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    hi! im new here and i have a question. so ive heard many times from former strippers that you shouldnt flat out ask for a dance, but then i read on here not to p*ssyfoot around and just flat out ask. im very confused. i understand both ways. i would feel some kinda way if i was trying to relax and a girl kept coming up "wanna dance?" "wanna dance?" "wanna dance?". but then i understand time is money so you kinda dont have time to sweet talk and all of that. so how do you ladies ask?

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    Basically like this: I walk up to him, and ask him how hes doing and would he like some company before i just plop into his lap. He knows what you're up to and if he already said he wanted your company he will most likely say yes to a dance. Then I make stupid small talk about where he's from what he's doing that day, make a silly joke about myself or something and as SOON as the next song starts or right before it does I will say, "SO george, this song just started can I interest you in a dance this song?" and if he says yes, then great! and if he says no, then you say, "ok well I'm gonna go make a round/freshen up/check the weather/ANYTHING, I'll come back and say hey in a little bit!" Then give him a sweet smile and walk away..don't waste any more time!
    This is probably not the BEST hustle ever, but it works for me most of the time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by aperfectseal View Post
    Basically like this: I walk up to him, and ask him how hes doing and would he like some company before i just plop into his lap. He knows what you're up to and if he already said he wanted your company he will most likely say yes to a dance. Then I make stupid small talk about where he's from what he's doing that day, make a silly joke about myself or something and as SOON as the next song starts or right before it does I will say, "SO george, this song just started can I interest you in a dance this song?" and if he says yes, then great! and if he says no, then you say, "ok well I'm gonna go make a round/freshen up/check the weather/ANYTHING, I'll come back and say hey in a little bit!" Then give him a sweet smile and walk away..don't waste any more time!
    This is probably not the BEST hustle ever, but it works for me most of the time.
    I feel dumb for asking this....But in a no-contact club (air-dances only, you know...), is it still ok to sit in his lap?

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    Hahah that is a good hustle too tempest! But anyways, I am not really sure if it is against the rules in a no contact club to sit in his lap, since I've never worked in one....you could instead pull up a chair and sit next to him if it's not allowed at your club.

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    Quote Originally Posted by munchkin View Post
    I feel dumb for asking this....But in a no-contact club (air-dances only, you know...), is it still ok to sit in his lap?
    You should ask the club you work at, because things like this can vary from city to city and even club to club.

    Having said that, when I worked in a no-contact club we could not sit in customers laps.

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    The thing with trying to get a dance it not to make the guy feel hustled ... he knows he is in a strip club and that you are working.. and usually they are there for a reason weather it is a free show... (hince no dances and just observing) but if you are nice about it the Next time he is there and feels more comfortable he will probably buy you a dance.... dont just think of the now and the quick hustle look at the next time as welll... I know some girls that have gotten some really good regulars and they make an average of a couple hundred a week from each of them and averages about $1500 a week...
    Just thought I would share this..

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    Quote Originally Posted by milkyway View Post
    hi! im new here and i have a question. so ive heard many times from former strippers that you shouldnt flat out ask for a dance, but then i read on here not to p*ssyfoot around and just flat out ask. im very confused. i understand both ways. i would feel some kinda way if i was trying to relax and a girl kept coming up "wanna dance?" "wanna dance?" "wanna dance?". but then i understand time is money so you kinda dont have time to sweet talk and all of that. so how do you ladies ask?
    Depending on the kind of club you work at, it might be ok to ask almost right away or it might be better to talk to the guy for a song or two.

    But either way, there's a few things you should remember to help you close the sale.
    Don't ask "Wanna dance?" In fact, sometimes it's better to ask without asking at all. Try something like "I'm ready to dance for you now." or "It's time for a dance."
    Some people suggest not saying the word "dance" at all. Instead make references to getting naked, playing, having fun, or rubbing yourself on him (whatever works for you and the kind of club you are in).
    Ex: "I'm ready to get naked and rub myself all over you.", "Come on, let's go play!"

    Nod yes while asking for the dance. This works.

    Before you ask for the dance, ask the customer a few questions you'll know he'll say yes to (about the club, other girls, weather, whatever). This sort of gets him rolling on saying "yes".

    Touch him. Touch his arm or his leg or his shoulder. This helps build rapport and multiple studies have found that touch can influence peoples perceptions in a positive way. A study was done where tutors met with students, and after the session the students filled out a survey and asked to rate their impression of the tutor. Some of the tutors touched the students on the forearm and some of them did not. The tutors who touched the students were rated significantly higher than the ones that did not.

    A few other examples: "In one experiment in a library, a slight hand brush in the course of returning library cards to patrons was enough to influence patrons` positive attitudes towards the library and its staff. In another study, conducted in restaurants, a fleeting touch paid off in hard cash. Waitresses who touched their customers on the hand or shoulder as they returned change received a larger percentage of the bill as their tip...(DeVito& Hecht,p.222)"
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    After a few moments of chatter say "Would you like me to do this song or the next one?"

    By limiting his choices you get what you want either way, a dance! =]

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    oh so you mke small talk until the next song comes on? or when he says yes i want a dance, you just start? no matter where the song is that playing?

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    Quote Originally Posted by milkyway View Post
    oh so you mke small talk until the next song comes on? or when he says yes i want a dance, you just start? no matter where the song is that playing?
    How long I make small talk depends on how busy the club is and how receptive the customer is being. This will also depend on your club, as some have a faster pace than others. Generally I don't like to spend more than three songs (when it's not busy) chitchating without getting anything.
    I don't recommend starting a dance when the song is halfway over, that might just make the guy feel ripped off.
    In my club we have a more private area where the dances are more expensive. After he agrees to the dance I bring him back there and tell him we will do the next song, or if a song starts as we are grabbing a seat I will do that one.
    If your dances are done right where the customer sits it would be easier to ask at the start of the song and then just start right then.

    Don't worry, once you get in there you'll figure out how things are done. You could even pay a visit to the club you want to work at as a customer to get a feel for things beforehand.

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    Quote Originally Posted by milkyway View Post
    oh so you mke small talk until the next song comes on? or when he says yes i want a dance, you just start? no matter where the song is that playing?
    I try and time when I ask. Sometimes, when my timing is a little off and the club is busy I just start dancing halfway through and finish halfway into the next one.

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    I give it the 3 song rule, then ask.
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    It really depends on the club - some clubs are more focused on sheer volume, and thats where a variation on "wanna dance" can work well. I say variation - I never say "wanna dance". I will barrel up to the guys and say something overtly sexual and to the point, like - "you look ready to have a hot naked girl on your lap right now!" or "I have a little problem that I bet you can help me with...you can help me, right? Y'see, I'm wearing far too many clothes! (theatrical gasp) But I KNOW you could help me get naked..."

    For other clubs, where champagne rooms are the name of the game, I will spend 3-5 songs chatting, trying to find a connection, making them feel special and touching their arm, complimenting them etc, and then bring it up.
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    This has been mentioned before and it's a good idea for VIP's. Don't call it a VIP. Say "Why don't we go in the back and play?" or "Let's go spend some time together where it's more private." They know what you mean and you know what you mean - the VIP. Sometimes not saying the word doesn't trigger the automatic "No" some customers have when they hear "the VIP" because in their mind they have it hardwired that VIP means "gimmie all your cash".

    Do what Tempest mentioned as far as time limits. 3 songs or less before you ask. Just make sure you don't talk your way into the friend zone, which always kills sales for me. My hustle is sexy and seductive even though that's my stripper persona. My real persona wants to go into the friend zone and talk about current events, politics, what I'm reading and where I go to school. That, from experience, is not what customers want from me. 3 songs or less helps ensure I don't go there.


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