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    I've been talking to this guy from Okcupid.com for about 5 days. We made plans to hangout yesterday. But, I thought about it. I made up an excuse telling him that I would be busy. The reason why I didn't want to meet him is because he sounds cheap and the fact we only talking for 5 days which was not long enough. He would message me and ask if I have coupons for the restaurants we're going to. He's 22 years old, works at a big company. He drives a BMW. But, he takes public transportation to work (back & forth). Does anyone on here think the same way I do?

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    The guy posted 3 more pictures of himself. He is UGLY and definitely out of my league lol. He kept checking up on my profile everyday. I feel like he is obsessed with me. Not to sound conceited. That is how I feel. He just messaged me asking if I still want to hangout this Friday. Which I have not replied yet.
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    Default Re: This guy sounds cheap.

    He's asking you for coupons to reestaurants? He sounds like he knows how to make a good first impression on a girl....lol..

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    Default Re: This guy sounds cheap.

    He sounds cheap but he sounds like a prince compared to some of the losers I am talking to. I'm actually getting guys asking me to pay for the date for him! Um, no not happening.

    Honestly, I always meet guys first at a meeting. That might be a better idea. Meet them for a soda and if it works arrange another meeting. Most of the guys I met online never amounted to many dates so I didn't waste their time or mine.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    He sounds cheap but he sounds like a prince compared to some of the losers I am talking to. I'm actually getting guys asking me to pay for the date for him! Um, no not happening.
    LMFAO. that would be a NO NO. but at the same time.. HILARIOUS haha

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    Default Re: This guy sounds cheap.

    It's funny. I'm laughing at them having the nerve to ask me to pay. Most of them don't even have jobs or cars so why would I even consider them? I may go to meet them just for kicks though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    It's funny. I'm laughing at them having the nerve to ask me to pay. Most of them don't even have jobs or cars so why would I even consider them? I may go to meet them just for kicks though.
    yea just go meet them for fun. you should ask what their job is or what car they drive before meeting them. if a guy sounds like a loser to me, i would be sure to ignore him!

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    Default Re: This guy sounds cheap.

    oooh no. Coupons on a first date is just...bad. And to ask YOU if you have any... even worse.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweet_baby View Post
    yea just go meet them for fun. you should ask what their job is or what car they drive before meeting them. if a guy sounds like a loser to me, i would be sure to ignore him!
    Yes and then they'll say they don't have either. One guy wanted me to pick him up! One guy actually wanted to use his food stamps for our date (um, ok). Somehow I don't think my parents would want me to date an unemployed guy on food stamps who doesn't drive.

    I hate to say it though but if you (you in general, not you specific)go to these free sites there are these guys on there. The paid sites are better for not dealing with these guys.

    Btw, what restaurant does he want to go out to? I judge men on this as well. If a guy suggests a fast food restaurant I tell him no.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    Yes and then they'll say they don't have either. One guy wanted me to pick him up! One guy actually wanted to use his food stamps for our date (um, ok). Somehow I don't think my parents would want me to date an unemployed guy on food stamps who doesn't drive.

    I hate to say it though but if you (you in general, not you specific)go to these free sites there are these guys on there. The paid sites are better for not dealing with these guys.

    Btw, what restaurant does he want to go out to? I judge men on this as well. If a guy suggests a fast food restaurant I tell him no.
    wow pick him up huh? NOPE.. it's always the guy picking ME up. i have never pick a guy up for date/hangout before. i hate the paid sites. i think dating sites should be free. he suggest Maggiano's.

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    Default Re: This guy sounds cheap.

    You know, janitors work at big companies too. Asking if you have coupons for a restaurant before a first date is just beyond tacky, haven't this losers ever heard of first impressions?
    "Well done. Here are the test results: You are a horrible person. I'm serious, that's what it says: 'A horrible person.' We weren't even testing for that."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trem View Post
    You know, janitors work at big companies too. Asking if you have coupons for a restaurant before a first date is just beyond tacky, haven't this losers ever heard of first impressions?
    he told me he fixes laptops and he work in the IT department. he drives a BMW.
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    Default Re: This guy sounds cheap.

    Bad move...If you can't afford a quality woman save you your money till you can. He may be broke because of that BMW.

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    Quote Originally Posted by unbeleavable View Post
    Bad move...If you can't afford a quality woman save you your money till you can. He may be broke because of that BMW.
    LMAO. on his profile he says he's really good at saving money hhahaha.

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    Default Re: This guy sounds cheap.

    I usually save the coupons routine till the second date.

    Clearly he's a rookie.

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    Default Re: This guy sounds cheap.

    He probably doesn't drive a BMW.

    That's totally awesome! BTW, I've used OKCupid and my advice is to not tie yourself to having a restaurant meal on the first date. I did it with one guy and it was a mistake. It was obvious within five minutes that we had no chemistry, but we had to complete the whole meal. It's easier to bail early if you go get drinks at a bar.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wellheeled View Post
    He probably doesn't drive a BMW.

    That's totally awesome! BTW, I've used OKCupid and my advice is to not tie yourself to having a restaurant meal on the first date. I did it with one guy and it was a mistake. It was obvious within five minutes that we had no chemistry, but we had to complete the whole meal. It's easier to bail early if you go get drinks at a bar.
    That's why I never do dinner first time meeting. I used to and 90% of the time the date was a bust. The guy either lied about something like age, marital status, etc or he was a pervert.

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    IMHO the guy sounds frugal and good with money. Hey I have a nice car too (not a BMW, but something with decent status quo) that was brand new when I bought it. After the first yr or two of driving it, I too would take mass transit to work...not becuz I couldnt afford my car, but becuz I wanted to save extra money to put towards paying off the car loan way early, buying a house, and trying for a baby. all things that r not impossible to do when ur unmarried/alone, but alot harder...so that's why I prided myself on saving $. Mebbe he's like me that way.

    The coupon thing, yea I do that too. But asking bout it for a 1st date, when 1st impressions r crucial?? Bad move on his part. From the sounds of it, he's prolly really smart, and smart with his money too, but a bit OCD with it (like I was lol) and mebbe a little geeky, which can explain the socially awkward faux paus of asking for coupons. Mebbe he was the geeky bookworm type who was too busy studying computers thru college to date very much. If he IS this type, he mite nit be super fun and exciting but could be a realy decent guy and possibly some1 that would make good husband material (if ur marriage n baby minded). Then again, I also know of some dudes who are smart and frugal but have no interest in marriage, or even serious love (beyond dating), due to them being so money obsessed they see marriage as a "money expenditure"...but these guys r rather rare I'd like to think...so hopefully he's not one of those.

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    Fark! That is just ridiculous. Thats not just cheap but totally classless as well. Thankfully Im married to a great man but reading stories like this makes me think in some cases strippers might be better off picking up a customer. LOL. That says a lot coming from someone who only has a good opinion of about 5% of the customers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    He sounds cheap but he sounds like a prince compared to some of the losers I am talking to. I'm actually getting guys asking me to pay for the date for him! Um, no not happening.

    Honestly, I always meet guys first at a meeting. That might be a better idea. Meet them for a soda and if it works arrange another meeting. Most of the guys I met online never amounted to many dates so I didn't waste their time or mine.
    Jeez, where are you meeting these guys?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr Hyde View Post
    Jeez, where are you meeting these guys?
    On a free site called Datehookup. I originally created a profile on a lark but started to get real responses. Now though I get many responses but yes the guys are either unemployed and disabled, guys with multiple kids, or guys wanting sex.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr Hyde View Post
    Jeez, where are you meeting these guys?
    Geez in threds like the "he has an online profile" one, many of u kept telling Kelly to be more proactive if she wanted to get over the ex and meet a husband already, some of u resuggested online dating. So she does, and these are the duds she's getting...no wonder she was apprihensive to do the online thing again. I don't blame her. These guys sound terrible...asking her to pay? Wtf?

    Kelly, is it possible to try a somewhat upscale bar/lounge in the city, the kind that attracts alotta business professionals like drs and lawyers? The kind where guys go for after work happy hr? This idea was suggested to me a few yrs ago by some1 who only dates guys with a certain caliber of cAreer and class



    Another thing. Not sayin the "cheap coupon guy" is all that great, but given how more than 1 of u say that many "blind dates"'with these dating site guys usually turns out to be a waste, mebbe that's why he doesn't want to invest full amount of $ into the date? U girls think it's a waste enough just to have to devote TIME sitting thru a long dinner date with a guy that u find out, very early into the date, just won't work for u. But think of it from the guys perspective, it mite prove to be a waste of time AND money. Now in that case I think it mite be better for the guy to only commit to a quick meet (Starbucks, etc) for a first time "date", insteada offering a midscale restaurant but acting cheap about it. Hes goin about it the wrong way by even so much as mentionigg coupons. Perhaps the real issue is that he's lacking in proper social skillz esp those involving women. Hate to stereotype but he's a computer programmer...mebbe he's one of those typical "computer geek" types.

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    Default Re: This guy sounds cheap.

    Wow. Just wow. Ladies and gentlemen, he is 22. Do you know many flush 22 year olds? I don't know many. And lots of people take public transportation, particularly when they work in major metropolitan areas as it is often faster than driving during rush hours.

    Now the coupon thing is a little silly, but it also seems odd coming out of the blue. Sweet, was there something in your conversation that led him to believe that you had access to restaurant coupons?

    Overall, this sounds like a young man with a decent job trying to be responsible. There will come a time when he will be very happy that he was and I wouldn't be surprised if he owns his own house at a very early age.

    Sweet, if you are looking for someone with more disposable cash then all power to you and to each her own, but if that is the case then you may need to move up the age ladder a bit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweet_baby View Post
    LMAO. on his profile he says he's really good at saving money hhahaha.
    It's easy to be good at saving money when you never spend any....

    For someone in their 20's, I wouldn't mind going dutch on a date. I understand that 20-somethings don't have a lot of money and if he's "dating around" from a site, he probably doesn't want to spend a lot on each girl he's just trying to get to know. But asking if you have coupons is tacky. If you actually like this guy, tell him that if he doesn't want to go on a "fancy date" that you wouldn't mind just meeting for coffee at first. But if he decides he likes you and wants to take you on "real dates" then he should start showing a little more class. I'm all for being frugal, and I'm even all for women treating men to dates, but in return, the guy has to treat a woman sometimes as well. I dated a guy once who constantly told me how much money he had but that he wasn't going to spend it on me because he "didn't want to spoil me." He acted like buying me an $8 movie ticket was beyond generous and needed me to thank him at least 3 times before we could move on from "how awesome a bf" he was.... god... there's a line between frugal and cheap.... lol

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    Default Re: This guy sounds cheap.

    Maybe just maybe he was joking about it?
    If hes for real, dont even think to date this guy..
    By 22 yrs old, people in the past were going to war, fighting with swords , and other things men these days cant even hold a candle to.
    If he;s for real, he lacks common sense.
    I say find another one.

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    When I was dating a lot, depending on the connection I would always go to a Mexican place first because you can order the whole menu & drinks for nothing. If there was a good connection on the phone I would go to a place I like to eat at, which was always nice. I've taken a flight for a first date which was hot! but that was after many phone conversations.

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