follow-up to my last post in this forum.
which is here: (
http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=157581)
First of all, I want to disclaim that am a low-drama person. I do not make friends with drama queens, I do not gossip, and I largely live a quiet, peaceful, and often solitary life, and I am usually fairly happy with the way things go.
I'm seeking input from you guys because I don't deal with drama often.. and I feel like I can't exactly discuss with the friends and family who are in my life at the moment, and I really appreciate it every time I read everyone's feedback. So thanks a lot in advance.
Lillion ............ I stick with yesterdays answer ( Sorry ) , you are being far too Soft . Its like someone who walk the street with a gun and says " BUT Im booking in to rehab ... plus I need help ..come to me in my hour of need " etc etc ..Complete bullshit .
Theres possibly a " long bow " argument for the " Boyfriend " ..( although in my book , he was not a real boyfriend ..you need to talk to them ..all the time ) ..but you are wasting your time with him .
All these negative inputs just bring you down , distort your life , ruin your business , you dont need either of them . Please Dont fall for the two card trick ...PISS THEM BOTH RIGHT OUTTA your life !
Good Luck .
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I decided not to talk to that ex-best-friend anymore. Had a short phone conversation with her where we explained ourselves, and I admitted I was mistaken to say or think it was okay for her to fuck my boyfriend, but concluded with the fact that I didn't want to be friends with her for larger (and related) reasons, including:
1. she claims to always have been jealous of me, and
2. she deals with her problems by taking drugs or harassing other people.
I decided to at least try to see if things would work out with boyfriend, considering he had thought we were pretty broken up since we hadn't talked in a while. I really felt responsible for the distance between us, and he always treated me really well in the past.
Also, I already made plans a while ago, to visit him for August.
So... I see him in a week and a half. Feeling really crazy about it all. I keep swinging between extremes- "want to make things work" versus "want to break up!"
When we talked on the phone today, he said that my ex-friend texted him to say sorry, and that she was in a psych ward for six days.
She checked into a mental institution!
Okay, WHAT THE FUCK!
How fair is it for me to be angry and shut a person (that I used to really care about) out of my life if they were seriously in need of help? Part of me still feels angry and justified, and part of me feels guilty and sad that I wasn't "there for her," though I'm not even sure what that means.
The part of me that is floating ABOVE all this is telling me that I'm supposed to dump both of these people who breed negativity in my life, but I don't know how I get there, or if that's really the best thing to do. I kind of... miss them, or at least, the Good Old Times. They were both really, really close to me, before all this.
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