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    It is now 3am and Im going to bed hurt...I am from a family that has been through a lot but at the end can count on each other when we need it. That is in Sacramento. Well im in san francisco with my extended family and I overheard a my cousin's phone conversation that made him dead to me! So here is what happened...Ill take you to the beginning..I quit dancing almost a year ago and I had to move in with my uncle..Since than I got a real job, I went back to school and got 2 certs in personal training, I ve been promotional modeling for extra money, and fuck it why not (Ive started camming) at least im safe and not have to look and worry about men touching me! So anyway Tonight...I was watching tv in the living room and he was lying down on the couch on the phone(I wasnt paying attention). So he asks me to watch it in my room(his old room) cuz hes going to bed. i say "oh your going to bed" and he says rudely "yeah kinda!" so being the sassy sista that i am I say well sorry the tv was just on didnt know but dont be an ass!..and we start bickering (were cousins its what we do its normal). I go to my room thinking nothing of it! So This cousin has berly talked to me when i was dancing, always had a judgemeantal look on his face when im around and when I quit he still treated me like shit! ( He never had a place where he pays full rent his dad pays for most of his shit including his parking tickets) I Think nothing of the discustion and go to my room. I got back out to do dishes and I over hear him on the phone talking to his friend " shes hella weird sitting there listening to my conversation(negro please) shes living in MY house(thats a laugh), she doesnt pay rent , her room is a mess( that part is true..ive never home and when I am Im in bed deprressed), we all know what shes doing( I assume he thinks im still dancing) and I know he tells all his friends about my past because they all look at me the same way. Im in the corner furious!! Ive been homeless, doing crazy drugs, almost forced into prostitution, and fired from my last job because they found out about my past..I should be crazy as fuck right now! So the fact that all you have to complain about is that my room is messy is pretty much a miricle! So I walk up to him and say "hey, the next time u wanna talk shit about me to your friends..SAY IT TO MY FACE FIRST! You dont know me, you dont know what I been through, and you dont know why my room is like it is!" Snd he gos " OK OK" being the smart ass that he is..I finish saying " your not my cousin! Just so you know" and I mean it! He never did a thing on his own without daddy's help! Ive been on a hustler since I am 19. Im moving to a beautiful neighborhood next month, Im gonna start studying for my 3rd cert! and Im going to go way farther in life because of my experiences! So HOW DARE HE! Hes dead to me! Hes gone! I cant call anyone right now because its so late so Im really glad I have this site to vent on! Even if I am camming on the side,I did and going to do way more in my life that he ever will! I learned the lessons that I needed to learn and ready to keep learning let him chock from his ignorance! Thank you and I could really use some advice about how to deal with my not-cousin.

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    WOW!!!!!... but hey ...you know he probably really has the issue with you not bringing in other girls or the drugs anymore ........maybe even the cash....
    I feel like im in the French Revolution!!!!!! "Sooooo Many heads sooooo little time!!"


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    Wow ... I'm really sorry ... some guys (people in general) are such JERKS!!! I don't know what exactly you can do but I guess you can just ignore him. Ugh...
    InnesX

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    I have a dumbass cousin, too. We grew up together, so he's like my brother for the most part.. but he's a total ass. He's 3 years younger than me, and thinks he knows EVERYTHING.. and bitches like a woman going through menopause. My advice would be to just ignore his silly ass. Obviously your Aunt/Uncle is okay with you living there for the time being, and he is just an over privileged prick.. and is judgmental of people that weren't born with a silver spoon in their mouth.. Obviously he has no idea what it's like to actually HAVE to work for a living, or what it's like to HAVE to struggle. You are already 10x stronger than him.

    Life is hard girl.. don't let nobody bring you down.. especially someone who isn't paying your bills, or contributing to your well being whatsoever. Don't even speak with him, or just try to be out of the house as much as possible... -or- you can always try reverse psychology on his ass and just kill him with kindness.
    There is NO shame in what you are doing.. you're not on drugs, you're not living a crazy ass lifestyle, so to hell with the haters! *hugs*
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    BlankStare made some excellent points about your cousin being born with a silver spoon in his mouth.

    It sucks to deal with someone that judges and backstabs you. My roommate is the same way. She'll be nice to my face and talk shit behind my back.

    People like that feel miserable about themselves. Your cousin has low, low self-esteem and self-worth. He likes to point out others' faults because it makes him feel better about himself. Your cousin and my roommate wouldn't feel the need to bring us down to their level if we weren't already above them

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    hi marleysade m sorry to hear bout wat u goin thru wit yo cousin.for a while there wen i read yo post i cud have sworn i was readin bout my own experiences wit my cousins who know wat i do 4 a living but tht bng said i say this is yo life, live it, enjoy it n dnt let other people make u sad by their judgements n negativity.u have achieved a lot mo than yo cousin accordin to my understandin of yo post so dnt let him break down wat u tuk years to build.dnt pay any attention to him,i know u probly thinkin,' easier said than done,' but believe me i been there.i know wat u goin thru i've experienced it 1st hand u'll be surprised at how even the people u count on will throw in yo face wat u do the moment u have a fyt.its so sad how people get to judge us by wat we do.they think we r desperate we'd do anythin 4 money,we have no brains,no morals,no ambition the list goes on but if only they cud take the tym to understand us instead of judge us i think we'd be at a better place.i like wat u said bout findin comfort here,'well not in those words exactly,' i feel the same way too.this to me is like a family i never had.i love all the people on here cuz wen m feelin down i know where to go to get uplifted.i always come out feelin better.i think in life much as we wnt other peoples approval we shud look out 4 #1 n thts us.u'll never make people happy.u do gud they find sumthin negative to say u do bad they still have sumthin negative to say,u can never win. c wat yo cousin is doin as motivation to progress further,achieve mo so tht wen one day he's sittin there talkin bout how dirty he thinks u r cuz of yo past u be livin a more comfortable life than he has ever dreamed of even in his wildest dreams,thts wat i do thts wat keeps me goin tht n knowin m doin this 4 my daughter n myself.go look yoself in the mirror n remeber me sayin this to u.i know u've never heard my voice but jus do it."U R A BEAUTIFUL N INTELLIGENT WOMAN.U'VE BEEN THRU A LOT BUT IT NEVER KILLED U IT ONLY MADE U STRONGER.N WATEVER YO COUSIN THINKS OR HOWEVER HE FEELS, HE CAN NEVER TAKE THT FROM U.DNT LET HIM TAKE YO HAPPINESS AWAY. i jus hope things work out in a way tht u get yo own beautiful place so u can move out n be on yo own.dnt hate him ,dnt fyt wit him bout this. this is not to say u stupid or foolish but jus tht u r a better person than he is.sorry didnt mean to write such a long post but i hope all goes well 4 u love

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    This is a learning experience for you and for him...

    One - be guarded about your past because of how it haunts you and bites you in the ass...

    Two - you can't depend on anyone but YOU.

    Three - Never bother with someone who doesn't know the true meaning of hard work and determination. The outcome is always our and petty because they always think they are better than YOU are.

    Keep doing what you are doing and things are going to get better.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlankStare View Post
    I have a dumbass cousin, too. We grew up together, so he's like my brother for the most part.. but he's a total ass. He's 3 years younger than me, and thinks he knows EVERYTHING.. and bitches like a woman going through menopause. My advice would be to just ignore his silly ass. Obviously your Aunt/Uncle is okay with you living there for the time being, and he is just an over privileged prick.. and is judgmental of people that weren't born with a silver spoon in their mouth.. Obviously he has no idea what it's like to actually HAVE to work for a living, or what it's like to HAVE to struggle. You are already 10x stronger than him.

    Life is hard girl.. don't let nobody bring you down.. especially someone who isn't paying your bills, or contributing to your well being whatsoever. Don't even speak with him, or just try to be out of the house as much as possible... -or- you can always try reverse psychology on his ass and just kill him with kindness.
    There is NO shame in what you are doing.. you're not on drugs, you're not living a crazy ass lifestyle, so to hell with the haters! *hugs*
    Thank you that was exactly what i needed to here...tear*

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    Thank you all!! All of your words were exactly what i needed! I cant describe the peace you all gave me..especialy ebony queen...the tears im shedding right now are really healing my pain..yes i will enjoy my home and have gratitude for my uncle that let me in when i needed help..thank you amazing women for keeping me strong in my hours of shame!! I cant give decribe the gratitude i have for you all!

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    I'm glad you feel better Marley. Just remember to never let anyone take away your peace and happiness. NEVER give another human being that type of power. Master the art of ignoring people who are dramatic in your life, and good luck with the place you plan to move to, when you get there!
    Taking a break from all unproductive shit will prove to be the best choice you can make.

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    anytym hun. m glad to hear tht u ok.take care

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    Hmmmm he sounds like a straight up hater. Like why is he worried about you if he aint doing shit. CLEARLY, he has a problem with self....these things usually manifest themselves as hatred towards others. Stay focused on what you are doing! Don't let him or anyone else bother you. The thing about stripping, camming, adult sex industry, etc. is that you have to be strong enough to dismiss a lot of bitches ( including these bitchass men). You know what you are doing and what you are going to do so don't be moved by anyone! The best thing is to get your own, which sounds like you are doing. I live alone and have since I was 17 ( other than a few short "bids" lol with boyfriends here n there) and that's because I never want to be dealing with other people when I dont want to. I love my family and friends, but IF EVER I get annoyed or what not I can simply GO HOME = peace of mind. Keep your head up and good luck!! I think I feel so strongly about this one and went in BECAUSE I have caught a lot of judgment from people myself in life, but fuck em! DO YOU. Take care n good luck, Doll.
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    Hey - I just opened these threads...I think they are a GREAT idea for situations like these....

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