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    Quote Originally Posted by xoxDoll View Post
    If he does find it, which I doubt... he will he won't know it was money to leave. I can tell him I was saving up to surprise him with something.

    And..I don't have a friends couch to crash on. I don't leave near anyone I know. All I have is far away old friends I haven't talked to in years.

    Honestly I feel like you're saying that now, once you're out of the heat of THIS moment you'll slide back into your old feelings and not leave. You need to leave NOW. Don't give yourself time to rationalize you're relationship; what made you come on here in the first place?? BECAUSE YOU NEED AN EXTRA PUSH FROM WHAT YOU'RE ALREADY FEELING WHAT YOU WANT TO DO! Leave all of you're things, take your wallet and beforehand sneek out your laptop and just LEAVE. I don't want you ending up DEAD.
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    What state are you in? Do you have means to travel? I'm sure there is another cam girl on here who will take you in. I am in Chicago and looking for a roommate. Listen I have been there and done that there is only one thing to do dump him. Dump him nothing to consider just dump him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maina View Post
    What state are you in? Do you have means to travel? I'm sure there is another cam girl on here who will take you in. I am in Chicago and looking for a roommate. Listen I have been there and done that there is only one thing to do dump him. Dump him nothing to consider just dump him.

    That is a wonderful offer - there you go hon! Public transport available there and there's you a roommate available to help you out. All you gotta do is get to Chicago.

    Hope it works out for you both, sounds like a good plan really and a way to solve two problems here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blueyedgirl View Post
    Forgive me, I just kinda scammed through the posts but one thing that Doll was worried about was finding a place to live.

    All you have to do is find an apartment and say "listen, I have crappy credit, but I really need a place to stay because I have just left my abusive boyfriend"

    I've done it, it works. Believe it or not, MOST people are sympathetic. Plus, I haven't ran into many people saying "Ohhh I was abused" and didn't mean it. Just putting my two cents in.
    You don't even have to do that. It's the summer. The OP Cams and is open to the idea of moving. Look up an area that has a low cost of living, and look on craigslist to find a furnished sublet. There's TONS of them this time of year. College students are heading home to stay with their parents and are renting their apartment, furnished, usually for a lot less than what they pay. Also, they almost always have internet if not cable. So you can move somewhere new, work you ass off camming while subletting for a little while, and when the sublet is up you'll have money for a place of your own. I know this probably sounds easier than it is to do - but you gotta do something. You're being held captive right now and you have to get away from this guy.

    I've picked up my life and moved on a couple times. I was never leaving an abusive situation, so I was probably clearer and more stable mentally, but I promise if can be done. For about 6 months I lived in a little dive hotel for 210/week - just me and my two suitcases (although eventually I bought a mini-fridge and a microwave). It sounds depressing but it was one of the most freeing times of my life. I had a lot of fun there being on my own, with no commitments or financial pressure.

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    Dude, get the fuck out of there, seriously! Don't tell him you are leaving, call the police and have them escort you out. Make a plan before you leave! Slowly pack things, pretend you are donating them or throw them away but move them someplace safe. When the police come there will only be a small amount of things you need to move out. Don't let him play you with this bullshit phobia crap. It's an excuse! It's a way for him to always keep an eye on you and be a lazy shit. Nobody deserves to be treated like that. Don't wait around until it is too late.
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    Wow you need to GET OUT!! I remember being 18 that was around the time my stepfather started hitting my mom after 7 years together. What would happen I would intervene. You have no one to intervene for you! GET OUT! I know it's easier said than done. After a while I gave up on my mom and left.I was done with her getting mad at me when I reminded her about the abuse. My mom finally did leave but it did take a year. I hope you do in fact leave. You could sneak out when you're certain he's asleep.

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    Listen to these ladies, get out. Things don't matter but your life does. This behavior will only continue to escalate and he will kill you if you don't get out.Shoot me a PM, I'd be more than willing to help you out, if you're in the southwest I can offer you a couch to crash on while you sort things out.

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    I been here and most men don't change.
    This is not your fault. You don't cause him to hit you. It is NEVER ok for a man to touch a woman in violence. .
    Make a plan with family or something and leave quietly.. Don't make a scene or anything.
    If you can't leave while he aint there quietly call the police and get them there before yo u leave... That way you can get your things without being hit.

    He may have filled your head that you will never be away from him but he has no power over you. He also may tell you, that youa ren't ever going to get anyone else and if you do he will kill them and you.

    People are crazy and he does what he has to to keep you there.
    This will continue.
    It will NOT stop.
    until he kills you one day.

    Im here if you eer need me.

    Btw... this is Not the way love is supposed to be.

    You can do better

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    OP PM ME! If you need a place to stay I'm in Southern California! I'm honestly scared for your life and you need to leave PRONTO!
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    I just gotta say, what a LOVELY (not just on the outside) bunch of ladies here! So many reaching out to you!


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    Quote Originally Posted by xoxDoll View Post
    First of all I am posting this in camming connection because this is where I post most frequently and I trust you all to give me good advice. I didn't want to post this from my account so I made a new name because it's super personal and kind of embarrassing.
    Most girls who post here know the rest of us are a bit untrusthy with new users who post drama stories all of a sudden...
    Why didnt U post with your old account... U dont have family, friends. who cares what we would think about you.. if anything we would just want to help. Your post would have looked LEGIT and deff EVEN MORE people would jump out to help you. me included..
    Lets do things right...
    Report your story with YOUR OLD ACCOUNT, so we KNOW its not a troll.. and If U live near my town, I;ll try to help u out as much as I can.

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    Yeah, enough people have responded, saying they would physically assist the OP. Has anyone actually spoken to this person yet? Like, got on a messenger, seen her live and spoken directly to her about her condition and circumstances? People are offering resources and places to stay to a stranger, offering connections and willing to disclose their own locations. Can anyone yet confirm that this is a legit situation?

    I've yet to see a single person confirm that they've actally touched base with the OP. Seeing is believing, folks.
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    Quote Originally Posted by vivianbear View Post
    Yeah, enough people have responded, saying they would physically assist the OP. Has anyone actually spoken to this person yet? Like, got on a messenger, seen her live and spoken directly to her about her condition and circumstances? People are offering resources and places to stay to a stranger, offering connections and willing to disclose their own locations. Can anyone yet confirm that this is a legit situation?

    I've yet to see a single person confirm that they've actally touched base with the OP. Seeing is believing, folks.
    AMEN!!! .....Might be a dude with a scheme to gain addresses phone numbers ,yahoo's ,emails , Real Names ......anything and everything they can.....I surprised seasoned Camgirls would just eat this up so readily .

    Personally I'm waiting for the "blowback" on this one .
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    Quote Originally Posted by vivianbear View Post
    Yeah, enough people have responded, saying they would physically assist the OP. Has anyone actually spoken to this person yet? Like, got on a messenger, seen her live and spoken directly to her about her condition and circumstances? People are offering resources and places to stay to a stranger, offering connections and willing to disclose their own locations. Can anyone yet confirm that this is a legit situation?

    I've yet to see a single person confirm that they've actally touched base with the OP. Seeing is believing, folks.
    i've pmed with her, gotten her (very specific) location, found a shelter within driving/cab distance and talked to the shelter on the phone, and gotten her concrete info from the shelter nearby. i haven't spoken with her live but she has a (safe, anonymous) email address & phone number to reach me. she has said she is going to try and leave on her own and if she can't she will contact the shelter (personally i'd rather she contacted the shelter right now but it's not my choice). that's the most i can do without risking my own safety and without pressuring her to possibly risk hers (if this is for real). and my own assistance isn't conditional on her proving she's "for real." i'm the one who has to sleep at night knowing i've done everything i could. (i cannot offer her a place to stay as i'm in the process of moving across the country, but i've posted my location before anyway and most folks on the boards know where i live if they know where to look.) it's not about eating it up or being naive - hell, i know as well as any of you she could be lying, i am just not willing to bet she is or make her "prove" herself in order to assist her and do everything within my power to help.

    also the truth is in most crisis situations you will never know it is for real or how the situation turns out if it is for real. this is a very difficult lesson i had to learn doing immediate crisis counseling, intervention, & hotline work. the fact is, anyone could be lying to you - even if you talk to them on the phone. and there is also the fact that nine times out of ten you may never hear from the person again or know what happens to them - whether they live or die, whether things work out for them or not, whether it is real or not. that is just a fact of life when you do crisis work. the outcome isn't my problem. doing everything i can to help her now is my problem. the outcome is her and the police and the shelter if she chooses to get them involved. that is out of my hands. either i accept that and live with it or i don't and i speculate and drive myself fucking crazy. i choose to accept that.

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    it's not about eating it up or being naive - hell, i know as well as any of you she could be lying, i am just not willing to bet she is or make her "prove" herself in order to assist her and do everything within my power to help.
    You keep puting the word 'prove' in quotes, like it has some kind of alternate meaning. What's wrong with making her speak to you live to confirm she's even a woman? Look at all the foot work you're doing for this person! Do you have her number or does she have yours? Having yours does nothing but allow a stranger to contact you. Having hers at least means you can call and confirm that there is a voice on the other end! You're only making yourself feel better, here.

    People, you can help other people and still expect confirmation of their identities. I'm seeing way too many fakes, in this industry to just jump on this bandwagon. I've posted of this before and once again, here's another example of everyone vying to align themselves with someone no one has ever seen or even spoken to, to even confirm a voice much less, a gender. This forum is not secure. This forum does not verify its membership. Please insist on visual and voice verification when corresponding with members, for your own security.
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    TinyDancer your right .......I'm just saying even if she is real.....the next one might not. Or the other way around .....I just don't want the ladies falling into a trap. That's all. all it would take is one time the poster end up being the " Craigslist Killer ".....always take precautions ....No matter what the story.

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    Quote Originally Posted by vivianbear View Post
    You keep puting the word 'prove' in quotes, like it has some kind of alternate meaning. What's wrong with making her speak to you live to confirm she's even a woman? Look at all the foot work you're doing for this person! Do you have her number or does she have yours? Having yours does nothing but allow a stranger to contact you. Having hers at least means you can call and confirm that there is a voice on the other end! You're only making yourself feel better, here.

    People, you can help other people and still expect confirmation of their identities. I'm seeing way too many fakes, in this industry to just jump on this bandwagon. I've posted of this before and once again, here's another example of everyone vying to align themselves with someone no one has ever seen or even spoken to, to even confirm a voice much less, a gender. This forum is not secure. This forum does not verify its membership. Please insist on visual and voice verification when corresponding with members, for your own security.
    the fact is that is not how immediate crisis intervention works - even offline. usually it is anonymous. usually you cannot verify someone's identity and they have your phone number and you don't have theirs - they call you and you don't call them back, you set up a time for them to call you again and pray they do so you at least know they are still okay. even if you call the police for them - which i have done before - the police go to their house after you get off the phone and you probably never hear from them - or the police - again, so still you get no "proof," no "verification," no knowledge of the outcome. this being a message board doesn't change that - that's how it is in real life, too. hearing her voice would prove she was a woman, not whether or not she was a scammer. that's not the issue at hand here. the issue at hand here (for me, anyway) is to help as much as i can and give her whatever tools i can to help herself, which i have done, without compromising my own safety, which i have not. it's not my job to judge the legitimacy of her situation, especially when demanding "proof" of her identity via a phone conversation (which still doesn't prove shit about her identity, hence the quotation marks) could put her in danger if the only phone access she has he is controlling (which is what it seems like from what she has said).

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    Quote Originally Posted by tinydancer23 View Post
    the fact is that is not how immediate crisis intervention works - even offline. usually it is anonymous. usually you cannot verify someone's identity and they have your phone number and you don't have theirs - they call you and you don't call them back, you set up a time for them to call you again and pray they do so you at least know they are still okay. this being a message board doesn't change that - that's how it is in real life, too. hearing her voice would prove she was a woman, not a scammer. that's not the issue at hand here. the issue at hand here (for me, anyway) is to help as much as i can and give her whatever tools i can to help herself, which i have done, without compromising my own safety, which i have not. it's not my job to judge the legitimacy of her situation, especially when demanding "proof" of her identity via a phone conversation (which still doesn't prove shit about her identity, hence the quotation marks) could put her in danger if the only phone access she has he is controlling (which is what it seems like from what she has said).
    BTW .....have you read the posts about letting her come stay with them?
    or the one where she gives out her yahoo?
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    Everything that needs to be said has been said, but I just want to add to it in case people in similar situations find this thread in the future.

    The best thing you can do disappear. Just straight up disappear. No back-pedaling, no "but my situation is different" thinking, no "let's talk this out after you've calmed down" discussions. Just get the fuck out with no warning. And get How to Be Invisible by J.J. Luna. Follow just a fraction of that advice and you'll be impossible to find.

    Also: find a pro-bono attorney - most cities have free legal resources for abuse victims. They know how risky restraining orders are (they're really fucking risky) and can usually give you guidance in terms of creating a paper trail with the law in case he ever finds you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MzStar View Post
    BTW .....have you read the posts about letting her come stay with them?
    or the one where she gives out her yahoo?
    i've read every post on this thread multiple times. they are the ones who chose to do that - i would seriously seriously hope if she actually took them up on that, they would meet her in a public place first without just inviting her over to their house and they would verify her identity. i hope all of y'all have some goddamn common sense. what i am saying is that the people here just saying she needs to post from her old account to make them feel better or jump through some kind of hoops to prove she is not a scammer makes it about - making them feel better, not helping her. i'm not saying people should just open up their houses and compromise their safety without meeting her in public and knowing who she is first. that's why i said i gave her an anonymous phone number and email (my camming email which is disconnected from my real identity) with which to contact me - and not my home phone number. you know? but all this shit about "proving" who she is and jumping through these hoops which in reality do nothing to prove her identity, and folks accusing her of being a scammer or saying she should have posted under her old name or whatever - to me that is just completely immaterial to the situation.

    y'all give out your yahoo ids to pervs on the internet all the damn time. we're camgirls, lol! if you don't know how to make an anonymous yahoo id by now or know not to give the yahoo id that's connected to your real life facebook account by now we have WAY fucking bigger problems.

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    I dont know but this doesnt sound real anymore. She shared her story but she doesn't wanna do anything about it. Or maybe is somebody that wants to get our address or something like that. I don't trust this thread anymore, therefore Im out!
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    I agree with Sam38g! Honestly stuff is just stuff you can get it all again. In the morning 'after work' him your going out to get something for dinner, ask him what he wants, steak, potatoes whatever. Get your key's your credit card and leave. First thing (based on experience) go to the bank and get all your money out, close the account. Second, go to your parents or friends house and make some calls. Tell your true friends that your leaving for a while. Decide where you want to go and get you a small one bedroom apt. The rent will be cheap and you can start working again under an alias and get all the stuff back you had. Believe me, I was a child when my mother was going through the same situation and now as an adult I think to myself 'WTF was my mother thinking staying with this man'. You only live once don't live like this, there is a plan for you. Doing this will strengthen you individuality as well as your character. I believe you can and will succeed with this move. You have to!

    Best of luck, Muah!

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    TinyDancer .....if i was her and this is real ......I wouldn't Post from my real account either.....Anyone could read this and have ammo for later.....not just the people that registered but anyone that happened to read this in the future.
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