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    Default stage show is messing with my confidence

    my stage show is really messing with me. the fact of people at the club always raggin on me about not dancing like a black girl. now, my confidence in everyday life hell i'm good. but i feel like because i don't make as much money from my stage shows as the other girls sometimes i feel like something is wrong. then after that i hear these customers telling me it was hot they enjoyed it. i'm good but i'm like ok.. if im that good why didn't you get your ass up an tip me (thas what i'm thinking to myself). doesn't anyone dance slow and sensual anymore wtf. i be watching myself in the mirror as i'm dancing and i don't think i'm all that bad. hell i do more than some of the other chics and they still get more tips than me HELL WTF...

    now the reason i say its messing with my confidence is because after i come off stage i'm shy to hustle drinks. i still try to venture off and do it but its so damn hard. i know i'm new to the club but i've never in all my years of hostessing had such a hard time hustle'n drink fuck.

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    Default Re: stage show is messing with my confidence

    So before I reply are u a dancer? Or SHot girl? And if a shot girl than they make u dance?

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    Default Re: stage show is messing with my confidence

    ^^
    I am going to assume she is a dancer, I'm pretty sure Hawaii has drink commission. I think your problem is that you are letting it show too much that you are self conscious up there. You can't put that much thought into how your stage show is and constantly worry about it because believe me, it DOES show and that will hurt your money more than anything. I've seen girls that couldn't dance to save their life but still banked on stage because they were still showing they were happy and having a good time, that matters more than how you dance as long as you can keep the crowd happy.

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    Im with Michele on this. You have to be confident. If your not than it can hurt your tips definetly. When you go at it go hard. When I have danced I go hard. i find a song to zone out to and than just show what I got. I do alot of pole tricks so I have so much fun doing them I dont pay attention to being self conscious because I know someone will be impressed. Pretty much dont let what other people think affect how u feel on stage. Your dancing for you and no matter what there will be a few guys that will be impressed. I have been in clubs where its rare for guys to come up to tip rail for any girls. Because they are shy. I have learned that the guys are there yes but most are shy or just come to relax.

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    jayslittlekitten22: i'm a dancer.

    Michele.2: your very right. my biggest thing is i need to work on my moves but. i took your advice tonight i was like fuck it. have fun. i didn't make hella money but i did have fun.

    about how long did it take your to finally start bringing in 200+ a night. i seem to always end up in the 100 range maybe low 200 range. i sat down an calculated, i'm still making more money than if i had a regular job, but i'm just saying. i get kinda irrated cuz the other girls are making more than me by far but that have been doing it longer than 5 days so i guess i'm doing good.

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    Glad you took my advice Not saying you shouldn't practice moves to become a better dancer, but with everything else in this business that will come with time. The main thing is don't look nervous up there, and smile smile smile, show you are having a good time even if you aren't, that's what the guys want, they are in there to have a good time so of course they are going to pick a girl that looks happy over one that is moping around. Another big thing lots of girls do is give up on stage and not give a fuck if no one is tipping, that hurts you even more cause then they definitely aren't going to tip you, it sucks and we all hate it but lots of guys wait til your last song to tip.

    As far as your money, if you can average $200 in Hawaii, excuse me if I'm wrong because this isn't coming from personal experience but I had a few friends in Hawaii recently that told me averaging $200 a night was pretty good for them, could also be because of a different club and area too. Also remember girls can be catty and mean, especially to new girls, they may just be trying to intimidate you so it is very possible they are lying to you about their earnings. Aside from that there really is no way to answer when you will start making more, it depends on how fast you learn the business and get your hustling style down.

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    Default Re: stage show is messing with my confidence

    If you have no confidence you have no hustle, IMO. I'm kind of new though so take my advice with a grain of salt. When you say people are raggin' on you, do you mean staff, other dancers, or customers? If it is the other dancers don't worry about it. If its the customers than maybe you should try to incorporate that style into your dancing but make it your own.
    I've been working 2 days a week (weekends) for a whole month now and for the first time ever my manager complimented me on my stage dancing this past weekend, said I was 'all grown up.' It takes time.

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    lokikola: its mostly staff and dancers. i was talking to one of the cocktail waitresses (she danced for 18 years) she was telling me that the other girls are jealous that's why they say things like that. and to me that was the silliest thing in the world. i'm like ugh they make way more money than me jealous of what. but maybe its a booty thing i dunno.

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    Default Re: stage show is messing with my confidence

    Quote Originally Posted by jayslittlekitten22 View Post
    So before I reply are u a dancer? Or SHot girl? And if a shot girl than they make u dance?
    Why would she post this is she was a shot girl? lol srry i just had to ask. Although I have seen some shot girls dance for customers, they're not supposed to.

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