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    Default What goes on in the mind of an exotic dancer?

    Also, what are the do's and don'ts (I know that not a word lol) when it comes to stripper etiquette? I am new to the whole strip club environment and I am tryinhbto learn ways to have fun so it's not so damn awkward. I am generally a man that gets turned on by getting my woman turned on and then getting her off... And I feel that this is highly inappropriate in a club setting and that the girls would be mad if you try to do so. Furthermore, what is going through a womans mind when she is dancing on stage? Does she go after just the guy with money? Or does she single out the weak one? The few times I've been, it's seemed like they stayed away from the more attractive confident men. Also, what are some tips for a noob to help make a dancer more comfortable with you individually?

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    dude u want in on a women mind ? GOOD LUCK BRO

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    dude u want in on a women mind ? GOOD LUCK BRO
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cleats View Post
    Also, what are some tips for a noob to help make a dancer more comfortable with you individually?
    Be polite, don't waste her time. Can you hold a conversation? if so thats awesome. If not can you be straight to the point if you are going for a dance or not? please stick to the rules, even HER rules. Go to have a good time. Also how about if you're sitting by the stage you at least smile and make eye contact, recognize she's actually a human being, performing. And you could be appreciative by throwing down some $

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    Furthermore, what is going through a womans mind when she is dancing on stage? Does she go after just the guy with money? Or does she single out the weak one? The few times I've been, it's seemed like they stayed away from the more attractive confident men.
    Lots of things can be going thru a ladies mind when dancing, like, does this look good if I do this, or I'm goin to see if this move looks good. Oh yeah if a guy is tipping really great showing his appreciation and enjoying her performance, then YES most dancers will show him more attention because she's nice and is grateful. I have no idea what 'weak' ones mean? Maybe they stayed away from the attractive confident men, because they were intimidated, or they were douches...

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    I am generally a man that gets turned on by getting my woman turned on and then getting her off... And I feel that this is highly inappropriate in a club setting and that the girls would be mad if you try to do so.
    Um yes, if she's a professional it's highly inappropriate. It's called fantasy. She's there to entertain you. If you wanna get a women 'off' for your enjoyment, may I suggest a prostitute?

    Hope that helps! Have lots of fun!
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    Dude, it's not her "world" it's her job. It's not some sort of Pavlovian trance that dancers go into when they smell money, it's simply how they make a living.

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    Solid advice. Well except for the prostitution part. That's not legal where I'm from lol.

    By "the weak" I'm talking about the nerdy, computer geek looking guy who
    is in there by himself... It was just an observation.

    Eye contact is a good idea. I just feel like a damn pervert staring at a woman that I know nothing about... I did like the ones that played around and joked with us... And in return, they made a lot more money from us.

    And from my couple experiences so far, I find that having sexy women in the group with you is a major ice breaker on the comfort level of the ladies dancing

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    Default Re: What goes on in the mind of an exotic dancer?

    I like a better question, what goes thru a strippers mind when home ?

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    I treat everyone equally. You never know who has the cash. And honestly my mind is blank when I'm on stage or giving dances. I'm working. Tip me. Talk to me like a person, treat me respectfully and there's truly no reason for anything to be awkward if you understand the dynamic. I'm an entertainer, you're there to be entertained. Simple. And fun.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kelly_Lover View Post
    I like a better question, what goes thru a strippers mind when home ?
    They are women. I'm sure their thought processes are the same as any other woman when they are at home. Which I'm not really sure of but hey you get the gist of things.

    But ladies, please feel free to enlighten us

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    I was always nice and gave everyone the benefit of the doubt. Then if you were a jerk I didn't waste my time. Some dancers I knew avoided certain types of men (often overweight, unattractive and older, even som races)but in fact these types of guys in my experience often were more generous knowing this was their only experience for a pretty woman to pay attention.

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    Some dancers don't want to do lap dances at all. They will come off the stage and go sit at a table of their friends, or head straight for the dressing room. Trying to attract one of these with a concentrated stare will not work.

    Try this instead: When you see the dancer you like, go to the stage and tip her a lot. While she is dancing for you, ask if you can have a lap dance (called a private dance in some clubs) after she gets off stage. She may tell you that there are three guys on her list ahead of you; in that case you decide whether to wait or seek another dancer. If she says yes, then you tip her again and point out where you are sitting.

    Another method is to tip the waitress or the DJ to tell your chosen dancer that you want a private dance. Don't expect this to work if you don't tip.

    And, if you expect to "get off" from a lap dance, you will be disappointed. And, if you do get off, you will get no more dances there that night from any of the dancers. They talk back in that dressing room, you know.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cleats View Post
    And from my couple experiences so far, I find that having sexy women in the group with you is a major ice breaker on the comfort level of the ladies dancing

    I would definitely disagree, I find mixed groups tend to make the majority of dancers feel a bit uncomfortable, at my club only a couple of the dancers are likely to approach a group with female customers present because they often give off a bad vibe or seem to discourage the guys from spending.

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    ^ ITA. I hate it when groups of guys have even one girl with them. After much experience, it is hard to know who she's with and how she is going to react ( or them in her presence) to me coming up to the table. It's not worth my time unless there are no better prospects.

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    In no particular order...

    "when is the last time this guy took a bath?"

    "Enough with the chit chat. We've been talking for 20 minutes. Are you going to buy a dance or not!"

    "Touch me there again and you are getting the heel of my shoe in your nuts!"

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post

    "Milk
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    Ah ha ha!

    You forgot:

    "I've got to fart so bad. I wonder if the music will be loud enough to cover it, and if I should risk making a stink. hmmmm."

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    "only x more hours, and y more minutes until I can have a bath, my pj's, some late-night food, and a romance novel!"

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