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    Sad Has this happend to you?

    I have a customer who I am also close who is dying. He has no family, no friends, lost his wife so he wants to give everything he has to me. He says, I provided him with care and comfort when no one else was around, basically he has no one else.

    I feel terrible and I've been crying.

    As adult entertainers, we are also therapist and we provide company for those who need it. We are all providing a service of hospitality and as some of you complain "we are part time therapist" and its true. Yes, they are paying us but sometimes it isnt all sbout the money. Since you guys interact with people all the time in this industry, has this happend to you?

    I am saddend.

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    This is really interesting, and I feel for you I really do. Obviously this has affected you. A similar thing happened to me with an old lady I used to visit years ago - so can I suggest a couple things that I had to consider at as well....?

    First off - it's HIS wish, so you really have no influence on what he does with his bequests. Secondly - even though you may not feel worthy of his gratitude, if you have made him happy, then who are you to decide what he does to say thank you..? In addition, if you do refuse him, then he may well be even more unhappy than if you had accepted the bequest.

    Ultimately - if you feel that his gifts should have been given to a different cause - then AFTER he is gone - you are free to do what you will with the inheritance, as it will then be yours.

    I had the same dilemma - and so when my old lady had passed on, I gave half the inheritance that I received, to an animal hospice. I felt a whole lot better about things after that.
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    Take what he wants to give you. I see no reason why not. At the risk of sounding cold, make sure he's legit before you give out any information you need to in becoming his beneficiary.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    Take what he wants to give you. I see no reason why not. At the risk of sounding cold, make sure he's legit before you give out any information you need to in becoming his beneficiary.

    doesnt sound cold, i agree with you. i have suspected that he was lying at first so he can grab my attention but he was hysterical when i got on the phone with him.

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    pussyinboots, thank you for that piece of advice, it got a lot of weight off my shoulders.

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    I dont think this is something you have to worry about until he is gone. Lots of things could happen, he could be broke, he could change his mind, he could be full of shit, his medical bills could eat up everything.......If you dont worry about it(ie start mentally spending the money you think you will get....or feeling guilty) you can just enjoy and help him enjoy the time he has left. Which is probably what he would want. Then after he is gone and you get what he left you...it will just be a nice gift from him.


    If he starts asking you questions that he would need to put you into a will.....ie name, address.....I would find a way to verify it. Maybe say that you would be happy to meet him at his lawyers office when he is putting together the will.

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    It is a sad situation, sorry that you have to go through it. If it brings him happiness in his last days, to make you the beneficiary of his estate, then accept it graciously. He obviously would not do this if he did not have sincere feelings for you, or felt you unworthy of such a gift.

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    I think you just need to explain your professional relationship to him, and if he still wants to give you his estate, I guess all you can do is take it.

    There is a guy that is in our club every night. He must be at least 80, he never buys dances but always tips every girl once. It always makes me a bit sad though, wondering what brings an 80 yr old man to come to a strip club for company every night...

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    ^I have a client like that who's wife died a few years back. He just likes being surrounded by beautiful women and having a bit of a "wild" time since he got married so young, and misses his wife.

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    There's a customer at my work (WW2 vet) who is dying of esophageal cancer. He was only diagnosed about two months ago, but I've known him for a year. He isn't offering to leave any money to any of us--but he's a nice old man. His wife died a while back, and he says his grandson tries to stop him from coming to the titty bar LOL. The way he said it to me was that he was enjoying the remainder of his life the way he wanted, and that he didn't care about money or material things anymore. He just wanted to have fun and feel wanted--whether real or imagined.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cocobooty View Post
    I think you just need to explain your professional relationship to him, and if he still wants to give you his estate, I guess all you can do is take it.

    There is a guy that is in our club every night. He must be at least 80, he never buys dances but always tips every girl once. It always makes me a bit sad though, wondering what brings an 80 yr old man to come to a strip club for company every night...
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    Possibly because most of his friends are dead and the dancers make him feel young and wanted.
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    My main reg is around 70. He lives with and takes care of his mom who just celebrated her 92nd b-day. Apparently, a neighbor of hers, who was at least 15 yrs. younger, wanted to take her on a date. She declined and said he was too old and probably couldn't keep his dick up anymore. This is true!

    This guy won't be going anytime soon: he texts like teenager, has a memory like a shark, goes to baseball/basketball games of his fave teams and has a huge family (not married anymore) that he loves and fights with. His sister makes me gifts for Christmas

    But, he has no gf, he likes younger women, but realizes that a relationship with woman under 40 would probably not work out. Hence, there is me.

    I will probably know him, even after I stop dancing. I don't know how I would feel if he started talking about wills and things like that, but he has grandchildren, children (adults now), nieces and nephews. I don't think the will thing is an issue. But if it was, I would be flattered, sad and I wouldn't want to think about it until he asked me to go see a lawyer with him.

    So, just wait and see what happens. Until then, enjoy what $$ he gives you.
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    ^^^ Hasn't the 55yo gal who hurls insults ever heard of Cialis or Viagra?

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    Hmmmm its good u want to help him and be there for him. However if he gives u his estate, u could face legal problems with his family. U never know what can happen I say keep it business only. Maybe that's cold but he came to the club to see naked women and companionship. Unless your his gf why go above and beyond?

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