
Originally Posted by
melb_oz_n00b
I was never hazed. However, at every club - be it my first or just a new club after becoming an experienced dancer - I noticed a ¨three week rule.¨
There would always be a handful of dancers who had been there a long time, and were practically household names. They would usually have strong, extroverted personalities, and be super close to many other girls. They´d talk about their weekend, their partners, their vaginas -EVERYTHING - with other girls. It´s pretty easy to spot these girls - they´re like alpha strippers.
But don´t try to join in the conversation. You´re just another new girl in an industry with a high turnover. They will appear cold to you if you try to act chummy, because trust is important to them, and it´s something only earned after time. Perhaps they´ve been fucked over in the past by a fly-in fly-out stripper. Perhaps they just can´t be bothered getting close to every girl who tries their hand at stripping then leaves after a night or two. But don´t take it personally. I remember thinking, ´WHy are they so nice to everyone else, but not to me?´
If you pass them in the hallway or you´re the first two in the dressing room, say Hi and smile, but leave it at that. Then after about three weeks (assuming you have kept your head down and not made drama) they will start approaching you, addressing you by your name, asking how you are, inviting you to parties or to grab food after work.
On the other hand, there are some girls who are veterans and will be genuine, open and lovely from day 1. They will spot a newbie and make them feel as comfortable as possible. And at the other extreme, there´s the very small minority of girls who are just all-round bitches or drama queens, and will never warm to you. You can usually identify them on your first night, because no one respects them. Don´t join the gossiping. Just steer clear of those girls and you´ll be fine. If you have a problem with one of them, or you sense they´re trying to take advantage of you, go straight to the manager, don´t try to confront them.
Edited to add that the truly horrible or drama queen girls are really far rarer than you would think. At least in my experience working in several Aussie clubs. I expected a good portion of them to be difficult, high-maintenace people when I was a newbie. At the end of the day, a good 90% or more (depending on the club) are super normal girls who are mums, students, or just need cash for debts, particular goals, etc. They´re not all high-maintenace party girls who can´t function in normal society.
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