Yeah, I understand. I used to feel that way a lot. I felt like I was
always that girl right before the girl he actually wanted to date. Like I was a springboard to "get back on his feet." For guys that I was actually kinda close to and helped through problems, and then they'd tell me how great I was but then leave to date someone else, I felt like I was the one who "fixed" them to be in a relationship with
someone else without all the baggage that
I had to put up with and coach him through.

lol Then again, you never know if you were
actually the one right before the real relationship happened. For all you know, he had other girls dangling along on the side during or after you that he was feeding this same line to.
But if he says he's not looking for a relationship, just remember, it's his way of saying he's not looking for a relationship
with you, without actually using those last 2 words cuz that would sound really mean coming out of his mouth. I always remember this from back when I was complaining about the exact same thing to one of my friends and she said "Yeah, he just didn't want a relationship
with you. But I think everybody would want to be with someone that they really liked. Who doesn't? People just use that line when they haven't met that person they actually want to give up their single-freedom to be with yet."
I'm a really shy person too. But when I click with someone, it just works. I'm sure when you find someone that you really connect with, you'll feel more comfortable around him than normal guys and he'll like you for you. And as far as guys going after stupid girls instead of you - just remember, there a
ton of girls that go after assholes - the same applies for guys. Human beings in general can have bad taste and pick stupid people over the quality ones for whatever-the-hell reason they have. It's nothing to do with you -
they're the ones messed up.
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