Hi ladies (and PREFERABLY men too!),
I'm writing for some advice. I'm a little concerned about the amount of sex BF and I are having...or NOT having I should say...
When we first started dating, we'd have sex AT LEAST 2-3 times a week, and now it seems like we barely even have it once a month.
I've talked to BF about my concerns and discontent with our sex life and he's agreed that we need to have more sex and says that he'd try to initiate more (because for a while I was doing all the initiating). However, after one encounter, we usually fall back into the same routine and go another month w/o sex.
BF tells me our lack of sex is due to his job and how many hours he works. He works 60 hours/week at his regular job, and goes to school full time on top of that for his masters, so he IS busy. On top of his regular job and school, he has a small business on the side that requires a few hours here and there.
I just feel that our relationship is suffering because he's so busy all the time. I'm proud of him for all his accomplishments, and I want him to keep pursuing his goals, but I still think our relationship needs attention, more particularly our sex life.
BF does make time for "us." When we are able to get out and do things, we usually go to a nice dinner and a movie--however, at the end of the night, he's usually too tired for sex.
I feel BF is a little frustrated with my frustration and feels that I don't understand how busy/tired he is. Is it selfish of me to want sex more than once a month? Is that unrealistic? I know some people have it multiple times a week, but exactly HOW realistic is that once you've been in a relationship for a while? I just know that I don't feel as close to him as I would like to due to our lack of intimacy. I've been questioning whether or not I want to stay in a relationship in which measures aren't taken to ensure balance in our sex life (I've talked to him about it a FEW times).
BF thinks he might have low testosterone (he is late 30's) because he says it's not that he isn't attracted to me, but that the "drive" just isn't there. Yet he hasn't gone to the dr. about it because he HATES dr's and is kind of ashamed.
I just don't know what to do, or if my expectations are even fair!For ladies who only have sex once a month, are your guys happy with that? Are YOU happy with it?
Men, what is your advice on how I should handle this?! And trust me, I initiate more than my share...



For ladies who only have sex once a month, are your guys happy with that? Are YOU happy with it?
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I never thought of sex before going out. It's an added plus that we usually shower before going out too, so we'd be all clean.




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