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    Hi Ladies...I'm pretty new to the forum, actually haven't started camming yet. (I signed up with LJ and in drunk mode, accidentally signed up under a name that I used with my myspace account, so I have to register under a new name..ugh. But, at anyrate) I have a question. Now, I have told my fiance that my plan is to cam to gain additional income for certain bills, expenses and so forth. And, he doesn't like it one bit. He said that the girls who "cam" are insecure and me doing it would be disrespectful to him. My feelings are this: I think that it actually takes a SECURE person to take her clothes off in front of people, no less masturbate. What do you think? Also, as far as the disrepect goes. Do any of you have significant others that know about what you do and how do they feel about it? I know there are some women on here that are married, have boyfriends ect. And, at first I wasn't even going to tell him but I firmly believe that when you're in a relationship with someone, especially in a committed relationship it is your responsibilty to be forth right and honest. Any feedback or opinions on this would be greatly appreciated!

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    My bf and I have been together for 3 years and I have been camming for 1. He hates my job, we have fought about it constantly. But we finally came to a peaceful accord. It makes me happy. Mainstream jobs make me sad. He HATES seeing me sad. It DEFINATELY takes a secure person to do this. The ONLY reason I stood my ground and risked ending my relationship over it is because I LOVE this industry, it makes me happy and I refused to let a man fuck with that. If this ISN'T something important to you really think over the risks of what holding your ground will entail.

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    It takes a thick skin to cam, insecure girls simply won't make it. I know I'm damn confident, otherwise I would have failed months ago. My boyfriend knows I cam, and he loves it. He likes that even though all those guys want me, only he gets me and knows the real me. Sometimes he'll even be my camera man for stuff like shower shows.

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    My boyfriend wants me to get on cam all the time because it makes me money and it makes me happy. I could never understand men who get all huffy about us camming.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Arialandre View Post
    My bf and I have been together for 3 years and I have been camming for 1. He hates my job, we have fought about it constantly. But we finally came to a peaceful accord. It makes me happy. Mainstream jobs make me sad. He HATES seeing me sad. It DEFINATELY takes a secure person to do this. The ONLY reason I stood my ground and risked ending my relationship over it is because I LOVE this industry, it makes me happy and I refused to let a man fuck with that. If this ISN'T something important to you really think over the risks of what holding your ground will entail.

    Thank you for your reply Arialandre. To be honest, I'm not quite sure how important camming is to me. I guess I'm still deciding that, at this point. It is important for me however to pay my bills and I know there is money to be made in this industry. I'm also very bored during the day. Being off of work this summer is killing me. A girl can only clean the house so many times before she goes bonkers

    Thanks again!

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    Sometimes guys just totally misunderstand sex work. They often think we're going to run away with one of our online johns. LOL! Try having him sit in on one of your camming shifts. If you guys have two computers, he can even enter your chat room as a free guest. Most likely after a few minutes, he'll feel a lot less intimidated when he sees how many fucking chuckleheads are online. He'll also probably understand that you are simply providing entertainment. Like the girls above have said, it takes a thick skin and tons of confidence to cam not the other way around. Good luck!
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    I know I know *eyeroll*

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweetheather View Post
    It takes a thick skin to cam, insecure girls simply won't make it. I know I'm damn confident, otherwise I would have failed months ago. My boyfriend knows I cam, and he loves it. He likes that even though all those guys want me, only he gets me and knows the real me. Sometimes he'll even be my camera man for stuff like shower shows.

    That's so friggin cool!!!

    My boyfriend did say last night that he feels he is being disrespected because I haven't "given him any" for a while. Which is true...sadly. But, My bff is getting married this weekend and Im her maid of honor so It's been very chaotic lately. Maybe I'll be extra sweet for him tonight and talk to him about it afterwards. Thank you so much!

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    My boyfriend is fine with me camming, I'm much less stressed than I was when I worked in retail, so I'm sure I'm way more pleasant to be around. I'm sure he doesn't love it 100% of the time but the pros outweigh the cons. I'm not hooking up with guys from cam sites and I'm safe and happy, so he really has no room to criticize it.

    I do this for money, not for validation. Compliments don't pay the bills so if I was insecure and looking for reassurance, I'd go be on Girls Gone Wild or some bullshit like that for free. I am pretty secure with myself and if I didn't have self confidence and a thick skin, I wouldn't be able to last in this industry.

    But honestly if your boyfriend thinks we are all dumb insecure whores and that camming would be disrespectful to him, it doesn't sound like you're going to change his mind. People with misogynistic beliefs tend to have a hard time changing them and he doesn't sound particularly open minded. You'll probably end up having to choose between camming or your boyfriend. Good luck with your decision

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    My husband loves my job! Not just that he can get what other guys can't (he'd already gotten THAT ego boost -eyeroll-), but that I can work while he's working, or I can take a couple of hours after he gets home. For real, way better than the cashier job I had a few years ago. I'm not actually FIT to work in a 'real world' customer service job, but camming lets me talk to other people (agoraphobe), fulfill fetishes I can't do with him (tiny car and cuck guys), and sometimes when he's home and I'm working he'll even get a free show

    I was actually quite surprised that he didn't mind, given that we met on the internet.... hm...

    But we are quite secure in our relationship, and he's quite set in his manliness, so

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    My boyfriend suggested it halfheartedly one day. I had quit my job for a few reasons, and I was like "hmm, I could look into it". I ended up pulling an all-nighter reading stuff about it, and eventually signed up for LJ (not the site for me, but it might work for you!).
    He doesn't care, and will laugh with me when I have a strange customer, and high-five me when I make bank.

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    First of all, I don't think you can be insecure and cam. If you aren't happy with yourself, it isn't easy to take your clothes off and it also isn't easy to deal with the assholes. So basically, I think most cam girls are definitely far from insecure.
    As far as the boyfriend issue goes, me and my guy have been together for 2 years. When I first started dabbling in camming, he wasn't exceptionally excited but it was around Christmas time, I needed the extra money for presents, so he dealt with it.
    Once I realized that I could support myself doing this rather than going to a job that I HATED, I decided that I was going to quit that job eventually, when the right time cam. I told my boyfriend and he was pretty upset when I quit my job and all but he learned to get over it. I just had to convince him that this is a JOB to me. I do it for the money, not just because I get off on getting naked for men online. The more I convinced him that it's nothing personal and starting sharing stories and discussing it all with him, the more he was okay with it. Not to mention, he likes knowing that if someone pops up that we really want to do, I can just take the day off and not worry about trying to get a day off at a real job.
    Just explain to him that it's nothing personal. Just a job.

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    It definitely takes a secure girl to do well at camming! So camgirls are definitely NOT insecure

    As for SOs. I told my bf a few months after I started camming. Hmm this is a weird timeline. Started seeing bf in May. Started camming in October. Told bf in January/February. At first he was like WOW COOL. Hey he gets to see tons of sexy pics of me! (I do pics as well.) He was never once insecure about it. He is not the type to tell me what to do. He knows I enjoy it. And he knows he's the one for me
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    Actually my boyfriend is very supportive. He helped me come up with my cam name, and he takes pics and vids of me when i want to put new ones up for sale, and has even done a few couples shows with me (loves being a porn star ha!!). He laughswhen i tell him stories of what i've been up to on cam, and sometimes answers sms's i get from guys on the text service. He's just fab with it all Took a bit of getting used to it, but he loves me for me and is happy and secure enough in our relationship to let me do what i need to do without interfering or becoming jealous. The bit he is most bothered about is that i often earn a lot more than him and do a heck of a lot less work. Sometimes that causes tension, but overall he is happy that i'm bringing in enough that we can have a few good times and luxuries as well as pay bills Any worries he has he will share and we will talk about and deal with them together.

    Let your boyfriend know that while you respect his concerns and will try to co-operate with his wishes, this is something you have thought through and wish to explore. You'd prefer to do so WITH his blessing x

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    Good Morning Ladies. I appreciate all of the feedback and positivity. I liked all the responses so much that last night instead of trying to "convince" him why camming would be a good idea for us right now, I copied/pasted all of ya'lls responses and put it in a word document. I thought that if he got information first hand and from others, it would make him feel more at ease. (Don't worry, I left names the names as well as the website out)

    Well, it worked! This morning, he left me a note (he gets up early from work) saying that he is going to be supportive of me no matter what I do and that he can't wait for some spice in our sex life!!!

    So, thank you, thank you, thank you! It is true. While I would probably cam anyway, it makes me feel better that he is OK with it you know?

    It also makes me feel better that there are sooo many women on here who give so much support to one another. You all are truly awesome and very and I feel blessed that I am a part of it.

    May all of you have a blessed and prosperous day

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    Quote Originally Posted by housewench View Post
    My husband loves my job! Not just that he can get what other guys can't (he'd already gotten THAT ego boost -eyeroll-), but that I can work while he's working, or I can take a couple of hours after he gets home. For real, way better than the cashier job I had a few years ago. I'm not actually FIT to work in a 'real world' customer service job, but camming lets me talk to other people (agoraphobe), fulfill fetishes I can't do with him (tiny car and cuck guys), and sometimes when he's home and I'm working he'll even get a free show

    I was actually quite surprised that he didn't mind, given that we met on the internet.... hm...

    But we are quite secure in our relationship, and he's quite set in his manliness, so
    Same here! We didnt meet on the internet, but my fiance loves me camming! He thinks it's awesome, and he told me if he were a girl with boobies and a booty he would totally do it too. Him and a few of his friends that we have told are completely supportive of me, and are jealous that they aren't a hot girl hahaha.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blueyedgirl View Post
    That's so friggin cool!!!

    My boyfriend did say last night that he feels he is being disrespected because I haven't "given him any" for a while. Which is true...sadly. But, My bff is getting married this weekend and Im her maid of honor so It's been very chaotic lately. Maybe I'll be extra sweet for him tonight and talk to him about it afterwards. Thank you so much!
    Yes, that's probably a huge slap in the face in his eyes. Hell, I couldn't deal with that either, would make me feel really unwanted if I wasn't getting enough sex and I felt like my guy was giving his energy to camming instead.

    Go sex him up girl

    Oh! I didn't see your updated response. So glad he is being supportive now. Sounds like a keeper.

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    Good luck on there and on here.

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    My fiance and I have both been doing webcam for the last year or so (separately, not as a couple). He was actually the one who suggested trying it out. I thought he was joking at first but after talking about it for a while we both decided to give it a shot.

    In the beginning he was very insecure about it, sometimes he'd be fine but other times he'd pout and mope around... and complain about how he heard me laughing or moaning. One time I asked him if it would be okay for a customer to send me lingerie in the mail and he FLIPPED OUT. Really annoying especially since it was his idea for me to do webcam in the first place.

    Now that some time has passed though, he's gotten much better. I'm comfortable with sharing pretty much anything about my customers and private shows with him, whereas before I couldn't really talk about it because he'd get upset. He takes sexy photographs of me, we started doing a few boy/girl shows together and we're planning on filming tons of clips to sell on Clips4Sale. And in a marvelous flipflop he even suggested I make an Amazon wishlist because he likes the idea of getting free stuff in the mail.

    Now I feel like we're almost business partners.

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    Same here! We didnt meet on the internet, but my fiance loves me camming! He thinks it's awesome, and he told me if he were a girl with boobies and a booty he would totally do it too. Him and a few of his friends that we have told are completely supportive of me, and are jealous that they aren't a hot girl hahaha.
    I had cammed a month, secretly, before I told my husband. One night it was just bothering me keeping it from him because I had this jackass in my room who kept talking about how camming is cheating on both sides...stupid fuck.

    So I said that I had something to tell him and that I hope he is not too mad and that I had been working for a month and he said 'doing internet porno' and I was like, WHAAAAA.

    Now he likes it... his fantasy is to sit in the corner and watch me in a private and beat off.... weird.

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    Perhaps he only said that to avoid the real reason he doesn't want you to do it. Which is probably because HE feels insecure of you being intimate with other guys.

    With me it was actually my BF who suggested camming. I was depressed with my job and he said as a joke I should be a camwhore. Now he can't take it back haha

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