You're welcome Babee. I just feel where you are coming from...but you just have to remember that you ARE ambitious, courageous, and beautiful, pole tricks or not.

I would suggest reading the uplifting posts from everyone on this thread when you start having hesitations before you go in...
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You have to also remember to not get caught up in drama but DO be friendly and civil to the girls. Like Bunni says, you can't be totally isolated from the girls or else the other dancers will pick on you and start to be extra bitchy and make snide comments about how you think you're better than the other girls. Be nice, smile, be friendly even when girls pick on you and make comments. Girls are going to be girls and some will try to bully you and make you feel like you shouldn't be there. I was bullied by a couple girls that ended up getting in good with me and helping me out with finding cash cows for the night...just because I didn't fight back or cower down. I stood my ground but remained sweet and kind. It was because I was nice no matter what. We had laughs and good times chatting. They even helped me with stage shows and pole tricks! You always need to be nice. Not syrupey sweet, but nice enough to show you acknowledge them. Some girls are toxic, so just choose your acquaintances and potential buddies wisely. I had two girls that I trusted with very private info and in return she trusted me with info that could ruin her chances of ever dancing at the club we worked at together. Keep your mouth shut when they tell you things, even if it's about another dancer. Just be like, "oh, ok. interesting." or "okay. well...*shrug and smile* oh well..". Just keep it short and neutral. They might be baiting you to take back comments from you about what they're telling you about that girl back to the girl the "friend" of yours is bashing. Do not get involved in that. Cat fights and broken noses can sometimes result in that. You don't want to lose your job over shit talkers. I never had an issue with it because when girls were sitting in the DR talking shit, I was reapplying my lipstick, adjusting my thigh highs & garters, and SILENTLY hovering over my money with my back turned to them, counting it...NOT flashing it. Flashing it and showing you counting your money will earn you enemies. Be discreet. Just tune it out and stay silent, and if they all gang up on you or single you out and ask you your opinion, just be neutral and nice, just do what I did, "this doesn't really matter to me. I don't care if she *insert topic of bashing here*. that's her business, not mine....so I guess you could say I have nothing to say about her or her situation.". From that point on they would never ask my opinion because they knew I wouldn't talk shit. I also gained friendship and allies when other girls did pick on me because of this. Having a few girls to have your back and one or two to trust is important! Don't isolate yourself!!
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Don't worry Babee, this industry isn't for everyone! Some girls think that stripping will "cure" their naturally shy nature. This line of work is not for the shy. What I don't understand is the fact that you could meet total strangers and have sex with them for money, yet you cannot go to a club, (that is NOT new to you since you've previously worked there), and dance. I don't understand where this fear of the customer is coming from. Is it the fact that you are, as we all now know, "shy" and, from what I am reading in your posts, have a bit of self worth, courage, and self esteem issues to the point where it makes you scared to approach men? Is it the approaching customers thing that trips you out? I am needing clarification. I found escorting helped me, not hindered me, in learning how to deal with customers and whatever they might throw at me, metaphorically speaking of course, and aid in having the courage to approach total strangers and try to sell them a product - myself...or in your case YOURSELF. Look, here is something my dad taught me about sales: you have to believe in, be confident about, and be passionate about the product/thing you are selling. I work at a sandwich shop part time and we have this new cookie, the Chocolate Cherry Granola cookie. I walk around with a tray with samples and give out samples while telling them the key ingredients of the cookie with a smile, and confident, cheery attitude. I can self all 20-30 (depending on how many we made that day) of the 2 packs in 90 minutes. It is because I approach EVERY SINGLE CUSTOMER at the register when I am ringing up their sandwich and am passionate about selling the product. I am always confident and happy...as if I love that cookie to death, when in fact, I hate the cookie because it is too sweet for me! You have to fake it but not show that you don't like it. You have to put 150% into what you are selling. If you stop trying, then you don't sell the proverbial cookie. BE PASSIONATE ABOUT THE DAMN COOKIE!! LOL! Just think of stripping as you are me, selling something as simple as a cookie, and you express your love, confidence, and passion for the "cookie" (dance) to the point where you are more than sure he'll love it. haha! IT DOES WORK! I PROMISE! The key thing though is to have confidence and passion! You MUST have these! You have to believe in yourself enough to be able to believe you will give every customer you approach the best dance they'll ever get and put all your energy into each "sales pitch" and even stage show. You don't want to just slowly, absent mindedly walk around the stage....BE PASSIONATE ABOUT THE COOKIE!! Do not forget to be CONFIDENT in the cookie too! LOVE THE COOKIE!!
(cookie = dance or stage show)
you can do this!!
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