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    The other night I had a sleepover party at my place with my friend. We were watching a movie in my bed, and I got a strong whiff of a very foul, rank odor. I thought my nose was playing tricks on me, so I let it go.

    She ended up falling asleep before I did, so I kept watching TV. I noticed the more she moved, the more I could smell that stank odor. I wish I could describe the smell, but words cannot really describe it. All I know is, that it was very, very unpleasant.

    I ended up sleeping on the couch in my living room, because her *smell* was all in the air. The next morning I told her I had to move out on the couch because I was too hot.

    I am pretty sure it was her snatch I was smelling in the air. She is a good friend of mine, and I feel that I should let her know that her 'lady parts' have a displeasing scent. I just do not want to hurt her feelings, but when it comes down to it...her vaginal regions just stank.

    How can I bring this up to her, without completely crushing her self-esteem? Do I give her the number to my gyno? I am lost.

    Any advice will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
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    Default Re: What Do I Say?

    Maybe start a conversation about a hypothetical friend who has these issues and see if she says anything.

    Or, just be honest and say, hey-- I noticed something, and it reminded me of a time when I had BV. Have you noticed parts of you smelling, because if so, there's some stuff to treat that.

    But also keep in mind-- some women do NOT respond to conventional BV (or it could be trich or yeast infection, or chlaymydia or something) medications, so broach the topic, but do it gently in case she's already aware of it.

    I would like to say most if not all women know when something is wrong with their lady bits, but having read a few posts from men's perspectives during sexual encounters, some women, sadly, think it's normal to smell all sorts of bad down there

    It's like halitosis, or people who don't floss. There's plenty of people I don't know well enough who I'd love to break down a "why flossing is necessary" conversation-- but I just don't know them that well. But ya'll are best friends, so you should at least try.

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    Default Re: What Do I Say?

    It sounds like she has BV. I used to have it, and my boyfriend would notice the smell every once in awhile. It was just an undescribable foul vaginal odor. She probably can't help it, and I don't think you should bring it up because it would just be embarrassing for both of you.

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    Default Re: What Do I Say?

    I had it during high school and I didn't really know that something was wrong. I became sexual active during senior yr so I started going to the GYN and that's when they told me I had BV.

    Like FiendishGyrator said I'd bring it up in a conversation, if that doesn't work I'd just politely tell her what the deal is. She probably doesn't know that she smells, because I didn't. I thought it was normal. I wish I had a friend that told me because if I didn't go to the GYN I most likely wouldn't have known about BV and that certain soap were causing it. I now know that I can't use certain soaps.

    It might be embarrassing for the both of you to have a convo like that but think about how embarrassing it is for her to go around smelling like fish or what not. Plus if she does have bv or something else and doesn't get it taking care of soon it could cause more health problems.

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    Default Re: What Do I Say?

    I would just tell her. She might be pissed off at first but she'll thank you later. Just break it to her in a nice way.

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    Default Re: What Do I Say?

    Maybe try to relate it to your own experience (even if that is not the truth), so that she feels like you've been in the same boat. It may make her feel less like being attacked or worse, like she's in some way dirty or that you think she is. It sounds like BV. I had it and like many others will tell you, it does not get better if ignored. Maybe that's how you can approach your friend with it, that left untreated it can lead to more serious issues.


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