(**Weird for guys to say** Sorry about the typo in the title.)
In every real relationship I've ever had, it seems like guys are obsessed with how long we have been/will be together and feel the need to comment on it - and in really weird ways too. All my previous bf's made comments about us "breaking up someday." For instance, my first bf told me that I was going to "go through a lot of guys besides him," my second bf made comments about how "it's not like we're gonna be together forever. How good of friends we are after we break up is what's really gonna matter" ..... Just.... PLEASE tell me this is weird. I thought it was so odd and when I would tell my friends, they thought it was odd too because that's never happened to them.
I understand that realistically, most relationships you enter into will end and not become a "happily-ever-after marriage" before you find that one that does... I don't act clingy and start talking about "the future" and saying how we're meant to be or anything. I believe in entering a relationship with the intention of seeing if it can work, and it either will or it won't. But if you look at someone and say to yourself "oh yeah, that's definitely not gonna last" why would you even bother to make it an actual exclusive relationship?It just seems so freaking weird to me to call someone your SO and basically be mentally counting down the days until you break up.
My current bf has never said anything exactly like this - but he does keep close tabs on how long we've been together like "Hey, I was able to keep you around for 2 months!" making a joke in reference to the fact that he usually gets bored of his gf's after only a few months. He's still very affectionate and a great bf, and I know it's a joke but it's kinda off-putting... like he's warning me that my time is almost up or something....
I guess I'm just curious about this behavior. If I was super clingy and the kind of girl to get super attached really quickly and start talking about how "he's the one" and "our future" all the time, I would see why they would feel the need to say these things, to back me down. But... I'm not that way at all... Girls, tell me if you've been with guys like this... Guys, wth? lol Please give insight as to what the hell this phenomenon is all about.



It just seems so freaking weird to me to call someone your SO and basically be mentally counting down the days until you break up.
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In the first case, usually depending on the guy's age, they're just not ready for commitment - at least they're being honest! In your BF's case - maybe it is actually a case of him feeling a bit insecure about what he may think could be a real possibility of losing you to someone else!
If the relationship is going well, enjoy it, you're obviously doing something right and are a good match. Don't over think it or think the worst.

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