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    So I recently met a guy on my site that decided that he really liked me and for like a week now, he has been taking me to private every single night and dropping $200 or $300 a night. Whatever the cut off limit for the site is. This whole time I've never done an XXX show for him. I've showed him my kitty like once and that's about as much action as he's gotten. No dirty talk even!
    One night the lag between our cams was REALLY bad so being a tard, I decided that I'd call him to keep him around but I blocked my number. The past 2 nights Ive tried to call again and for whatever reason, the call won't connect. So today he starting bothering me for my number hardcore and that just...isn't cool with me. So I never gave it to him.
    Then he starts going on about how he just thinks Im amazing and perfect and beautiful and how he needs to drive up here (yeah, he lives like 2 hours away) next week and he makes $10,000 a month (which I believe based on the house) and how we can do whatever I want, whenever I want, blah blah blah. And he just won't drop the meeting/cuddling part. =/
    Oh, did I mention that today he showed me his gun collection? He has like 100. And he took the cam with him when he went to the bathroom to pee...

    Basically, once upon a time, he sounded like a very sane man who was just lonely. He was cool to talk to. Not creepy. Didn't have to do a show. It was nice. But now he's pushing the cam girl/customer boundaries and I dont like it. Obviously, we're never meeting and I have told him that but he seems to think he can change my mind.

    My problem is I dont know what the hell to do! Should I continue to play his game and kinda drag this on and on? Or should I just tell him that we basically need to stop talking? I can see that cam 2 cam conversation being real fucking awkward.

    Suggestions anyone? =/

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    Default Re: When customers become...obsessed!

    All I can say is that I have lost all the whales who wanted to meet up...
    I did try to drag it out.. was fun for a while... they kept insisting to meet, I nicely blew them off and offered to chat next time about it... they are all gone now...

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    Default Re: When customers become...obsessed!

    If a customer just has a crush I say milk it for all it's worth but if the guy is pushy and overstepping just stop talking to him. You dont have to defend what you do or even explain it if you dont want to. You dont owe him anything and if he starts acting like you do at any point then he's just a douche

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    Wow same here !! First off The 10,000 a month I think is bullshit. Why only giving 200-300? Should be a few thousand.

    I had one guy do this with me since all of them do it the same. They take you private and just let you talk nothing sexual. I always know right away that these guys want to meet. They want to show that usually they are attractive and wealthy so they don't need the sexual aspect of things. Then they start hinting at "meeting". I would just laugh it off and leave it at that. If he continues to push then just keep telling him you would feel weird meeting someone from a cam site.

    I had several guys do this and some cam girl always ends up meeting them ( they sleep with them) done . They move on to the next one and never come back. Some girls think they can get more from them in person but since this guy hasn't gotten sexual in the cam shows , he feels he's been setting up a down payment for sex.

    When he realizes you will not meet him don't be surprised if you never see him again. These guys don't want a pro for when you think about the money they spend they can actually go to an escort and be done. They are looking for a one night gilfriend.

    I remember one guy used to take me private all of the time 300-500 later and we were still just talking. He kept pushing about meeting . He was super cute but he then slipped that he met some cool models. WHAT? lol I was like nope not the one! Some are not stupid enough to tell you they met other women , but if you see ratings next to their name showing their great history of paying then you're not the only one they propositioned. Some will meet them and some will not so they will "invest" to see if you will . Once it's obvious that you will not they will give less and less and eventually never cam with you again.

    I've never met anyone off a cam site but I get this alot. The first thing I think of is wow! A non sexual cam show with just chatting??? Hurray!! Then it hits me when they start bringing it up. Or don't be surprised that your last cam session with them is with them getting off really fast and then logging out. Even wealthy men can't stand rejection when they feel they've provided enough of a lure.

    I had a few guys try this and when they know their pushy tactic is kind pissing me off they do childish things like " cum fast " and then say Ohh i'm tired going to bed and log out . Then you see them in your connection a few moments later as if they need to see your facial expression or that you're going to just say ooh I need to sleep with you so much!! Let's meet I can't take it anymore!!!

    It has apparently worked for them in the past and that's why they keep doing it.

    I even have this on phone lines. Guys trying to meet tipping big tips that you would normally see on a camsite and then when the pushing to that annoying limits gets that FINAL NO. They don't tip as much or not at all and then start calling you to tell you they had sex last night or they had a gf all this time. I even had one guy put a woman on the phone to show me in some twisted way he doesn't need me because he got someone. The woman was either too dumb to realize this or he was paying her a great amount of money not to care. This last guy even tried to go down on the woman while we're on a paid call. LIke " see what you're missing out on" lol.

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    Default Re: When customers become...obsessed!

    Holy hell. See, there are some serious nut cases out there and I hate when I run into one. hah Doing down on a girl to try to...make you think you need him or some crazy bullshit? Men are nuts. Every night that I turn my cam on, I swear I lean a little more towards being a lesbian. hah

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    Just to add it's sad because you really think these guys are cool at first and then they get weird. Most of them have not been attractive actually. Only one guy , but I think he was married with kids since he always got online at a weird hour most likely before his wife and children woke up.

    Well enjoy the privates and the financial bump and do your best to try and make it fun. Sadly they just move on to the next "potential bend over mate". But It feels great when they do the super long privates

    I often wonder has anyone actually met a cam custie ? Anyone met one of these types before?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pike View Post
    Holy hell. See, there are some serious nut cases out there and I hate when I run into one. hah Doing down on a girl to try to...make you think you need him or some crazy bullshit? Men are nuts. Every night that I turn my cam on, I swear I lean a little more towards being a lesbian. hah
    HAHAH LOL people ask me how the hell am I still straight????

    Hope is a bitch!!! lol

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    Default Re: When customers become...obsessed!

    I had a cam custie that loved doing long privates. Then started to push meeting. As soon as I entertained the idea, he disappeared. They ALL have expiration dates.
    "Where there is love there is life"-Mahatma Gandhi

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    Default Re: When customers become...obsessed!

    I always get "I wish you weren't married". Like that would make a difference.lol

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    See if I threw my thoughts in everyone would get mad .....smh i have to hold my tongue......
    I feel like im in the French Revolution!!!!!! "Sooooo Many heads sooooo little time!!"


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    Quote Originally Posted by MzStar View Post
    See if I threw my thoughts in everyone would get mad .....smh i have to hold my tongue......
    if you do it nicely, we won't

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    These types are all over *shrugs* they're trying to pre-pay for pussy. My advice would be, milk him for as long as you feel safe, because they move on when they realize they're not getting any (or when they get some). You just need to know what's your limit - meaning - how much stress can you take from his pressure for the money he's paying you right now. But DO pull the plug immediatly if he does anything that'd truly put your safety at stake (like trying to find you based on any info he's got, etc.).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fridays View Post
    if you do it nicely, we won't
    lol but ....I'm the brutally honest type......I have to tell it like i see it.

    alot of people cant take it .....But it really is the way things are.
    I feel like im in the French Revolution!!!!!! "Sooooo Many heads sooooo little time!!"


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    Ah screw it i gotta say it !!!
    okay being a cam girl is in the adult business
    same as stripping ,escorting ,porn ,prostitution...yea i said it

    when camming your selling the "idea" of sex not the reality
    if you decide to escort aka Date these guys why are you taking camgirl money ????

    if you decide to prostitute with these guys ......you get the point.
    IF your gonna do it then get the higher dollar for the more dangerous job.

    Now with that said .....didnt you become a cam girl and not the others because it was "safe"
    from STD's ,rape ,robbery ,stalking ,personal contact?

    once you cross that line its almost impossible to go back.......
    THINK about this everytime someguy wants to "meet".

    BTW stop talking as if these guys are normal......each one is different but they have something wrong to be paying for it ..... and the better looking they are .....the more dangerous the secret!!!
    I feel like im in the French Revolution!!!!!! "Sooooo Many heads sooooo little time!!"


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    Default Re: When customers become...obsessed!

    Dunno why you were afraid of saying that MzStar - it's pretty spot on... had the exact same convo with hubs a few days ago. Not that I was thinking of whoring it out, I was just face-palming at how much (how LITTLE really) guys were offering me to do a real meet-up.

    Got me all thinky-thoughty. Why are these guys so annoying? I mean, there's no lack of prostitutes in their area for sure... so I guess they want to feel like they got something less "worn" (putting it in "" cause that's BS)? Guys like that are creepy and suspicious as hell, wouldn't touch them with a 10ft pole, really wonder why girls would fall for the pre-paid pussy trick.

    All I know is "just talk" guys are hit and miss. Sometimes they're sweet lonely, most times they're just trying to get more than they're entitled to with cam-rates. Cam rates are cam rates, they get what they pay for even if we don't strip. Doesn't earn them anything else. Learned that my first day camming.

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    Oh man. before being paid for camming, when i was younger i used to cam/chat on phone and msn with guys for fun and i got loads of weirdos like that.

    if they were being pushy and i wanted rid of them.
    i used to go overboard and become some obsessed freak that messaged him 500 times an hour and if he took more than 2 seconds to reply id ask why hes ignoring me. id tell him i was falling in love with him and i wanted to get married and show him £5000 wedding dress i wanted.
    then i would ring his phone at stupid hours and when they said their gf/wife was around id call and text even more.

    then id tell him about my past mental heath problems and begged him to still like me. then i would go on about being depressed and wanting to die and tell him everytime we spoke how much booze id drank that day.

    within two weeks they usually break it to me nicely that it's best if we dont talk no more. haha

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    What Fridays said..

    The guys who are serious about meeting will spend a lot of money. When they realize that you really wont meet them (and why should you) they will leave you completely alone.

    I understand the guys wanting to meet, but I think it is unfair to put us in that predicament. Some men are just delusional in the sense that they think we are here to meet and hook up.

    And he showed you his gun collection? o_O Most likely you will lose him as a customer, because in his mind, you have both made a connection, and the fact that you will not meet him will probably disappoint an piss him off.

    I can only speak for myself, but I would just leave him alone. From experience, I know that if you try to reason with the fact that you are just a cam girl and only do cam shows, he will not get it. He thinks you are online doing this because you love men so much, that you are willing to meet the right one. He thinks he is the one who can fulfill all your needs and be YOUR man, if given the chance.

    He will be hurt when he finds out that you don't feel the same way. It sucks because it is not like you are trying to hurt anyone feelings. You are just trying to make money doing cam shows. Some guys do not realize this.

    Why they come to our cam sites, looking for love, is a mystery to me. Why not go to matchmaker.com, friendfinder, yahoo personals or something? So annoying that some put us in this awkward position.
    Taking a break from all unproductive shit will prove to be the best choice you can make.

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    "The better looking they are .....the more dangerous the secret!!!"

    I love that line MzStar, it is so true.

    I sometimes actually get all shy when I see a good looking guy on c2c because I think "wow this looks like someone Id like to date!" and the stereotype of guys who watch us ladies who cam are like odd looking older men. lol

    But Pike, that guy does sound a bit scary. I would say prolong it out and tell him again you would like to carry on your "relationship"? on cam but not in real life. If he does not listen then tell him you don't feel comfortable with him always asking to meet up and you will have to stop talking to him.

    Him showing you his gun collection sounds VERY scary, that would of FREAKED me out soooo much. Why would he think you would want to meet him after showing you that?!

    Good luck with it hun, but don't get blinded by all the money he is spending on you because that won't last forever your safety is way more important. xx
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    Quote Originally Posted by MzStar View Post
    Ah screw it i gotta say it !!!
    okay being a cam girl is in the adult business
    same as stripping ,escorting ,porn ,prostitution...yea i said it

    when camming your selling the "idea" of sex not the reality
    if you decide to escort aka Date these guys why are you taking camgirl money ????

    if you decide to prostitute with these guys ......you get the point.
    IF your gonna do it then get the higher dollar for the more dangerous job.

    Now with that said .....didnt you become a cam girl and not the others because it was "safe"
    from STD's ,rape ,robbery ,stalking ,personal contact?

    once you cross that line its almost impossible to go back.......
    THINK about this everytime someguy wants to "meet".

    BTW stop talking as if these guys are normal......each one is different but they have something wrong to be paying for it ..... and the better looking they are .....the more dangerous the secret!!!
    Yeah, I did become a cam girl because it was safe and basically pretty easy money, compared to other jobs that I've had at least. But like I said in my post, I will NOT be meeting him and I've made that rather clear to him; he just seems to think he can change my mind.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TeenageAnnie View Post
    Oh man. before being paid for camming, when i was younger i used to cam/chat on phone and msn with guys for fun and i got loads of weirdos like that.

    if they were being pushy and i wanted rid of them.
    i used to go overboard and become some obsessed freak that messaged him 500 times an hour and if he took more than 2 seconds to reply id ask why hes ignoring me. id tell him i was falling in love with him and i wanted to get married and show him £5000 wedding dress i wanted.
    then i would ring his phone at stupid hours and when they said their gf/wife was around id call and text even more.

    then id tell him about my past mental heath problems and begged him to still like me. then i would go on about being depressed and wanting to die and tell him everytime we spoke how much booze id drank that day.

    within two weeks they usually break it to me nicely that it's best if we dont talk no more. haha
    That is absolutely hilarious and brilliant! haha I'm surprised anyone ever stayed around for 2 weeks once that started. I need to try this route sometime. haha

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    Oh I read that and understood you knew ....what your decision was already.....
    Dont mind me .
    When I post I try to post thinking everybody is reading this....
    Us, new girls, Custies ......
    I feel like im in the French Revolution!!!!!! "Sooooo Many heads sooooo little time!!"


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    hahaha if they were cool they wouldnt be on a camsite remember that

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    I was going to post a thread like this myself. I've only been camming for a little over a month but I have two men who are absolutely in love with me. I am not sure how I will be able to get rid of them... they both want to meet me of course and I have lead them on to believe that one day we will. I will NEVER ever meet either of them and I know that they are going to get more pushy the longer time passes without meeting me. I am milking them for everything I can get for the time being though

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