grossed out thinking about the smell of other men?

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    Dancing for a few hours will leave ya kinda funky, I'm on your side. It has nothing to do with other men, it is just a physically demanding job that should end with a shower.
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    I agree, the smoke smell alone is repulsive. I was never up when my ex came home so this wasn't a issue but yeah, I don't think your asking to much.

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    She should be showering for her own well-being. Going to sleep with all that make-up and dried sweat is bad for the skin. It's not even about the dancing for other people; I wouldn't expect anyone to cuddle with me after coming home from the gym, and I'm certainly not going to cuddle anyone that smells.

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    I agree with showering but sometimes I was too tired to do anything but sleep. This was true when I worked until 4am-7am (yep often worked this late). However, I can understand you not wanting to cuddle until she smelled better because I often smelled awful when returning home.

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    It isnt asking too much. With all the sweat and bo it isnt good for your health not to shower even its just a 5 min quick one. This may sound bad but u can get infections from not keeping down there clean..Even if ur taking a half awake half asleep shower a dancer should do it for health reasons.

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    I used to crash at a friend's house sometimes after work and she was the neatest, cleanest, most OCD person I ever met. And in 4+ years when she didn't have a man waiting at home for her she did not take a shower after work. She would take off all her makeup, do facial treatments, then either take a quick washup or not and go straight to bed. This was the same person who made adults hand sanitize their hands before eating at her house and at restaurants and used to go home and go to sleep dirty. I never understood this phenomenon. I lived with a roommate who was the same way. I don't get it.

    We have all been entirely too tired after a long nite of partying or working once or twice, but on the regular seriously wtf? I am so tired sometimes I sit in the tub as the water is starting and scrub and clean as it fills so that by the time it's up to the overflow line I'm done when it is. I've scrubbed clean and immersed my body in some water with soap and am satisfied that I have all sweat and ugh off. You are not wrong to ask. Perhaps, try running water for her and lighting candles. Let her know when she comes in that you know she is tired so you prepared water and maybe her favorite drink/soda/juice and a light snack for her. Sometimes when we come in we just want to sit. Sitting leads to relaxing and then sleeping. She probably doesn't mean to fall asleep, but since you all sleep together it is a valid concern.
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    After work, she's exhausted. Have you tried helping her decompress, once you're home? Its cute that you used to shower together but since you're sort of out of that phase, it would still be nice to sort of nudge self-care by showing you're willing to help her come down, after a hard night at work. Maybe get a hot cup of tea for her,once she's home and let her relax. While she's sipping on that, you can run the shower and pick out some night clothes for her to slip into, right after. Check in with her and gently remind her that her shower is ready and everything is prepared for her to come to bed. Give her time to ease out of work-mode, rather than just mechanically move from work to home to shower to bed.

    Should we want to shower after a shift? Yes, obviously but its work and work sucks sometimes and all we want to do is come home and crash. Have some sympathy and try to make coming home a pleasant time and provide a very soothing environment for her, once she's there. Remind her, every night how good it feels to take the extra 30 minutes or an hour to take her hair down, wipe off the makeup and wash the night off of her. She'll be grateful for your concern and likely return the favors when you have a hard day at work, in the future.
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    At the very LEAST she should be taking her makeup off. My god, I try to imagine going to sleep with all the heavy makeup I wear to strip...my skin would go crazy, and my pillowcase would be ruined.

    I understand being too tired to shower, especially if her hair takes as long to dry as mine does. A bubble bath is always an option, and few things are more relaxing after eight hours dancing at the club.

    But yeah, she should at least be taking off her makeup. That's kinda gross, and her skin will be atrocious in the future if she neglects it regularly.

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    I NEVER EVER go to bed without a shower. I don't care how exhausted I am. My house is my sanctuary. I want NOTHING from work coming home with me. Plus, I always feel as if I have a layer of grime I need to wash off. No way would I go to bed, especially with my man, without showering after work.
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    I always shower after work. I smell like my hair was used to filter 10,000 cigarettes and it totally grosses me out. I have come home from work feeling like I was about to drop dead from exhaustion and I still dragged my ass into the shower.
    Plus I wear body make up, so a shower is sort of necessary to get that off.

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    i'm trying to wrap my head around this idea of regularly asking someone to take a shower . i swear nothing on this site makes any sense to me.

    "hey, could you take a shower?"

    like..what? i'm so confused. why are we dating if you can't shower without me reminding you?

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    I always shower after work. Always have, always will. I, myself, am disgusted by the body spray, glitter, sweat, and the idea of rubbing up on nasty random men and women, not to mention I work in a nude club, so possibly having other women's vagina juices on me...YUCK.

    I try not to think about that last one too much.

    So no, it's not too much to ask. She is being gross. end of story.
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    Quote Originally Posted by vivianbear View Post
    After work, she's exhausted. Have you tried helping her decompress, once you're home? Its cute that you used to shower together but since you're sort of out of that phase, it would still be nice to sort of nudge self-care by showing you're willing to help her come down, after a hard night at work. Maybe get a hot cup of tea for her,once she's home and let her relax. While she's sipping on that, you can run the shower and pick out some night clothes for her to slip into, right after. Check in with her and gently remind her that her shower is ready and everything is prepared for her to come to bed. Give her time to ease out of work-mode, rather than just mechanically move from work to home to shower to bed.

    Should we want to shower after a shift? Yes, obviously but its work and work sucks sometimes and all we want to do is come home and crash. Have some sympathy and try to make coming home a pleasant time and provide a very soothing environment for her, once she's there. Remind her, every night how good it feels to take the extra 30 minutes or an hour to take her hair down, wipe off the makeup and wash the night off of her. She'll be grateful for your concern and likely return the favors when you have a hard day at work, in the future.
    Thank you! I was thinking the same thing but you phrased it much better!

    Run the shower for her, buy her some nice soaps and cleansers from Lush (www.lush.com). Make the shower something relaxing to look forward to, not a chore to dread. How about a bath with some nice bath bombs instead? Light some candles, make it a nice thing. That could be even more relaxing. Lower the psychological barriers to action by lowering the cost (run the shower for her, get things prepared, etc). Let her know how much you appreciate her taking those showers. Positive re-enforcement goes a heck of a lot further than nagging or even a polite request.
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    I shower after work. I'm always afraid that if I don't my skin is going to break-out or I'll get a rash. Plus, if I picked up any germs from work I don't want to lay down in bed with them... that's more likely to give them a chance to sit in & make me sick. I scrub everything when I get home.

    With that said, if I had to take my evening showers with someone else... I would NOT be happy. You might try letting her shower alone & offering to make her dinner, or a cup of tea to enjoy when she gets out.
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    I have to shower when I come home even if I only run out and do only a hour show. She should want to get all the cooties that are on here. What is a 5 minute shower? She will sleep better and feel better. I agree with you 100% that she should shower or she gets your back! Sucks that you have to tell others sometime to do the most simplest things... but hey that's life! Good luck, hope it gets better.

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    I think not taking a shower after sweating your ass off is disgusting....... I could only see myself doing that if I worked 3 days non stop..... and I think I'd just throw a blanket on the floor and sleep there if that ever happened. Gross. Just my opinion though.

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    ....do some people really regard showering as a chore?

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    Thank you! I was thinking the same thing but you phrased it much better!

    Run the shower for her, buy her some nice soaps and cleansers from Lush (www.lush.com). Make the shower something relaxing to look forward to, not a chore to dread. How about a bath with some nice bath bombs instead? Light some candles, make it a nice thing. That could be even more relaxing. Lower the psychological barriers to action by lowering the cost (run the shower for her, get things prepared, etc). Let her know how much you appreciate her taking those showers. Positive re-enforcement goes a heck of a lot further than nagging or even a polite request.

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    I have to shower when I come home even if I only run out and do only a hour show. She should want to get all the cooties that are on here. What is a 5 minute shower? She will sleep better and feel better. I agree with you 100% that she should shower or she gets your back! Sucks that you have to tell others sometime to do the most simplest things... but hey that's life! Good luck, hope it gets better.

    A 5 minute shower is when ur tired and u wash the essential body parts..it is possible to clean fairly well in 5 minutes if its necessary.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shift_6x View Post
    A 5 minute shower is when ur tired and u wash the essential body parts..it is possible to clean fairly well in 5 minutes if its necessary.

    less than 5 if you dont wash your hair right?

    It just seems to me that "stripper" is one of those jobs where you REALLY would want to shower after work.

    Plumber, Pro Athlete, Construction Worker, Medical Professional, etc.

    Its not just the sweat and cosmetics......its the other people you are in close contact with.

    While I'm sure there are lots of clean customers that you come in contact with..... I am equally as sure that you are coming in contact with some disgusting motherfuckers who are pawing at you after going to the bathroom and not washing their hands...cumming in their pants or hands....saliva...etc.....

    and then just take all of that and get it all over your sheets? yuck.

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    The outbreak of MRSA in athletes in the past few yrs has cemented in my mind the need to shower asap after contact with others! Not trying to be OCD or germ crazy but seriously I also work in a hospital environment and you would not believe how common staph and skin infections are!

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    Alright, I'm probably gonna get a lot of flak for this, since I"m apparently the only nasty one on here lol But I often didn't shower after work. I would scrub my face, scrub out my crotch and armpits, and make sure to always sleep in something fresh but that was about it. I wouldn't shower until the next morning unless it was an unusually hot and sticky night in the club. We have no-smoking in my town so I didn't have to deal with that. My hair takes forever to dry so I knew I wouldn't be washing it, and when I got home at 4am, I just figured why put forth the energy to jump in the shower when I'm going to do it in a few more hours to wash all over when I wake up anyway. Most of the time, my club was freezing and I would rarely sweat. I never felt like I could possibly stink that badly that I would be repulsive for a few hours in bed, and nobody ever told me otherwise. However, if she truly smells, that's one thing. When I could tell I stank I would shower. But I feel like for you, it's just a psychological thing where you "feel" like you can smell other men on her and are just skeeved out by the thought that she was rubbing on other people. Personally, I would be offended if my bf slept with his back to me after I just spent 6 hours dealing with assholes and creeps... I'm guessing she normally has good hygiene otherwise, and this is just her putting off showering for a few hours to sleep first - if not, then I would worry about her overall health...

    If she really smells (sweat, cigarettes especially - I would have always showered if I smelled like smoke) then try to phrase it in a way that doesn't put her on the defensive and make her feel like you aren't sympathetic to how hard she just worked. Unless you always immediately jump in the shower after you get home from work, I would remember that most people like to relax first, especially if they worked a night shift. I like the idea of running a bath for her so it's right there for when she gets home and she can sit. I would have been happy to wash if my bf always had a bath waiting for me lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by camille27 View Post
    ....do some people really regard showering as a chore?
    I do. I still do it daily, but yes, it's a chore to me.

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    Sometimes, the mind and the body are just TOO tired and wrung out, to do even the most simple and essential of things.....
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    ^If not shower, then ask her to baby wipe. That's a good idea.

    Really though, if she works in a high contact club she should be more worried about germs and rashes and infections. Damn, the number of rashes I've had from work is unbelievable; and I shower after every shift. I don't always wash my hair, but just hopping into a warm shower, scrubbing myself off real quick, and then toweling and applying moisturizer makes me feel so good and sleepy. I look forward to it after men touch me all night and the puss/ass is all sweaty.

    Depends on the contact level of her club. If shes someplace low contact and topless then don't let it bother you too much, just take BOTM's advice about a brief sponge bath with babywipes.



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