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    Default How to earn trust and sell dances with skeptical custies?

    It seems that where I am here in Austin, TX especially during the summer (maybe those 105 degree days), the people who come into the club are generally in a foul mood, insecure, self-conscious or extra skeptical and distrustful of the dancers.

    I can usually get them to loosen up by establishing a rapport with them, via humor and conversation, but it’s hard to avoid getting too into “friendship” mode with them right away. I’m trying to build trust, so they’ll buy, but I still want them to think I’m a fantasy chick they should objectify and spend money on. It seems like such a Catch 22…

    Has anyone had this dilemma?

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    Default Re: How to earn trust and sell dances with skeptical custies?

    I try and look at why customers distrust dancers. Normally it's because they had a past experience where a dancer lied to them by saying how they'll do X in the vip room. So he'll spend hundreds of dollars for blue balls and a bad taste in his mouth. Or the dancer promised him that she'll go to dinner/golfing/gambling whatever once they're done in vip. Then never show up or call back.

    I would do my best to find out what it is he wants then fulfill any promises made. Get him talking.
    Or you can be just another distrustful dancer and lie. I would stick with option A and try to cultivate regulars. Show him you're an interesting, talented, drop dead gorgeous woman with whom he must spend quality time and money on by make him feel special.

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    Default Re: How to earn trust and sell dances with skeptical custies?

    um frankly, any guy who comes into a club with a trust issue attitude towards dancers, is whacked. why the heck did they come in, in the first place?, unless it's with a whole group of guys and you can get that one guy who is a dick then fine. But any guy who wants to stand there and act all pissy and insecure coz some "dancer" promised "extras" in a vip room, is a sucker. Why do guys come back into a strip club if they didn't get any happy endings in the first place? What too cheap to go to an escort? And I don't get the whole extra thing anyway, guess some dancers don't understand the meaning of fantasy or being a hustler. But whatever I'm goin off the point. I will try to talk to a guy who's a dick, coz I'm a nice bitch like that, but you gotta let some of them go and just walk away, You could be the most awesome chick in the club, but some guys are in there to just make ya feel like shit.

    I will agree smiling and using humor can work. Sometimes just going up and introducing yourself having a little chat then walking away, and coming back later can work. Makes them feel comfortable not pressured, especially since you didn't ask for a dance the first time, and you coming back to them makes them feel like they are not just another guy we are trying to scam and "oh wow she's not using me for money but she is actually just a cool chick, that makes me feel special". Yes its about the dollar, but good on you for actually trying to do your job honestly, and wanting to be that girl he came in for. Good luck!
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    Default Re: How to earn trust and sell dances with skeptical custies?

    Guys that cry about dancers ripping them off need to GTFO.

    If I whined about how many guys have groped by pussy by surprise, licked my nipples at the tip rail, tried to stiff me, and called me degrading names then I wouldn't make it through the front door.

    If all the dancers pouted about how many slimeballs have touched them inappropriately, talked down to them, insulted their intelligence, or offered them drugs in exchange for dances then we wouldn't have any strip clubs.

    If you're whining about losing out on a few hundred dollars because a human being didn't want to suck your tiny cock for $100 then GET THE FUCK OUT AND STAY THERE. She probably promised you that she'd blow you for a nominally small amount and then backed out because she was tired of 60 year old, 280lbs men asking her to blow them all night long. Maybe she wanted to teach you guys to have some respect and realize that your dick ain't any good and neither is your $100. You deserved it!

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    Default Re: How to earn trust and sell dances with skeptical custies?

    Amen Laurisa! They have it SO easy! All they have to do is show up with the money and let us do our job. That said, I like my job and I'm trying to do it better. The type of guy I'm talking about isn't usually an extreme dick about it (in those cases I excuse myself), but usually more timid, sheepish, doesn't want to open up, seems confused about why he's there... so my tactics to get him to open up, to talk about what brought him into the club (God forbid he EVER admit it's because he wanted to see hot nekkid ladies) are to take him into friendship mode. As you all know, that can be the kiss of death when it comes time to ask for a dance. How do you ladies balance "I'm friendly and non-threatening" with "I'm the sexy siren of your dreams"? These Austin fellows are a lot of work sometimes...

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    Default Re: How to earn trust and sell dances with skeptical custies?

    I answered a very similar question a few weeks ago from another girl. There are some tricks to this that certainly work, like using sexual innuendos with things that would otherwise sound perfectly innocent. There are times when it is about what you say, but more often than not its about how you say it. If you want more information on this e-mail me, as my response to the other girl was pretty long & not something I want public to lurkers since its not in the general realm of knowledge that they could find elsewhere.
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    Just emailed you! ;-)

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