has anyone ever had anything scary happen while they were working? someone following you to your car or anything like that? With everything you read online and see on the news it makes me nervous.
has anyone ever had anything scary happen while they were working? someone following you to your car or anything like that? With everything you read online and see on the news it makes me nervous.



I've danced for 10 years. From all I've seen, certain dancers seem to attract the crazies more than others. If you are the type of woman who is assertive, doesn't deal with bullshit (in and out of the club), and knows how to keep a regular at a safe distance (no home addresses, last names, etc.) then you should be fine. There are always exceptions to the rule but for the most part, a lot of crazy customers give off red flags long before the stalking/drama starts. Learn to be aware of behavior that does not seem normal to you. You should not work at a club that doesn't provide security to your car. Know where your local police station is both near your club and near your home and if you are concerned about being followed go there.
Just be smart, keep your head, don't cater to bad behavior by customers or think it's cute when a regular begins to be overly concerned what you do with your life when you are not working. It's not cute, it's needy, and potentially dangerous.
Thanks Pipermonroe! Bring on the Men, I read your story and that is really scary I can't imagine what I would if I was ever in that situation





Sure. http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=136895. Should it keep you from doing the job? Nope. Stay alert and watch your back. Bad shit can happen anywhere. Don't use the possibility as an excuse.
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You definitely need to be aware at all times and have your wits about you in this type of job.
The worst thing that has ever happened was a guy grabbed me from behind when I was bent over during a lap dance. It was not a good experience but at the same time it really made me aware of trusting my instincts. Often you know who you can trust (to a certain extent) and who you should keep your distance from and never let out of your vision when giving a dance.
Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.

I've been followed before, been harassed by phone, defamed (he told my boss that I had AIDS, outed me as queer to everyone at the club, attempted to show up at my college, too, and he knew which one it was because he had FOLLOWED me there)... all by the same guy who would NOT stop until I threatened to seek an order of protection.
And that was all it took.
He's afraid to set foot in the club that he's been going to for longer than I have. It's amazing what you can accomplish just by threatening legal action... because at that point, they realize that they don't actually have any power over you.
And that's key - don't give them an INCH of power, because they will always try to take a mile.
As for physical violence, I haven't experienced it yet, except for the odd guy trying to block me into a room. I'm small and I take my shoes off before doing a dance so that I can run and/or stab if necessary, so I just slipped out from under his arm.
Stilettos are great weapons if they're in your hand, but not as much if they're on your feet.
As far as sexual violence... it's happened a lot. Someone will try to touch you inappropriately, do something that makes you feel uncomfortable, expose himself, or show you a photo you did NOT want to see just to creep you out (there's one guy that gets a kick out of this, it's disgusting). This is all, by definition, sexual violence. In these scenarios, DO NOT be afraid to stand up for yourself, because no one else will do it for you. These creeps are about control, so don't let them have that.
Just tonight, I had this conversation after a customer tried to touch my asshole on stage.
"If you ever put your finger near my asshole again, I'm going to break it off."
"Come again?"
"IF YOU LAY A FINGER ON ME I WILL FUCKING BREAK IT OFF!"
"Shhhh, calm down, it's okay..."
"NO, IT'S NOT FUCKING OKAY, AND DON'T CONDESCEND TO ME. You've been coming in here ALL THE TIME since BEFORE I started working here, HOW DO YOU STILL NOT FUCKING KNOW THE RULES? You're OLD but that's no excuse to be DUMB!"
Our bouncer just stood there the whole time and did nothing, because he's a fucking idiot. The DJ heard me screaming at this old dude, so I told her what happened. She told the bouncer the customer had to leave.
So, of course, the bouncer just stood there CHATTING with this guy as if nothing had happened.
Then the DJ came out and yelled at him, too. Our DJ is awesome. And our other bouncers are awesome too, but the guy that was there tonight is REALLY slow to act, so we basically just protect ourselves and then give him $4 at the end of the night regardless of the fact that he DID NOTHING.
Anyway, point is, always be in control of every situation you encounter. Bad things will happen no matter what job you do, but if you listen to your gut instincts and prepare, they won't have a chance to escalate.
Good read on this topic: "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker. This should be required reading for dancers.
Sorry for the coarse language in this post. It's been a rough night.
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