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    Default What does it mean when a guy gives you his number?

    Ok so, I recently joined this dating site called "okcupid.com". Me and the guy had 90% match and he visited my profile. He visited my profile twice. But he never said anything. I messaged him. We talked about..20 messages later he said "if you ever want to text my number is ................ i don't really get on this site much" What does it mean?

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    It means he's too lazy to attempt to cultivate even a very basic friendship on the website, and rather than introduce himself and make you WANT to call him, he'll just throw the number out there and be done with it. He probably does this to all sorts of girls on that site. I'd ignore him.

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    Default Re: What does it mean when a guy gives you his number?

    maybe he wants to take things to next level, like meet in person, but is afraid to ask you out? Some guys are pretty shy when it comes to talking to girls

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    Quote Originally Posted by mrv View Post
    maybe he wants to take things to next level, like meet in person, but is afraid to ask you out? Some guys are pretty shy when it comes to talking to girls
    his profile says hes friendly and outgoing and it says MESSAGE IF you're cute with a sweet personality. LOL

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    Default Re: What does it mean when a guy gives you his number?

    I'm getting this a lot. I'll talk to a guy once or never at all and he'll give me his phone number to text him. Often it's a long distance number (I don't do long distance). One guy that I'm interested in gave me his number to call him which I will do soon. I've been chatting with him for awhile. Otherwise I think it's kind of creepy getting it right away.

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    I don't think it's bad if they give there number early. In this day and age with text messages people prefer to do that instead of stay on a computer. It's not necessarily a bad sign.

    He might want to see how serious you are because it seems that sometimes people are on those sites but it's kind of a secondary option and he might not want to sit around waiting for you to just stop talking back.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    I'm getting this a lot. I'll talk to a guy once or never at all and he'll give me his phone number to text him. Often it's a long distance number (I don't do long distance). One guy that I'm interested in gave me his number to call him which I will do soon. I've been chatting with him for awhile. Otherwise I think it's kind of creepy getting it right away.
    if a guy just randomly send me his number without talking first. most likely, i would ignore him. the guy i mentioned gave me his FULL name when i told him i didn't have his name to put him in my contacts list. i searched his name on facebook and found out him and i got 1 mutual friend. hahah. on okcupid he his profile says he just got out a long relationship. he mentioned that to me in the message too. i clicked on his facebook and he still has pics of him and his ex. the relationship was 8 years. so i'm not really sure about him. should i text him?

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    Quote Originally Posted by SessyGoddess View Post
    I don't think it's bad if they give there number early. In this day and age with text messages people prefer to do that instead of stay on a computer. It's not necessarily a bad sign.

    He might want to see how serious you are because it seems that sometimes people are on those sites but it's kind of a secondary option and he might not want to sit around waiting for you to just stop talking back.
    he signs on with his phone mostly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by firemaiden04 View Post
    It means he's too lazy to attempt to cultivate even a very basic friendship on the website, and rather than introduce himself and make you WANT to call him, he'll just throw the number out there and be done with it. He probably does this to all sorts of girls on that site. I'd ignore him.
    I second this. Maybe I'm a little old fashioned but if I meet a who guy gives me his number instead of asking for mine or doesn't ask for mine I just throw it away, I am a firm believer that if a guy is interested he will be the one that calls, not me, plus I hate initiating things. These guys are usually just a waste of time and aren't interested in anything serious. Next.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweet_baby View Post
    his profile says hes friendly and outgoing and it says MESSAGE IF you're cute with a sweet personality. LOL
    If he's "so outgoing" he'd give you his number to call him, not to text him. I'll bet you $10, if you try to call him, he won't answer. Actually, if he was outgoing and/or interested, he would have asked for your number and called you.

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    Default Re: What does it mean when a guy gives you his number?

    My date theory is this: If I don't like a guy or not attracted to him and want to let him down easy, I take his number (and of course not call). I think a guy may give a number when he is unsure of himself, or he could be playing which fish will bite.

    I would prefer a guy I like to take down my number or ask for it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sammii View Post
    If he's "so outgoing" he'd give you his number to call him, not to text him. I'll bet you $10, if you try to call him, he won't answer. Actually, if he was outgoing and/or interested, he would have asked for your number and called you.
    so..why did he gave me his number and said IF YOU EVER want to text? what does that mean? that its up to me? and why did he gave me his number for? i dont think i want to text/call him. i didnt bother to save it to my phone hahahaha.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Michele.2 View Post
    I second this. Maybe I'm a little old fashioned but if I meet a who guy gives me his number instead of asking for mine or doesn't ask for mine I just throw it away, I am a firm believer that if a guy is interested he will be the one that calls, not me, plus I hate initiating things. These guys are usually just a waste of time and aren't interested in anything serious. Next.
    There's one guy I am interested in and he's doing this. He'll disappear for a few weeks, tell me he's busy dating, then give me his number. I've hinted around about meeting but he's made comments that girls usually ask him for dates. A few others are doing the same thing.

    I hate online dating because I am running into these guys and wouldn't you know it, they are the ones I like. The guys I have zero interest in keep asking me for my number and want to meet me. I had this problem last time I did online.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweet_baby View Post
    so..why did he gave me his number and said IF YOU EVER want to text? what does that mean? that its up to me? and why did he gave me his number for? i dont think i want to text/call him. i didnt bother to save it to my phone hahahaha.
    I can just tell he's a timewaster. I'm glad you're not going to call him. Let the guy make the effort.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sammii View Post
    I can just tell he's a timewaster. I'm glad you're not going to call him. Let the guy make the effort.
    do u think he is interested in FRIENDSHIP or in something else? he mentioned about his 8 year relationship in message and on his profile. after a few more messages. hes gave me his number.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweet_baby View Post
    do u think he is interested in FRIENDSHIP or in something else? he mentioned about his 8 year relationship in message and on his profile. after a few more messages. hes gave me his number.
    I'm learning that when a guy says anything related to friendship online he means sex with no commitment. The only difference is if he says something like developing a friendship first.

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    What does it mean when a guy gives you his number?

    It means he wants you to call him...... No need to over analysis this.

    What's the worst that can happen?....... Now imagine the best that can happen...... Good risk reward ratio.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mikef View Post
    What does it mean when a guy gives you his number?

    It means he wants you to call him...... No need to over analysis this.

    What's the worst that can happen?....... Now imagine the best that can happen...... Good risk reward ratio.
    but he said TEXT. so do i call or text? lol this cant be THAT hard...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    There's one guy I am interested in and he's doing this. He'll disappear for a few weeks, tell me he's busy dating, then give me his number. I've hinted around about meeting but he's made comments that girls usually ask him for dates. A few others are doing the same thing.

    I hate online dating because I am running into these guys and wouldn't you know it, they are the ones I like. The guys I have zero interest in keep asking me for my number and want to meet me. I had this problem last time I did online.
    That Guy sounds like a player, I'd run far away.

    I have the same problem but not with online dating, I've never tried it plus there is no market for it where I live. I meet guys and go on dates but its always the ones I don't like that make the effort, either I never hear from the ones I do like again or they wanna be there for sex. Sometimes I think I am cursed because everytime I do meet a Guy and we have mutual feelings it can't work out because they are just traveling through here, this has happened more to me than just being a coincidence, I don't get it.

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    Default Re: What does it mean when a guy gives you his number?

    He wants you to get in touch. Text him if you want to. If you don't then don't. Not rocket science.

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    I have done this & there is no hidden meaning. I do this not to be over aggressive & I let them have my info so there isn't the freak factor. A text turns into a call very quick for me if I feel there is a connection. All I will say is try not to analyze his effort over a email to text. You could be missing out on a great guy over the first stages of connecting...there is time for hoop jumping!

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    Guys often tell me they will give me their number because they know women are nervous about giving out their number online. Alot of women during the first calls block their number if it is a land line they say.
    My rule of thumb is if i havent talked to him on phone I dont text. You can't block your number texting. I try to be careful because the last thing i need is some guy constantly calling, texting, or worse.

    In your case if you dont feel comfortable texting him, I would ask for a reg email address. It is easy and safe for you both. If he thinks that is weird then I would drop it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Vamp View Post
    Guys often tell me they will give me their number because they know women are nervous about giving out their number online. Alot of women during the first calls block their number if it is a land line they say.
    My rule of thumb is if i havent talked to him on phone I dont text. You can't block your number texting. I try to be careful because the last thing i need is some guy constantly calling, texting, or worse.

    In your case if you dont feel comfortable texting him, I would ask for a reg email address. It is easy and safe for you both. If he thinks that is weird then I would drop it.
    everytime i give my number out to a stranger. i always get ANNOYING phone calls and creepy texts. i'm not a phone person. i hardly talk on the phone. you can get a textfree # and text. so that won't be your real number lol. nowadays, i think most people who go for instant messaging. because i hardly check my email.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweet_baby View Post
    but he said TEXT. so do i call or text? lol this cant be THAT hard...

    OMG.... The single life is too hard these days..... I always gave my number..... This way the lady has some feeling of control and safety.

    Go ahead and text him.... Then if you like, ask him to call you.

    Good luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Michele.2 View Post
    That Guy sounds like a player, I'd run far away.

    I have the same problem but not with online dating, I've never tried it plus there is no market for it where I live. I meet guys and go on dates but its always the ones I don't like that make the effort, either I never hear from the ones I do like again or they wanna be there for sex. Sometimes I think I am cursed because everytime I do meet a Guy and we have mutual feelings it can't work out because they are just traveling through here, this has happened more to me than just being a coincidence, I don't get it.
    Yeah I got that feeling because the way he sends messages sound weird. About a month or so ago I sent him a long message where I answered all his questions and then he sent me a message stating he was getting bored talking to me or talking online. He then disappeared and I figured he just didn't like me, that happens. A few weeks later he started messaging me again and telling me all these dates women are asking him on. When I asked him if any worked out he said they all had issues but wouldn't tell me what the problems were. So he started contacting me again, gave me his number, and I casually mentioned meeting. He then mentioned he had a few dates where women asked him out. That sounded bizarre because when I mentioned meeting I was expecting him to say "hey let's meet" but so far no. He didn't even ask what I like to do on a date. He is nice looking and that along with having a good job, and never married with no kids probably gives him more options than other men.

    Yeah I can get guys easily but never guys I like. I'm doing online dating and everyday get contacted by many guys. I am not even remotely interested in most of them. Sometimes I'll see a guy I am attracted to, contact him and he'll either delete my post or respond very quickly with no long mnessage. I think I am going to delete my profile and just try looking for men on my own.

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