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    Travel Should I Just Give Up and Move Back Home?

    I'm quite new to dancing, and I really like it, but it seems like I got my timing all wrong and made a bad investment.

    I gave myself a deadline for dancing, and stuck to it, reducing my hours at my full-time retail job accordingly. Unfortunately, two weeks (and four shifts for me) into dancing, me and all the staff at my club found out that we would be closing in a week for a month to finish up construction.

    That really fucked my shit over, pardon my French. Now my life is spinning in a whirlwind of financial disaster. I can't cover my bills or pay my rent on the few hours I gave myself in retail (and no additional hours are available for me to take). I'm 23 and have an 8-month-old son. My grand scheme was to take my boy to my parents' 800 miles away, and let my parents keep him for two months, in which time I would spend dancing full-time without the hassle of childcare. (His father chooses not to be involved with our son.) I was planning on saving up for a car as well as keeping up on my bills and rent. By the time I picked him up from my parents', I'm sure we would have been sitting pretty.

    But the lease is up in a month on my current apt and I think it's going to be almost impossible to find a new place. Firstly, this is my first place and I found it originally as a room on Craigslist, so I didn't need a credit check when I moved in, and I took over the lease after the other tenant moved out.

    Secondly, I've been looking at the threads for dancer apartment applications and I think I'm fucked. My credit is horrible (a defaulted credit card when I was 18, almost $900 in dues from community college), I don't have anything to put for a job now (other than the 12 hours a week of retail, and I only danced like 4-5 shifts, so I'm sure that won't even count), and the application for the last remaining available apartments in my area specify that I have to pay rent I owe to any landlord before I can even turn the document in.

    I've lived here for almost four years, and this is the first month I haven't been able to pay my rent or bills

    I don't have any family here, so I have nowhere to stay if I can't find an apartment. This is really stressing me out...I've lost my appetite and stopped eating regularly, which only happens to me during high-pressure situations like this. Please please someone, I need advice.


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    Default Re: Should I Just Give Up and Move Back Home?

    Have you thought about trying webcam? Even if it's not something you really want to do, you could always work at it for a couple weeks while the club is closed just to make some quick cash. I guarantee you'll make a lot more than you would working retail.

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    Default Re: Should I Just Give Up and Move Back Home?

    Are there no other clubs nearby that you can work at while the club does renovations? Hell, if you're in that dire of a situation, is there a nearby town you can spend a weekend at just pulling a couple of doubles to get enough money to tide yourself over?

    Also, how nice is your landlord? If you've been a model tenant for you years, would they be understanding in giving you an extension on your rent payment if you explained your financial situation (maybe leaving out the stripping, just say that your hours got cut at the retail job)?

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    Default Re: Should I Just Give Up and Move Back Home?

    Quote Originally Posted by Smurfette View Post
    Have you thought about trying webcam? Even if it's not something you really want to do, you could always work at it for a couple weeks while the club is closed just to make some quick cash. I guarantee you'll make a lot more than you would working retail.
    Agreed. Webcam can be really good. If you're new, you can still do pretty well. Guys will often take new girls for privates just cuz they are new. I probably made the most in my first couple shifts on webcam. If you're looking for sites, check out the "Camming Connection" part of SW. Tons of advice.

    Perhaps try to get another retail job? Or even a job in fast food or something? Sucky jobs but they will pay the rent.

    Since you're comfortable stripping though, I'd say go with webcam modeling :p
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    Default Re: Should I Just Give Up and Move Back Home?

    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post
    Are there no other clubs nearby that you can work at while the club does renovations? Hell, if you're in that dire of a situation, is there a nearby town you can spend a weekend at just pulling a couple of doubles to get enough money to tide yourself over?

    Also, how nice is your landlord? If you've been a model tenant for you years, would they be understanding in giving you an extension on your rent payment if you explained your financial situation (maybe leaving out the stripping, just say that your hours got cut at the retail job)?
    Where I live, the nearest club is like a 20-min drive (a nightmare to get to without a car, literally an hour on the bus and then I have to take a cab for 2 more miles). I'm not sure about staying in another town with my little one. No one of my babysitters can take him for a weekend, and even so, with the cost of babysitting, I would likely just break even.

    (Not trying to be a Negative Nancy here )

    I am in the middle of a battle of sorts with my landlord/property manager. It's a pretty long story to get into but he wrongfully accused myself and my roommate of something and exhibited unprofessional behavior in doing so. We are not on speaking terms...so getting no help there.

    Either way, what I owe is less than the security deposit (just my half of the rent), so I imagine they're going to take the amount owed out of there when my lease ends in a month.

    When it comes down to it, I have enough money to live and barely cover expenses, but I don't have the extra required to move forward and continue living on my own, which sucks. My tarot cards predicted this


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    Default Re: Should I Just Give Up and Move Back Home?

    What city do you live in? Maybe sign up with a stripper agency in your local area. Sometimes they have drivers that work for them that can pick you up to take you to the party/event that you would be entertaining at. I know girls and guys who make really great money and deal with less hours than a club. Then maybe to web cam during the week when your kid is napping

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