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    Does anyone else out there believe that dancing is food for their soul? For me, those 12 minutes on stage are the only time in my life when I feel at peace.



    I had been a Native American exhibition dancer from the ages of about 2-18. My entire life until I left home was traveling and dancing for audiences, dancing at plays, at events, for people who were ill, the list just goes on. I *lived* in my regalia, basically. Then, when I turned 18 and went off to college it abruptly stopped--and man, I have never experienced such depression. My mother abandoned the circle after all of her relatives and several of her friends died. I know that it would just make sense to go back--but it feels so painfully wrong going back to something without her.


    I'm not trained in ballet, modern, jazz, tap...(which had I been, I'll admit I'd be doing that right now) so lacking any experience that could translate into the convenient dance world I saw stripping as my only option of being able to ever experience the comfort of performing again. So here I am, 7 years later.



    I've always had a problem with the financial aspect of it. I can wholeheartedly say that I've never really cared about how much money I make. I've tried to stop several times but every time I do I feel so empty because I am deprived of the performance experience. It may sound cheesy, but I feel like I live for dancing.



    I guess what I am trying to ask: Is it truly so bad if someone is doing this for non-financial reasons?

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    I won't say it's bad just a little puzzling. To me bad is clubbing baby seals or kicking a puppy. Hey, whatever floats your boat.

    I do it for business pure and simple. Just don't give away freebies on the floor.
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    ^lol. You always crack me up^^

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    I don't think it's bad at all! Aside from the money - I enjoy exotic dancing; makes me feel liberated! Even before I contemplated being a stripper, I was totally IN LOVE with Burlesque and wanted to be a show girl, and loved dressing in lingerie, etc.

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    It's not bad, just unusual. I think if you have a TRUE love for dance and stripping REALLY fulfills you, then good for you! It's a rarity though, and I think MOST women who say they dance purely for fulfillment or to cure some underlying mental illness are full of shit.

    It's kinda refreshing to hear from someone who enjoys stripping for the dancing and stage aspect of it, and money is on the back-burner.

    You're like a Unicorn.

    I'd say just be aware that most other women are in the business for money so don't do any of that "uncouth" stripper stuff (like chatting too long with customers, or dancing for less than the set price).

    I hope you continue to enjoy stage shows for many years to come! I hate em! Haha.

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    I won't say it's bad just a little puzzling. To me bad is clubbing baby seals or kicking a puppy. Hey, whatever floats your boat.

    I do it for business pure and simple. Just don't give away freebies on the floor.

    I've clubbed and gutted a seal or two in my day...



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    Yes it is, and dancing in platform heels is horrible for your back,womb and knees. Make your money!

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    Default Re: Is it awful if one isn't doing this for the money?

    Quote Originally Posted by ZePeanut View Post
    Does anyone else out there believe that dancing is food for their soul? For me, those 12 minutes on stage are the only time in my life when I feel at peace.



    I had been a Native American exhibition dancer from the ages of about 2-18. My entire life until I left home was traveling and dancing for audiences, dancing at plays, at events, for people who were ill, the list just goes on. I *lived* in my regalia, basically. Then, when I turned 18 and went off to college it abruptly stopped--and man, I have never experienced such depression. My mother abandoned the circle after all of her relatives and several of her friends died. I know that it would just make sense to go back--but it feels so painfully wrong going back to something without her.


    I'm not trained in ballet, modern, jazz, tap...(which had I been, I'll admit I'd be doing that right now) so lacking any experience that could translate into the convenient dance world I saw stripping as my only option of being able to ever experience the comfort of performing again. So here I am, 7 years later.



    I've always had a problem with the financial aspect of it. I can wholeheartedly say that I've never really cared about how much money I make. I've tried to stop several times but every time I do I feel so empty because I am deprived of the performance experience. It may sound cheesy, but I feel like I live for dancing.



    I guess what I am trying to ask: Is it truly so bad if someone is doing this for non-financial reasons?

    I don't think it's bad at all. I'm the same way -I started when I was in college & I didn't need the money really. Needing the money is alil different now that I'm an adult now, though! Lol! But I'm in love w/ my job as well. I'll be really sad when that day finally comes when I have to stop. I don't think they'll let me on stage when I'm 60 -hahah!

    Don't worry, your not alone, girl!

    Btw,I also see your Native American too! A few coincidences here, huh!

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    Quote Originally Posted by natyempress View Post
    Yes it is, and dancing in platform heels is horrible for your back,womb and knees. Make your money!
    How are platform heels bad for your womb?
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    Default Re: Is it awful if one isn't doing this for the money?

    Okay, so I understand that you are not that interested in the financial aspect... but I bet you bank!

    My best nights have always been when I don't feel like I HAVE to make $$$ - it would be nice, but I'm not desperate for it.
    Plus, girls who are having fun and seem to enjoy their job are always more appealing to the customer.

    Ironically, I bet it's this exact attitude that makes you a high-earner (of course, I'm just speculating here - I have no idea what you make).

    In any case, of course it's not bad! If you can make a living doing something you truly enjoy, then you have got the majority of people beat! Isn't that kind of the dream?
    I'm still searching for something that I love to do that I can profit from - kudos to you for finding that thing and sticking with it!
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    I love going on stage.....
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    Zepeanut & JD~ perfect reason to become a feature entertainer! After I started dancing, I realized that the stage was where I did my best work so I became a feature.

    Some are born to sell dances, some are born stage performers!

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    Default Re: Is it awful if one isn't doing this for the money?

    I always loved dancing on stage. It was the time where I could showcase my skills along with being the center of attention. So no I don't think it's wrong.

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    I like getting free drugs and big cock
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    ^ Haha .

    No , I don't really think it's *bad* but there are so many other avenues . Why not do burlesque or some other time type of dance if it's for expression only? Stripping is such a pain the ass with the weird hours and everything. I can't really relate to stage being fun. I like the one on one aspect of dancing .... like when you sell a string of dances or a champagne room and the guy is just ABSORBED in the experience. I find that fun. Stage is only fun to me when people of throwing TONS of money and and so 95% of the time ( when it's just ok money on stage ) , I really hate being up there.
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    I like getting big cock too.... but the big does not always equal good. I like the average length 5 1/2-6 1/2 really fat ones so I can get on top without feeling like I'm getting stabbed in my uterus. They have be really fat though. I HATE HATE HATE long, average girth to skinnyish dicks. Pencil dicks suck!
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    I had a hate love thing whenit came to the stage. I danced for me, so i didn't make tips on stage. It was more like I loved to dance and do pole work it felt like i was having a great work out and when I got hot i could take off my clothes however that meant i didnt really take the time to get any tips. I could make it walkin the floor tho.
    I'm here to make money. NOT make friends, if I make a friend then it's a bonus.

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    Dude, it's not her "world" it's her job. It's not some sort of Pavlovian trance that dancers go into when they smell money, it's simply how they make a living.

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    is it bad to enjoy your job? no. why would it be?
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Default Re: Is it awful if one isn't doing this for the money?

    I love stage dancing too. It was always my favorite part of the night. The main reason I went to stripping instead of a different job was my love of dancing. I don't think it's bad that you aren't doing this for money, but I do find it a little odd. I loved dancing but I wouldn't have done the whole job of stripping if I wasn't getting paid - I have my own pole and plenty of male friends who would be happy to watch me if I wanted to just dance for free lol I agree that maybe you could try finding a different avenue to dance and perform, unless you really like the whole aspect of stripping, in which case, good for you! It's nice that there are girls who do this and really do love it for reasons besides the money.

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    It would be awful if you gave away freebies, fucking shit up for everybody else. Other than that, no. Do what makes you happy.

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    I love my job! It's one of the reasons Im all light and fun and happy when I get to go to work. I feel fulfilled by it...IDK why, maybe the attention I get?

    For me, it's not just the money (although Im really good at getting it). There's more to it than that. Most people, my husband and best friend included, don't understand it.

    It's not the stage I like most, though. I like ALL of it, including the lap dances, selling, and stage.

    I'd have to say I like my job about as much as anyone who likes their job does. 80% of the time I love it, 20% of the time I don't love it as much.
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    For me, it was always about the money, but that's me. If you love to dance, then by all means do it. Stripping definitely is a more reliable source of income than many dancing jobs. So don't feel bad, feel good about stripping!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nakita Kash View Post
    Zepeanut & JD~ perfect reason to become a feature entertainer! After I started dancing, I realized that the stage was where I did my best work so I became a feature.

    Some are born to sell dances, some are born stage performers!

    That is one of my dreams!! Do you enjoy it? I would love to be a feature dancer or a burlesque performer someday=)

    Thankyou for being supportive and understanding, everyone^^

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    There is nothing wrong with loving what you do. So many girls view stripping as this last-resort, only option left, culmination of a downward spiral sort of solution, that it's refreshing to see someone who legitimately enjoys it.

    However...the money you make should be an enjoyable part of it, too

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    can we start a big cock picture thread?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zofia View Post
    For me, it was always about the money, but that's me. If you love to dance, then by all means do it. Stripping definitely is a more reliable source of income than many dancing jobs. So don't feel bad, feel good about stripping!

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