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    Default Have you become more comfortable with physical contact because of stripping?

    Due to the nature of your work being in close contact (not necessarily sexual) with customers, have you found yourself being more comfortable (or less uncomfortable) when it comes to physical (non-sexual) contact in social situations outside of the club?

    Or to put it simply, have you found yourself becoming a more touchy-feely person because of your work?

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    Default Re: Have you become more comfortable with physical contact because of stripping?

    Nope, in fact it made me less touch feely.

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    Default Re: Have you become more comfortable with physical contact because of stripping?

    No less for me as well. If its someone I know Im probably more comfortable touching them, but if I dont know you and you touch me or even try to flirt with me... you will probably get a very rude response. I dont want to be harassed when Im not at work.

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    Default Re: Have you become more comfortable with physical contact because of stripping?

    I am also less touchy, I have never been much of a touchy feely person anyways and dancing just made it worse.

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    Default Re: Have you become more comfortable with physical contact because of stripping?

    Just about every dancer I know well has become less touchy, not more, due to working in full contact clubs. I remember very well a story that one of my long-time favs told me years ago. She had spent a couple of weeks working at Go Go Rama-very high contact club in NJ. At the time it was higher contact than any other club that she was working in. The money was great so she put up with the contact but she couldn't even think about being with a guy for a week or two after working down there.
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    Default Re: Have you become more comfortable with physical contact because of stripping?

    Quite the contrary. I've never been terribly cuddly but now I even hate hugging people.

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    Default Re: Have you become more comfortable with physical contact because of stripping?

    I agree with everyone else. less touchy.

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    Default Re: Have you become more comfortable with physical contact because of stripping?

    I'm the same, though if someone is flirting and getting a bit touchy I will swiftly put them in their place. I'm very aware of my boundaries now.

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    Default Re: Have you become more comfortable with physical contact because of stripping?

    My dancer persona is kind of touchy-feely (briefly put my hand on your knee while talking, etc.), but my OTC self has NEVER been comfortable with lots of contact with other people. If we're very close friends, I'll get a little more touchy-feely, but if I don't know you that well, I really need my personal space.

    I've found that I'm even more protective of my personal space since I started dancing - kind of like I use up all my tolerance for casual touching during conversation during work hours.

    So, in general - another vote for "less".
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    Default Re: Have you become more comfortable with physical contact because of stripping?

    Less touchy feely. I don't like being touched to begin with, work has made it worse, takes the fun out of intimacy and foreplay if you ask me.
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    Default Re: Have you become more comfortable with physical contact because of stripping?

    Less for me as well.

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    Default Re: Have you become more comfortable with physical contact because of stripping?

    Ok so the consensus is that you've become less touchy feely.

    Would anyone like to elaborate on why this is so?

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    Default Re: Have you become more comfortable with physical contact because of stripping?

    Quote Originally Posted by stawj View Post
    Ok so the consensus is that you've become less touchy feely.

    Would anyone like to elaborate on why this is so?
    you're CONSTANTLY being touched. customers are always trying to touch dancers either in a sexual or non sexual way. every single body part. face, hands, hair, back, legs, stomach, tits, ass, and pussy. I started to associate being touched with discomfort.

    when I'm not at work it's nice to NOT have hands on me.

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    Default Re: Have you become more comfortable with physical contact because of stripping?

    I never touched people when I was younger. But I grew up in a family that values personal space. Dancing made it more normal for me to hug n kiss people on the cheeks and I have a great handshake. But that's it. Now I have a big issue with my personal bubble of space being invaded. I think dancing just made me realize that guys that do this are just trying to get a feel in, while in the past I would have been naive enough to be flattered that he's "into me". I can't stand guys staring at me or hitting on me. I think it's rude and cocky and super obvious that all they're thinking is how they want to fuck me and they hit on any girl that'll take the bait. Men I consider datable behave like gentlemen. Besides, you try getting paid for something and then go do it for free when you're not even at work.

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    Default Re: Have you become more comfortable with physical contact because of stripping?

    I've definitely gotten more accustomed to having my tits in somebody's face. But touching...no. Don't particularly like having my bubble invaded. More so in public than at the club...anyone comes within like a foot of me at a store I am instantly incredibly annoyed.

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    Default Re: Have you become more comfortable with physical contact because of stripping?

    Quote Originally Posted by stawj View Post
    ...have you found yourself being more comfortable (or less uncomfortable)...
    That's like saying, "heads I win, tails you lose." There's no room for an answer that doesn't fit.

    I am less tolerant of people touching me at all now. If I've given implied consent by dint of a relationship (my parents, my siblings, my best friend, my man, people I'm seeing) that's fine, touch as it seems reasonable. Otherwise, don't fucking touch me at all, ever.

    I'm now used to a touch being an unwanted advance. The club has trained me this way. Someone who touches me is going to push my boundaries, be annoying and try to get more out of me than I'm comfortable giving.

    I don't think that this is just a stripper thing, even. I feel like it's rude to touch people you don't know. It's an invasion of personal space, a forced familiarity. Isn't that why politicians touch your hand with their other hand when they shake it? Isn't that why strippers touch your knee in the first place? To establish familiarity and ownership.

    I grew up in a very huggy culture and I eventually got used to it. I was a touchy, huggy person as a young adult and I could see that sometimes it bothered people, but nobody ever said anything and I thought that they were uptight for not appreciating a casual hug. Now I see. It can be an invasion of space, a way of asserting dominance. Plus sometimes people just smell bad or are sweaty or maybe I'm wearing a delicate fabric or am nauseated and don't want to be squeezed.

    TL: DR Strangers should not touch each other. I don't know what your motivations are and my experience as an adult entertainer has taught me to expect the worst until you prove otherwise.

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    Default Re: Have you become more comfortable with physical contact because of stripping?

    Separate post for a separate thought:

    I'm less tolerant of things I consider "freebies" in general now. Random dude touching on my arm at a bar? Dude, back off. I normally get paid for that. Someone I go on a date with expecting sex since s/he paid for dinner? Ah hah, so you're saying the price for fucking my pussy is 35$, my half of dinner? Listen, normally people pay that for 15 minutes of my time and at this point you've had 2 hours. I tell you what, I'll take off my top and gyrate in front of you for a few seconds in the parking lot, we're even.

    One could say that I know my time and my body's worth as far as the economics of pussy in my area. I'm sure that my own personal valuation is different than that of the market and we know the market is regional, but still.


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    Quote Originally Posted by stawj View Post
    Ok so the consensus is that you've become less touchy feely.

    Would anyone like to elaborate on why this is so?
    I've always hated my personal space being invaded except by people I really like. I honestly don't know if I can say that I'm less touchy feely now because I always hated people I wasn't close to touching me. But I am more aware of it now. Like someone else said, being touched while working makes you associate touch with creepiness and people pushing their boundaries. Nobody at the club ever touches you in a "friendly" way - it's always copping a feel or trying to grope you.

    You grow to tolerate touching to an extent (depending on how high contact your club is) but if you were uncomfortable with it before, you're never going to grow out of that when the touching is always performed in a skeezy manner. It just reinforces what you were already uncomfortable with from strangers, making you more adamant about not being touched outside of work - your only escape from the touching.

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    No I've had neither response. I didn't like being close to people before, that hasn't changed.
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    Default Re: Have you become more comfortable with physical contact because of stripping?

    I'm more open minded but still think I'm the same as before I danced. I'm not the huggy touchy type, unless you are my bestest friend.
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    I'm the same, I don't believe I've changed. Growing up physical interaction between me & anyone else was pretty much non-existent. My mother is a bit of a loud mouth, & I'm almost the polar opposite... I appreciate quiet & don't speak loudly most times. The result is that I tended to be very "jumpy"/"scare easily" when something happens that I don't expect whether it be touching, sounds, etc. With the exception of maybe FL, when I dance I generally have an idea of if/how customers might try to touch me, so I expect it & don't get jumpy. Outside of the club though, I'm still at jumpy as I ever was... no more, no less. If anything made me ease up on touching that occurred outside the club, I would say it was hanging around a bunch of people that were sort of like hippies or else gay men... they both tend to be physically friendly types of people. I'd say most of my changes to a more relaxed attitude happened my freshman year of high school.
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    Stayed about the same. Though after work sometimes i'd be more "stay away." Also depends on the clubs i've worked at, their contact levels. Though if i'm in a safe setting with people who are respectful and classy (outside of work) I feel like i'm warmer than I used to be...the work made me more social and more likely to touch someone on their hands etc.
    However, it made me more comfortable with being naked and more comfortable my body.

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    Normally now I don't want to be touched. Get it too much in the club! However, bring me out clubbing with the girls and I turn into a mans junk investigator... Lol! I'm a huge violator of personal space when dancing at bars on my nights off.
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    Quote Originally Posted by xGigi View Post
    I started to associate being touched with discomfort.

    when I'm not at work it's nice to NOT have hands on me.
    This.

    I was never very comfortable being touched to begin with; stripping has made it a million times worse. Especially ever since a guy bit me --hard!-- on the breast while I was doing a table dance, I associate closeness with discomfort and possible danger.

    I still touch/hug my close friends, boyfriend, and family, of course. But they're people I trust.

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    Quote Originally Posted by IsobelWren View Post
    Separate post for a separate thought:

    I'm less tolerant of things I consider "freebies" in general now. Random dude touching on my arm at a bar? Dude, back off. I normally get paid for that. Someone I go on a date with expecting sex since s/he paid for dinner? Ah hah, so you're saying the price for fucking my pussy is 35$, my half of dinner? Listen, normally people pay that for 15 minutes of my time and at this point you've had 2 hours. I tell you what, I'll take off my top and gyrate in front of you for a few seconds in the parking lot, we're even.

    One could say that I know my time and my body's worth as far as the economics of pussy in my area. I'm sure that my own personal valuation is different than that of the market and we know the market is regional, but still.
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