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    ^ I couldn't agree more with this! Watch the girls that bank and learn their skills... It might be intimidating at first but will definitely help you make money in the long run.

    Also go search crazy on here, especially hustle hut.. Lots of great tips
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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    Shit happens and people get rejected all the time. Maybe they didn't like your outfit color. Maybe the planets were aligned against you. Who the hell knows? You can't take rejection as a reflection of your personal attributes. If I took every rejection personally by now I would have quit this business. I just move on. For every club that turns me down 5 more want me. fuck em it's their loss.
    This is sooo true. Really I think this is a very important life lesson! Rejection happens... to EVERYONE. It's an inevitable part of living in an imperfect world, and it doesn't mean you are less attractive, intelligent, or whatever... People reject others sometimes for the craziest/most infitismal reasons, or sometimes there isn't even a reason at all! The people in life who end up the most successful aren't the ones who have never been rejected - they are the ones who don't take rejection personally and don't allow any form of rejection to stand in between them and their goals and dreams Did you guys know that Michael Jordan didn't even make his highschool basketball team one year? What would have happened if he got butthurt and quit? He wouldn't be the (very, very rich) basketball legend that he is today! If you spend a little time on google you will realize this is true for even the most successful people in society So keep your head up and don't even let rejection or disappointment deter you or keep you from seeing what you're worth! "Pretty pretty please... don't you ever ever feeeellll... you are less than... less than perrrrrfect..."

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    I read that you, the OP suffer from major depression on another thread. Personally, I think stripping is a terrible idea for someone with that condition. I wasn't going to say something til I read this thread. There is a LOT of rejection in this field. A big part of it is confidence. I read that you can't even work a regular job, your depression is so bad. How will you feel when you have nights where all you hear is no, no, no and make nothing, which is going to happen? In my opinion and experience, depressed people usually have low self esteem and lack the ability to deal with life and what it throws our way. I know, I used to be one and my mother too. I cannot help feel that a profession such as this is only going to serve to make things worse, not better. Again, I speak from experience. Look how you feel after a failed audition. There will be more rejection to come. How strong, thick skinned are you? My guess is not very and I do hope you see where I am coming from and understand what I am trying to do here. My advice? Heal yourself first and try to find a less shallow career path for the time being. Then one day this may still be an option...or not. Either way, good luck to you and hope you can move past your condition as I did. Fyi I never got better when I was dancing. I am on this board now as seven years later I now have the confidence I did not have then and believe I could clean up financially, should I decide to try again. Back in 2003, not a chance.

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    Default Re: Failed Audition :-( Deflated ego.

    I would have gotten really depressed if I wasn't hired at my old club. Then again, being the only SC in town, they pretty much had a joke of a reputation for hiring anybody. I don't think being upset that you were rejected really has much bearing on how well you'll deal with rejection once you're working. My skin is pretty thick when it comes to customers - it's easy to tell myself that every person has individual tastes/that a guy's a jerk/he's a broke loser anyway/etc etc... it would be another feeling entirely if I went into a club thinking I looked hot and was basically told that I didn't even look good enough to work there. And hey, it's not like you just gave up - you went on to audition elsewhere and made it! This didn't stop you in your tracks - that's the important part.

    Maybe this club just had different standards that very few girls fit into. Maybe they really are very picky about the way you move and wanted someone with experience who didn't look like a total newbie. The second club sounds way better anyway, so stop worrying about one failed audition when you've already comeback from it and found a job somewhere better.

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    I haven't read this depression thread so can't comment on that specifically. But I can say I quit my day job when I was suffering depression and came back to dancing. I didn't have a problem. It gave me the time I needed to refocus and decide what I really wanted out if life and the funds to be able to pursue those dreams. I've suffered depression a few times and I was still always a confident person, I just didn't have motivation or drive to function or live and didn't care about very much. As long as you can put on a brave face for a few hours once you get that first big payout you'll feel better. As I said I don't know details about your personal situation but just saying it's possible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BringOnTheMen View Post
    I see lots of newbies that think they look pretty when they look absolutely horrible... it is all in their styling. So when you are obviously a newbie when you dance on stage, and then on top of that you made yourself look like a hot topic tranny, you are not desirable at all.
    Bahahahahahaha. It's so fuckin' true!

    This thread is hilarious... YOU'RE CLEARLY HERE TO START DRAMA (even when you aren't). lolololol
    La Maddalena, you're really misreading BOTM's tone.
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    i am losing my fucking mind and i really just want this chloroform dream because i think that would just get me right with jesus.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ZePeanut View Post
    I've noticed that you've posted before about being too young to get gummy bear implants, am I correct? You're what... 19--21ish? I'm going to assume that you started dancing when you were 18....and obviously, this would mean that even if you were 21 you would have less than 3 years of experience under your belt...which doesn't seem to make you much of a veteran in this industry.
    I might be able to give some insight on this one.. I work for the clubs the OP is talking about. Ive worked for them 6 years ago for about 6 months and more recently for the last 3 years. We have over 200 girls on the books. They dont all look the same. Anouk for example looks totally different to me and Eva rose and we all dress and dance totally differently as well. We even hustle totally differently. The only thing we share in common as far as stripper is that we are all polished. We consider every detail. (although Im a hot mess drunken stripper half the time - but still with class hahaha)

    They clubs dont have just one type, although I would say they're arent a lot of "big" girls working there. There are definitely curvy ones though and ones that look 12, natural girls, fake girls and everything in between. But in general if the girls arent polished and dont hold themselves with some sort of class then they dont last too long. So what BOTM is saying more likely true that it may have been a styling issue or even a confidence issue or maybe they were only looking for a few girls and took the top 2-3. Our clubs def dont turn down girls for being too pretty. The one we work at specifically aims to have the best looking in the city even though it means high competition for us, the girls like it because it means we can pull the customers in because they know they wont be disappointed.

    I consider 3 years being a veteran anyway. If you havent figured out what you're doing by then, then I dont think you ever will. Heck a lot of the girls Ive danced with dont make it past 3 months! Right now I think the girl with the most seniority at my club is only on 6 years.

    Anyway I still think the OP should gain experience where she is, learn from the other girls (not only what to do, but also what not to do) and if she likes it she can stay. If not, she can try again for the other clubs.

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    ^I honestly have no idea how old you are, BOTM--thus the reason for making the '3 years' reference.

    Perhaps I am senile, for I still see the logic behind my point.. It doesn't seem relevant for -anyone- to presume to be all-knowing, especially if they are relatively newer to the industry. I'm sure, BOTM, though you already have an advanced level of knowledge pertaining to dancing you will find that there are aspects of this business that you have yet to experience. The learning process is constant.

    Does that make any sense? I hope it does. I'm not the best at articulation.

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    ^It's not really a matter of being all-knowing... it's strip club common sense and knowing how to audition well and most new girls don't know either... but anyone who has gone through the process does.

    Anyone who has been dancing more than a month or two has seen enough auditions to be a 'vet' in that aspect, really.
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    I had my first shift last week and it went quite well. I made about $500 (though of course I didnt leave with that much after they took cuts! Ugh. I thought I did well for a Tuesday night as a newb girl with no experience. All the staff were nice, house mum was very attentive and the girls were lovely to me... I was in awe of their skills and some of them were so beautiful.. I smell a girl crush coming on lol

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    Part of the problem with the original club
    I auditioned for previously was I didn't actually know it was an audition. She said it was a workshop where we would learn how to dance etc.
    So I went there pretty casual, in a bikini and basic makeup.

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    Good for you girlie! BTW I never ever look at what I "actually" made... only what Im paid out cause its too depressing when you see how much gets taken. Make sure you keep all your receipts and try to set aside 20% so your not screwed at tax time. I have a great accountant that does a lot of dancers in sydney if you want his number you can PM me And keep all your receipts for everything to do with dancing too and dont lose the receipts the club gives you. My friend lost most of hers and they refused to re-print them for her so keep them in a safe place.

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    ^ Very good advice on keeping receipts Jessie!
    Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette_Bardot View Post
    I had my first shift last week and it went quite well. I made about $500 (though of course I didnt leave with that much after they took cuts! Ugh. I thought I did well for a Tuesday night as a newb girl with no experience.
    That's fantastic! It's a shame about them taking a cut (I'm used to Melbourne and don't know if I could ever hack it in Sydney), but in terms of proving what you're capable of, doing $500 worth of dances is great! I didn't make half that on my first night and I started on a busy Friday. My main problem was that I had trouble believing that ten minutes of my time was worth so much money, and I'd almost be surprised when they said yes.

    As for the hiring thing, I would have no trouble believing that you were the best-looking girl and moved the best. But some clubs are too lazy (or busy, to be fair) at certain times to train up a complete newbie. They will sometimes go for the plainer girl who has more basic skills, but who obviously knows what the job entails and can hit the floor running.

    Newbies usually make mistakes and need to ask a lot of questions, even if they mean well. Good clubs will be patient, but sometimes they just can't be bothered.

    I also have depression, and dancing is sometimes the best and worst job for it. Of course if your depression is linked to body image, the cons could outweigh the pros. Also, some guys (occasionally other dancers) are outright mean and say hurtful things that they would never say to a waitress or bank teller. A lot of people forget that we're human. I find I get waves of depression for no particular reason and it just means I lack energy and motivation.

    Thankfully, this job pays well on average and is flexible, so you can get away with working as little as 1-2 nights a week and still make enough to live on. Or take time off when needed and not worry too much about surviving financially. Before this year, I was always struggling on low-income jobs or as a student. It's refreshing to be able to take care of myself, pay medical bills, pay for a good counsellor, eat a good diet, and still have money left over. Just take it easy, make money, get some savings happening, and try to use the job to make your life better. Good luck!
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    I've had about 4 shifts thus far and it's going okay. The first couple of shifts I cried all the way home (not really sure why). I think it's just learning to deal with the environment..Some people are damn rude, but then sometimes you get really good customers.
    I was sitting talking to a regular and he just gave me a $100 note, just for talking at his table. Those are good customers. The rich slob who hands you a $5..not so good.

    I've had a lot of great feedback about my "look". My appearance is very distinct from the other girls and a lot of people have said I remind them of the 1920's (or a vampire haha).

    The staff have been really lovely and most of the girls have been lovely to me.

    I'm not comfortable with double shows at the moment..Even though the rules strictly say no touching and that girls not touch each other...I find they still do it. Which makes me look like old mother Mary in comparison.

    You know, I have a partner, I am just there to provide some visual entertainment, make some money and go home.

    I've also done a few podiums (so daunting at first and quite boring after the first 5 minutes lol).

    As for the depression..It has gotten Centrelink off my back, it feels fantastic to not have to rely on the government for money.

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    Dont worry about it.. f.e. when I was in my second club i felt there sooo bad - I started thinking about myself that I am aboslutely not pretty, very bad dancer, very bad hustler.. my selfconfidence was totally shity, realy. And then I was going to another club and there I felt like a queen :-)

    every club is not good for everybody.. you must search and try to find the club whis is for you, for your personality, for your style of behavior and where you will feel great.. because it is not good for your life going every day to work and have a stress about it

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    Like some of the ladies already said, it just depends what they're looking for at that particular time. They may already have ladies that are similar to your look on their staff. Don't take it personally. I worked with all sorts of girls but, it's all about what the customer likes.

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