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    Sad Abortion Dilemma

    I hope I don't offend anyone with this post. I feel like it might be a little to real for SW. Idk

    So after three years of unprotected sex with my bf I now find myself late. I figured the risk was somehow reduced mainly because he never cum. I know about the whole pre cum deal. But it was three years of doing this. Then this happens I'm not a 16 year old but I feel unprepared. My bf on the other hand obviously wants me to get an abortion. If I'm determined to be pregnant.


    He also mentions how our roommate his best friend had two abortions. To which I replied "yep and she never looked back". (The girl only cares about partying and drugs) I just hope I'm not preggo.

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    What's your question exactly?

    That's a really big decision but i know if I found out I was pregnant today I would definitely get an abortion. If you don't feel prepared and you don't have someone supporting you ("My bf on the other hand obviously wants me to get an abortion") then I would say an abortion is the best decision.

    I have a friend who had an abortion two years ago and she told me it was a really scary process..be prepared to be given a guilt trip beforehand and waking up in a room with other girls who are in the same position..

    Good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by 22lligm View Post
    What's your question exactly?

    That's a really big decision but i know if I found out I was pregnant today I would definitely get an abortion. If you don't feel prepared and you don't have someone supporting you ("My bf on the other hand obviously wants me to get an abortion") then I would say an abortion is the best decision.

    I have a friend who had an abortion two years ago and she told me it was a really scary process..be prepared to be given a guilt trip beforehand and waking up in a room with other girls who are in the same position..

    Good luck!
    Thanx I guess I just wanted to know people thoughts/experience on the subject.

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    This is a pretty personal decision.....if I wasn't prepared for a kid I would get an abortion too. Sorry you're going through this. Please use this as a learning opportunity. There is always a risk with unprotected sex. Good luck whatever you decide.
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    I had an abortion and it wasn't really scary or upsetting. If I had a kid when I was pregnant back then my life would have been fucked. I have a hard enough time with my pets.

    this is a very personal decision and I hope for the best for you.

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    I think you are jumping the gun here and potentially worrying unnecessarily. Take a pregnancy test...find out if you are indeed pregnant before you start torturing yourself with all the possible scenarios. There are a million things that can throw off your cycle besides being pregnant Keep us posted, sweetie.

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    I've had two abortions and they both were a breeze. But I agree with the advice above: take a test! Stressing out is going to make your cycle continue to be late.

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    How old r u? U say ur "not 16". So I'm wondering, r u in college? Finished college? Have ur own place? Jus curious.

    IMHO any bf who is there for as long as 3yrs presuring u to get an abortion is scum. It's ur body, ur choice. Personally I wouldn't do it. I'm very pro life. The baby develops body systems at a rapid rate...it's not just a "ball of cells" at say, 8 wks. Jus becuz u didn't plan for a baby doesn't necessarily mean u don't have the means or capability to make it work. And I like how u disagree with ur bfs roommates irresponsible party-hard, "breezy abortion"'view...IMHO she sounds immature and irresponsible as fuck and not a very good person (lemme guess...does she break the law on occasion too, e.g. To get hard party drugs? Seems like the type who'd do that).

    Overall listen to urself and ur own needs above what some bf or party-harty roomate thinks If it were me tho I would choose life (assuming ur actualy pregnant that is)

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    its a very personal decision but whatever you do take in consideration what your bf says., You cant force someone to be a parent when they are not ready, but he also cant make you have an abortion. figure out how far along you are and see how much time you have to think about it; Its a big decision and whatever you choose will change your life. Think about your lifestyle, are you ready to give it up? do you live in a house or good apartment and have enough space for a baby...what about money??
    Think about what is best for you, your bf, and your baby

    I had an abortion in March of last year. It was a decision that my bf and i took together. Personally it was a bad experience, i fell into depression. But now that i see my life now, my bf and i are going back to school, we have a good life, our relationship is stronger. It was the best decision we made for us and for our baby, because the life we had back then we wouldnt have been able to provide the best life for our baby.

    Think about what is best for all 3 of you. and if ever you need to talk ill be happy to listen.

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    I agree with taking a pregnancy test first. Don't worry until you know for sure. Also, stop having unprotected sex. Go on the pill or use condoms - if you do it long enough, your chances of being pregnant, yeah, are pretty high. If you truly don't want to have a child, why would you risk it?

    Whatever your bf says, do what you want to do. If you want to have the baby, do it. I agree that after 3 years together, he should be able to man up and support you in whatever you want to do. But if you really don't want a child right now, abortion might be the best option. I'm sure you would make a great mother if you went through with it, but that doesn't necessarily mean you should go through with it. I have a friend who's pregnant now - if I was her, I personally would've aborted it. Only 20 years old, only been with the bf 2 months before getting pregnant... but she really wants a lot of kids, so keeping the baby is probably a good decision for her. For me, I would be freaking out and miserable because I don't even know if I want kids. It really depends on what you want out of life.

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    OMG, please get on birth control. I'm completely pro-choice but seriously?! Really? Its the 21st century. Wanna fuck on the raw? Get on the pill or better yet, get an IUD. No pill to worry about or confuse or forget. No lame condoms. Please educate yourself about birth control and use it. That's what its there for.

    Oh yeah and +1 for an abortion. Just do it. You don't want to have a kid with this person; he sounds like an insensitve asshole. Yes, they're awful and hard to follow through with and they can hurt (mine did) but as soon as its over, you get on semi-permanent birth control and it will likely never happen again.
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    Having a child is a life-long commitment. It is also a major and extremely serious responsibility. Ask yourself these questions:

    1) Am I able to support and give a child everything it needs and deserves? Financially and emotionally? In other words can I provide a secure roof over his/her head, clothes, food, education, health care, healthy consistent discipline, a good role model, a stable happy loving home-environment, a future? The older they get, the more difficult and expensive it gets! See: http://www.babycenter.com/cost-of-ra...ild-calculator

    2) Am I truly emotionally mature enough to be a parent? Raising a child does not mean parking your kid in front of the TV 24/7, spoiling your kid out of laziness and a lack of self-discipline, or having Gran'ma or the sitter raise and teach your kid because you realized too late that you're not ready for raising a kid, because you're just still really a "kid" yourself and haven't accomplished the goals you set out for yourself, or are not quite ready to give up the "party" lifestyle yet. You said you're not 16 - that's good - but I know many 20-somethings that are not ready for parenthood yet either. It is rough - especially if you're still young and have dreams and ambitions. A kid, when you're ill-prepared for it, is an anchor - a heavy one.

    3) Am I ready to give up my freedom to go and do as I please, whenever I please? Believe me - the word "freedom to do what you want" flies out the window, permanently, for many years. Also, a lot of single men don't want to get seriously involved with single moms (too much baggage) - it's mostly wham-bam-thank-you mam. You may end up quite lonely, or go through a string of unhappy relationships - you have no IDEA. Your sex life is also hugely impacted, i.e. from hero to zero! Your "babydaddy" probably won't stick around - since he's encouraging you to have an abortion. Getting married for the sake of an accidental pregnancy is a BIG mistake.

    3) Do I really want to raise a kid by myself? It may seem romantic or whatever to imagine having a child, but reality bites - raising a child is NOT easy, especially as a single parent. I know because I had to do it for a good long while until I found my husband - a truly good man when I was 29. Raising children takes commitment, selflessness maturity, responsibility and financial security. A kid is not a cute puppy or kitten you can give away when you get tired of it, or ignore because it's a chore and you don't "feel like it". You're responsible for the welfare of another HUMAN BEING. That is not a light matter. People care more for their pets than their children in this day and age. Disgusting. Do you think it's fair to do to a child, if you're not properly equipped to be a TRUE parent? Think on your own life ... put yourself in your future child's shoes.

    If you can't answer these questions with any conviction or confidence you're probably not ready to be a parent yet. Better to wait until you meet a man you WANT to have a baby with, and plan for it, than have an accidental pregnancy that is going to 360 your life in a way you couldn't even begin to imagine - in ALL ways! It's not all roses and sunshine honey, sorry to tell you that. Most people should not have children - that's the truth.
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    Quote Originally Posted by vivianbear View Post
    OMG, please get on birth control. I'm completely pro-choice but seriously?! Really? Its the 21st century. Wanna fuck on the raw? Get on the pill or better yet, get an IUD. No pill to worry about or confuse or forget. No lame condoms. Please educate yourself about birth control and use it. That's what its there for.

    Oh yeah and +1 for an abortion. Just do it. You don't want to have a kid with this person; he sounds like an insensitve asshole. Yes, they're awful and hard to follow through with and they can hurt (mine did) but as soon as its over, you get on semi-permanent birth control and it will likely never happen again.
    -1 for this post; iF there was a "dislike" or "no thanks" button for this post, I'd totally hit it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kthnx View Post
    -1 for this post; iF there was a "dislike" or "no thanks" button for this post, I'd totally hit it.
    Which part? The birth control part or the abortion part? I know you're pro-life but still, people who don't want to get pregnant need to learn to rely on birth control. That's what its there for. You can not like abortion all you want but it is a legal, feasible option. As is adoption. Just because you have a kid, doesn't mean you have to keep it. But the fact remains, if you don't want to have to make either of those excruciating decisions, you need to take control of your own body and prevent pregnancy from happening, in the first place.

    We live in a time where given the right circumstances, birth control options are cheap or even FREE. Tell me why people (young women, especially) still insist on acting like they know nothing about pregnancy prevention? If you know how babies are made and you're old enough to make them, you know damn well how to prevent that scenario from even happening. Any excuse is a cop-out.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kthnx View Post
    How old r u? U say ur "not 16". So I'm wondering, r u in college? Finished college? Have ur own place? Jus curious.

    IMHO any bf who is there for as long as 3yrs presuring u to get an abortion is scum. It's ur body, ur choice. Personally I wouldn't do it. I'm very pro life. The baby develops body systems at a rapid rate...it's not just a "ball of cells" at say, 8 wks. Jus becuz u didn't plan for a baby doesn't necessarily mean u don't have the means or capability to make it work. And I like how u disagree with ur bfs roommates irresponsible party-hard, "breezy abortion"'view...IMHO she sounds immature and irresponsible as fuck and not a very good person (lemme guess...does she break the law on occasion too, e.g. To get hard party drugs? Seems like the type who'd do that).

    Overall listen to urself and ur own needs above what some bf or party-harty roomate thinks If it were me tho I would choose life (assuming ur actualy pregnant that is)
    Were you trying to insult the many members of SW who have had abortions? Because this post was completely unacceptable. You can state your opinion without being overly judgmental, especially because you have never been in this sort of situation.

    OP, your bf wants you to get an abortion because he knows you two are not ready to have a child. He is not scum, he is thinking about your future very seriously and giving you his rational opinion.

    Don't listen to a thing kthanx says, having an abortion doesn't make you a bad person or a criminal. Many women have abortions without regrets, and have continued to lead healthy and happy lives. A lot of those women eventually have a child when they know they are ready for one. You will know when you are ready for a child. If you hope you are not pregnant, then you definitely are not ready. That's okay. Listen to what your brain and your heart are telling you-wait. It may be hard but you will appreciate your family so much more when you finally decide to procreate.

    Kthanx, your post was disgusting. You are on a sex worker positive, pro-woman support site. I am still in utter disbelief that even on this site I see this kind of garbage.

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    ^ I was on depo for eight years and liked it well enough but have been off birth control for 2-3 years. I'm looking to get on a birth control but the thing is--

    birth control fucks with your hormones. An IUD can cause bleeding for like six months. You have to play around with the pills sometimes to find one that's not going to cause you to gain weight/lose hair/get depressed/be a zombie.

    I get what you're saying but shoot-- three years, having sex in a monogamous (I assume) relationship with a guy who doesn't come...it's not like she's out banging guys at the bar raw dog.

    I don't think it's a cop-out to not want to go through the potential backlash of screwing with the hormones.

    Now that doesn't mean that I personally won't go on birth control again eventually, because I want to, but I'd rather be sterilized-- so I just have to look into all the options and see what I can do.

    but it's not as simple as "oh, just get an IUD or some pills" and then everything's hunky-dory afterward because a lot of women have some pretty fucked up reactions to many birth control options.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BringOnTheMen View Post
    Kthanx, your post was disgusting. You are on a sex worker positive, pro-woman support site. I am still in utter disbelief that even on this site I see this kind of garbage.

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    I couldn't agree more. Honestly though, consider the source. Anyone who can barely form a full, well-written sentence is hardly a great consultant on conservative family planning. I'd take offense to her pigeon-holing others but I think I know how obviously different our logic is and how much I've benefited from an open mind and more critical thinking, than she.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kthnx View Post
    -1 for this post; iF there was a "dislike" or "no thanks" button for this post, I'd totally hit it.
    I disagree with you (which is fine). I know a lot of women who went through with their pregnancies and are at different stages of motherhood. More than one of them wish that she had made different choices when she was pregnant and gotten an abortion. Not that they don't love their children with all their hearts but after you have a child it hits you that what you thought and what is reality are two very different things. While adoption is an option, many of them are hesitant about putting a child into "the system" since they either were or have known people who went through it and it isn't always nice stories about nice families raising foster kids....

    I'm assuming that your post was in regards to the abortion part and not the birth control part but if it wasn't:

    birth control is probably one of the most important things that has happened in the history of. um. everything for women. It has given us freedom to do whatever we want and not be in situations where we either have to abort or go through with unwanted pregnancies. Imagine a world where you could only be 100% sure you would not end up pregnant if you didn't have sex. And weren't raped. Sounds shitty, right? Even though it isn't perfect, we should take advantage of the fact that we have something that our mothers and their mothers and our ancestors didn't have. Reproductive rights.

    Further, as someone who is pro-choice you should WANT women to be on birth control so more unwanted pregnancies don't occur and more children don't end up in an already flooded and highly flawed foster system.

    I personally don't understand "pro-life" people and their beliefs but I respect them enough to not start flame wars or whatever over morals and personal beliefs. Just keep in mind, OP, that your life and your boyfriends life aren't the only ones impacted by whatever you choose. Even though I think that it is a very complicated and personal decision, I do believe that abortion is the answer in this situation.

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    The part that I found DISGUSTING was the rather demanding, pressuring way she wrote: "+1 for getting an abortion. Just do it." and yes I'm against the abortion part, not the birth control part. I've seen a lotta so-called "pro choice" people make others feel that the only "sensible" choice is to get an abortion. As to the chick who said I've never been in that situation, I wrote once before and I'll mention it again, what got me so pro life and so baby-obsessed prior to my son, was when I got pregnant unexpectantly. Yea it was unplanned and I wasn't in a serious relationship withthe guy nor knew him really long, but I was determined to CHOOSE LIFE and take responsibility. A lotta my stupid liberal pro choice "friends" acted pushy about abortion. I ended up miscarrying from all that stress. After that I became obsessive bout wanting to get pregnant again. And that (along with a few other things) showed me these friends' true colors. I don't speak to ANY of them but 1, and even with that friend, we had a lotta rifts about the pregnancy issue for YEARS afterward to the point that many times BOTH of us questioned why I bothered staying friends with him if I was so agitate by him. I was in that situation, I just reacted to it differently than getting an abortion.

    And, I read the thred on this site about a past member named Gypsy and how everyone made her feel like she had no sense unless she got an abortion and I think THAT'S disgusting.

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    I don't want to get into any kind of discussion about why it is good to be pro-choice or pro-life or your experiences and how they affected you either way. What I will say though is that while you seem to think it's so pressuring and disgusting that she say "+1 for abortion" you are, in the same post, saying that choosing to have an abortion is "irresponsible" and is essentially "choosing death".

    what works for you isn't necessarily what is going to work for anyone else. We don't know this girl's age, her economic situation, whether her boyfriend is abusive, whether she will have a place to go if he kicks her out after she says no to an abortion... we know nothing about her situation but you know plenty about yours. As well, none of us are pressuring her to do anything.

    keep in mind also that for many women it is simply the better choice and while I often hold my tongue about it, I DO think that some women are stupid for continuing pregnancies instead of aborting. It's depressing that society doesn't support all women who want to have children but it is a sad fact of life and I really do wish that abortion was more "accepted" so women wouldn't feel like making the right choice (for them) was actually the wrong one.

    edit: this is all I am going to say on the subject since it is obviously not going to go anywhere productive.
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    Okay - this thread is getting way off topic. This is NOT an abortion debate. Ultimately, Rileiy will have to figure out what is best for her. Share your experiences, offer your support, give her things to consider. But DO NOT turn this into an abortion debate.

    Quote Originally Posted by kthnx View Post
    How old r u? U say ur "not 16". So I'm wondering, r u in college? Finished college? Have ur own place? Jus curious.

    IMHO any bf who is there for as long as 3yrs presuring u to get an abortion is scum. It's ur body, ur choice. Personally I wouldn't do it. I'm very pro life. The baby develops body systems at a rapid rate...it's not just a "ball of cells" at say, 8 wks. Jus becuz u didn't plan for a baby doesn't necessarily mean u don't have the means or capability to make it work. And I like how u disagree with ur bfs roommates irresponsible party-hard, "breezy abortion"'view...IMHO she sounds immature and irresponsible as fuck and not a very good person (lemme guess...does she break the law on occasion too, e.g. To get hard party drugs? Seems like the type who'd do that).

    Overall listen to urself and ur own needs above what some bf or party-harty roomate thinks If it were me tho I would choose life (assuming ur actualy pregnant that is)
    I don't see a problem with this post. kthnx clearly said if it were her, she'd have the baby. She didn't say "YOU SHOULD have the baby" or insinuate the OP would be a bad person if she chooses an abortion. Of course it's not accurate to make a generalization about women who have abortions (as irresponsible or bad people), but I don't see her doing that. Read what I made bold.

    Quote Originally Posted by vivianbear View Post
    OMG, please get on birth control. I'm completely pro-choice but seriously?! Really? Its the 21st century. Wanna fuck on the raw? Get on the pill or better yet, get an IUD. No pill to worry about or confuse or forget. No lame condoms. Please educate yourself about birth control and use it. That's what its there for.

    Oh yeah and +1 for an abortion. Just do it. You don't want to have a kid with this person; he sounds like an insensitve asshole. Yes, they're awful and hard to follow through with and they can hurt (mine did) but as soon as its over, you get on semi-permanent birth control and it will likely never happen again.
    I'm pretty sure the OP knows about birth control. It isn't necessary to patronize her. Personally, I don't take hormonal birth control because I hate the way it makes me feel, and I'm scared of synthetic hormones. When I'm in a committed relationship, I'll have sex sans condoms and use the pullout method. I know it's risky, but that's why I don't do it often. She has been with the guy for three years. She's scared about possibly being pregnant, and you're going to chastise her for having unprotected sex? Come on, now.

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    Were you trying to insult the many members of SW who have had abortions? Because this post was completely unacceptable. You can state your opinion without being overly judgmental, especially because you have never been in this sort of situation.

    OP, your bf wants you to get an abortion because he knows you two are not ready to have a child. He is not scum, he is thinking about your future very seriously and giving you his rational opinion.

    Don't listen to a thing kthanx says, having an abortion doesn't make you a bad person or a criminal. Many women have abortions without regrets, and have continued to lead healthy and happy lives. A lot of those women eventually have a child when they know they are ready for one. You will know when you are ready for a child. If you hope you are not pregnant, then you definitely are not ready. That's okay. Listen to what your brain and your heart are telling you-wait. It may be hard but you will appreciate your family so much more when you finally decide to procreate.

    Kthanx, your post was disgusting. You are on a sex worker positive, pro-woman support site. I am still in utter disbelief that even on this site I see this kind of garbage.

    ETA: remember ladies, if you see insulting, degrading posts on SW report them so the posters are banned and less members are subject to their harassment.
    As I already said, I don't think kthx was being judgmental. She admitted she was pro-life. So what? Calling her post "garbage" isn't necessary or accurate. How is her responding, "if it were me, I'd keep the baby" any different from the other posters who responded "if it were me, I'd have an abortion"? And she specifically said, "ur body ur choice."

    Quote Originally Posted by FiendishGyrator View Post
    ^ I was on depo for eight years and liked it well enough but have been off birth control for 2-3 years. I'm looking to get on a birth control but the thing is--

    birth control fucks with your hormones. An IUD can cause bleeding for like six months. You have to play around with the pills sometimes to find one that's not going to cause you to gain weight/lose hair/get depressed/be a zombie.

    I get what you're saying but shoot-- three years, having sex in a monogamous (I assume) relationship with a guy who doesn't come...it's not like she's out banging guys at the bar raw dog.

    I don't think it's a cop-out to not want to go through the potential backlash of screwing with the hormones.

    Now that doesn't mean that I personally won't go on birth control again eventually, because I want to, but I'd rather be sterilized-- so I just have to look into all the options and see what I can do.

    but it's not as simple as "oh, just get an IUD or some pills" and then everything's hunky-dory afterward because a lot of women have some pretty fucked up reactions to many birth control options.
    Thank you. I think this is a great point.

    Quote Originally Posted by vivianbear View Post
    I couldn't agree more. Honestly though, consider the source. Anyone who can barely form a full, well-written sentence is hardly a great consultant on conservative family planning. I'd take offense to her pigeon-holing others but I think I know how obviously different our logic is and how much I've benefited from an open mind and more critical thinking, than she.
    Okay, this is unacceptable. This will not turn into a flame war. There are ways to politely disagree with someone. If you want to counter what a poster says, explain it - don't pull a juvenile attack.

    Keep the thread on topic. I won't tolerate the flaming. I've left the posts unedited, but if it continues, I will give out infractions and close it. Stripperweb is a community of support -let's not forget that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tampadancer View Post
    I don't see a problem with this post. kthnx clearly said if it were her, she'd have the baby. She didn't say "YOU SHOULD have the baby" or insinuate the OP would be a bad person if she chooses an abortion. Of course it's not accurate to make a generalization about women who have abortions (as irresponsible or bad people), but I don't see her doing that. Read what I made bold.
    If saying "she sounds immature and irresponsible as fuck and not a very good person" is not insinuating that she thinks she would be a bad person, can you please provide an example of what you think would? Because I am completely insulted by this and I'm sure other girls here are too.

    Quote Originally Posted by tampadancer View Post
    As I already said, I don't think kthx was being judgmental. She admitted she was pro-life. So what? Calling her post "garbage" isn't necessary or accurate. How is her responding, "if it were me, I'd keep the baby" any different from the other posters who responded "if it were me, I'd have an abortion"? And she specifically said, "ur body ur choice."
    You took the two nice things she said and completely ignored everything else. Just because she stated she was pro-life doesn't give her a get out of jail free card for everything that follows it. She said the girl that got the abortion was irresponsible, immature, "the type" that would break the law to get drugs, and that her boyfriend was scum. That is garbage.

    I don't want this to turn into an abortion fight either, which is why I felt it necessary to report kthnx's mean post and remind girls that they do not have to accept something like that as a valid opinion. It is one thing to state your opinion with your experience, it is another thing to write inflammatory things about the opposite side. And I have to say, it is very disappointing to see a mod defend a post like this. SW is supposed to be a safe haven from bullies like this. I had no idea that this type of hate is now tolerated.
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    BOTM, the OP said that the girl only cares about partying and drugs. That's it. I'd have to agree that someone who only cares about partying and drugs is immature and irresponsible. Essentially, that is what you are offended about. Kthnx did not link drug users/partiers to abortions. You are misunderstanding her post.

    Quote Originally Posted by Rileiy View Post
    He also mentions how our roommate his best friend had two abortions. To which I replied "yep and she never looked back". (The girl only cares about partying and drugs) I just hope I'm not preggo.
    And you are correct - SW should be a safe haven... and a place where people can express their thoughts without getting flamed. This thread is going nowhere good fast. Time to close

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    Quote Originally Posted by kthnx View Post
    How old r u? U say ur "not 16". So I'm wondering, r u in college? Finished college? Have ur own place? Jus curious.

    IMHO any bf who is there for as long as 3yrs presuring u to get an abortion is scum. It's ur body, ur choice. Personally I wouldn't do it. I'm very pro life. The baby develops body systems at a rapid rate...it's not just a "ball of cells" at say, 8 wks. Jus becuz u didn't plan for a baby doesn't necessarily mean u don't have the means or capability to make it work. And I like how u disagree with ur bfs roommates irresponsible party-hard, "breezy abortion"'view...IMHO she sounds immature and irresponsible as fuck and not a very good person (lemme guess...does she break the law on occasion too, e.g. To get hard party drugs? Seems like the type who'd do that).

    Overall listen to urself and ur own needs above what some bf or party-harty roomate thinks If it were me tho I would choose life (assuming ur actualy pregnant that is)
    So...they're a 'type' for women who feel justified in getting abortions?

    I thought it was "Ur body, ur choice"? Why are we being judged and stereotyped if it's our bodies and our decisions?

    This stings. You can be pro-life without hurting people who have chosen to abort.

    To the OP: I have nothing to add that hasn't been said. It's a hard decision. Find out if you're pregnant first, and take things from there. Sending you much love and hugs!



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