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    Ladies! What do you do when you approach a group of guys, single one out and as soon as you start chatting to him, he points to his friend and says "He's the one with the money, you should try and get money out of him."

    What is this? Some kind of shit-test? Guys all know you're after their money but I try not to emphasize it because I find they start paying out more when they think you care more about them than the money. So is he testing you to see which you care more about? Is he trying to pawn you off, and therefore should you approach his friend? Is he being honest? Or is it some kind of weird male personal joke with his friend?

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    Could be any of the above. What I do is try to let him know I like him and would prefer spending my time with him. If he balks you can always try someone else and come back when he's good and jealous. Otherwise he's just along for the ride so skip him.
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    I hate these guys with a passion; it's too easy to get caught up trying to prove you're not just after money, even though you are, and spend too long talking without making anything. I made that mistake too many times. Now I take it as a red flag to get out of there quickly (and politely of course). They can be good come-back-to-later guys though.

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    When guys say this I just ask him why. Usually I'll do this while asking what the occasion is. "Why's that, what are you guys celebrating?" Could be that it's his boss who is treating him, or that he's the best man and it's a bachelor party, or something like that. So then you can dance for the guy they're celebrating. And if they don't have a good answer chances are he's just trying to see your reaction and I would probably excuse myself quickly as I don't like guys who try to play tricks and games.

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    They're trying to pawn you off on their friend.

    Seriously, fuck those guys. In my experience neither of them have money or interest in buying dances. It's not a test, they're just don't have the balls to say "I'm not interested.".

    Maybe, and I Mean MAYBE, it's one of those rare occasions where the guy who says that knows his buddy already had his eye on you, so it's always good to gauge body language to see if his friend 'with all the money' is interested. Usually though, it's because they want you to go away.

    "Haha. I doubt it. Your both broke. Bye" - and just walk away.



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    I agree with Ev, it's just a way to get you to go away without rejecting you.
    It's just another form of "Sorry, I'm out of money." Whether it's true or not - it means 'please leave now.'
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    ^Why are men such pussys? Stop dicking around the strippers, and just say No. I'd rather hear "No, not interested." than some lame line that'll takes up my time. Stop trying to be nice in your 'let down'. I don't mind hearing No. I get told No a LOT. As dancers, it rolls off our backs. All I care about are the "Yes's".

    Plus, if all guys who really weren't interested said No, then we'd know when the one in a million customer who says shit like "He has all the money" are being serious. Instead, we're left guessing.



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    ^It's because some strippers get bitchy when they hear "no"... if girls didn't get all *hands on the hips* No? What the fuck are you doing here if you're not going to buy dances? I'm the best looking girl you could ever hope to get and you're just a loser who has to pay to look at naked women. blahblahblah and men wouldn't be afraid of saying no.
    Some guys are just pussies... but for others lying is a learned behavior out of necessity to protect themselves from psycho strippers.
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    i am losing my fucking mind and i really just want this chloroform dream because i think that would just get me right with jesus.

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    ^True. Never thought of that.



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    FUCK this annoys me!!! Loll..

    Normally when a guy says 'You should try my friend I think he wants a dance...'

    I say 'Oh, are you shouting him? Hey friend!! Your mate here is shouting you a dance!!'

    Because 9 times out of 10 his friend will not buy the dance, they just want to fuck around and waste my time because they're too pussy to say sorry, we are cheap/shy/frigid etc and won't spend any money.

    It also annoys me when they're like 'Sorry, I'm sorry I'm not going to buy a dance, I'm really sorry!'

    I'm like 'Yea, I'm totally gutted....' Why are you apologising to me like that lol, buy a dance or don't, but don't make out like I should be in the corner crying because you didn't....

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    ^^^ I'm not really up on Aussie lingo.
    Does "shouting him" mean paying for his dance? (I'm thinking it's kind of like U.S. "spotting him".)
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    I HATE when someone says "my friend likes you!" and I go to talk to his friend because I thought he had mentioned his preference for me to him..... and the guy acts like a total douche and is obviously not interested in me. He'll be like "No I'm not. Why did he tell you that?" It sucks because not only do I feel like I've been pawned off, but I'm basically being denied twice. It's such a nasty annoying tactic and I have cussed stupid ass fuckers out for playing games like that with me.
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    I always shut this down immediately. I always turn to the friend and instead of talking about the dance say,"is he your banker, broker or financial advisor?" The dudes both have a lost look and the friend says,"umm, no." My response,"Well, don't speak for him. I trust the word of his banker or financial advisor because they get paid to keep up with his money. You, you are just his friend so don't be offended if I don't believe you." Makes the 2nd guy the dude was trying to pawn you off on feel less pressured and it lightens things up. Sometimes the 2nd guy gets a dance because of how the situation is handled usually always a good tip though. Sometimes they both get dances later. I've found that throwing out the line, getting a few laughs, and then leaving while the conversation is starting to get good is the best way to land dances from these types later.
    Thank Goodness I smartened up! The old me is dead and gone.

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    it's a mix of trying to get rid of you while also jerking around with his friend.

    when i first started, it was basically always the case that if a guy passed you off to his friend, it was to be a jerk...for some reason, i've actually had a lot of dances out of these friends in the last year or so. maybe guys have just changed their bullshit techniques. it's bizarre. i'm still always skeptical.

    in the past, one of my worst club experiences was a guy pawning me off on his friend, and the friend literally pushed me to the ground. so the idea of going up to a friend just makes me panic now.
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    Thanks for the responses everyone! Really enjoyed reading all of these, and it's always nice to know it's not just you Gonna target this by asking "why?" and potentially the financial advisor question (if they're not too drunk/stupid) and then walking away from the timewasters!

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    Quote Originally Posted by BunniHops View Post
    I HATE when someone says "my friend likes you!" and I go to talk to his friend because I thought he had mentioned his preference for me to him..... and the guy acts like a total douche and is obviously not interested in me. He'll be like "No I'm not. Why did he tell you that?" It sucks because not only do I feel like I've been pawned off, but I'm basically being denied twice. It's such a nasty annoying tactic and I have cussed stupid ass fuckers out for playing games like that with me.
    Yeah, some idiotic kids like to play this game, and it really pisses me off. One night there were 2 doing it all night, wasting everyone's time. I ended up getting revenge during my last stage show....I kicked the main asshole's beer into his lap, lol. The next time I see them start that shit I'll just get a bouncer to kick them out immediately.

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    if that happens I just politely excuse myself. he's obviously trying to pawn you off.

    if the guys are all sitting at a table try to talk to all of them at once to keep that from happening. you'll be able to gauge which one is the most interested and steer the conversation towards him.

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    they just like to see us passed around trying to sniff out the monies which is kinda cruel
    i ask the occasion and then whos treating the buck/birthday boy/ whatever and try to organise it with them. if i got too many its him oh no its him ask him hes the money guy i leave. hate groups never spend as much as they should
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    I hate approaching groups. This is part of the reason why.
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    Quote Originally Posted by 4everresolutions View Post
    They're trying to pawn you off on their friend.

    Seriously, fuck those guys. In my experience neither of them have money or interest in buying dances. It's not a test, they're just don't have the balls to say "I'm not interested.".

    Maybe, and I Mean MAYBE, it's one of those rare occasions where the guy who says that knows his buddy already had his eye on you, so it's always good to gauge body language to see if his friend 'with all the money' is interested. Usually though, it's because they want you to go away.

    "Haha. I doubt it. Your both broke. Bye" - and just walk away.

    So true. Guys that use this line are always young and most likely broke or just don't personally like you. It happens to me all the time, I just walk away.

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    op, i love you and i love europeans who type funny things so i can repeat them to myself in a british accent.

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    I see this all the time with Mexican guys; there are times where the friend does get the dance (maybe only like 30% of the time at the most), but when I hear the "my friend" line, I'd just shout some insult in Spanish and warn all the other girls about them. Most of the time they don't spend money on any girl. Period.





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    Quote Originally Posted by 4everresolutions View Post
    They're trying to pawn you off on their friend.

    Seriously, fuck those guys. In my experience neither of them have money or interest in buying dances. It's not a test, they're just don't have the balls to say "I'm not interested.".

    Maybe, and I Mean MAYBE, it's one of those rare occasions where the guy who says that knows his buddy already had his eye on you, so it's always good to gauge body language to see if his friend 'with all the money' is interested. Usually though, it's because they want you to go away.

    "Haha. I doubt it. Your both broke. Bye" - and just walk away.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BringOnTheMen View Post
    I have also found that yelling like a lunatic in other languages greatly increases my desirability and sales.
    HATE strippers who scream at customers.
    There are so many customers who think we're all money hungry bitches... because some girl has flipped her shit on him because he wouldn't give her money for nothing.

    He doesn't like you.... he isn't going to give you money... so what is making a fool of yourself supposed to accomplish?

    It's not the nicest way to turn you down... and maybe they're having a bit of amusement at your expense... but acting a fool is just going to encourage them to be rude and fuck with strippers so they can LOL at the hilarity.
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    UGH I hate these guys! I didn't realize the pattern until I read this...now I know what to do when it happens. I'm sitting here thinking about the other night when it happened and how stupid I felt. I walk up to a guy, he points me to a friend in the group, who looks at me stupidly, and I start to chat him up and he ultimately doesn't buy a dance and was never interested. Double rejection. And laughs from the friends.
    One guy (The bachelor apparently) told me to talk to his friend and to call him an asshole, just for fun. WHY.
    I'm kind of embarrassed at how many times this has probably happened to me and how dumb I must have looked hahaha

    Thanks for this...now I know how to handle the situation...or how to simply remove myself gracefully.

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